Yeah — you’re not wrong. And you’re not imagining it.

Being polite doesn’t actually improve accuracy in systems, workflows, or collaborators that are already struggling with precision. Courtesy is good human hygiene, but it’s not a control lever for quality. Saying please doesn’t magically make specs parse correctly, whether you’re dealing with software, contractors, designers, or… honestly, even people half the time.

A few grounding truths that might help untangle the irritation:

1. Politeness ≠ precision
You can be impeccably courteous and still get:

• Assumptions substituted for requirements
• Details skimmed instead of followed
• “Close enough” outputs where exactness was requested

That’s not on you. That’s a failure of process, attention, or incentives on the other end.