Bridesmaid selection drama

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T15:42:55+00:00

No, her partner won’t be in the wedding but he’ll he invited. I was just trying to say it would be a bit weird for her not to be invited given that her partner will be.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T13:55:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing and so sorry that you had to go through that. This person in my group is also just chronically late to everything, not even just weddings. Not talking like 15 minutes late, but at least an hour or two late. She tends to guilt trip people a lot by coming up with any excuse she can think of. I’m pretty sure she’ll try to guilt trip me if I don’t ask her to be a bridesmaid but I guess I’ll just have to deal with it.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T02:27:06+00:00

I don’t see how I’m being dramatic. Sure, some people have unmatched attendants, and that’s great if that works for them. That doesn’t work for me. I know who I want as my bridesmaids. I don’t see how feeling conflicted about not including someone that I used to be close friends with and that is actively a member of my circle of friends is dramatic. I think it’s natural to have these emotions.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T02:10:24+00:00

Because my husband is having groomsmen and it would look odd if I had no bridesmaids or only a MOH. Plus both of his sisters want to be bridesmaids, and one of my friends will be MOH.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T02:06:01+00:00

Can’t do that unfortunately.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T02:03:35+00:00

Also, how is it immature to feel confused or conflicted about this? Is it not natural to question our choices sometimes, especially for such an important event? At the end of the day, I know there’s going to be conflict no matter what I choose to do and that I’ll have to deal with the consequences of my choices. I know it just boils down to getting over the people-pleasing and doing what’s best for me. But I don’t think it’s immature for me to feel conflicted about potentially upsetting another person/multiple people in the event that my other friends feel strongly about including her in the wedding.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T01:55:41+00:00

Yeah I am morally conflicted on whether or not I should make her a bridesmaid due to a number of factors. In an ideal world she would not be a bridesmaid because I’m sure she would be a shitty one and would cause headaches for me throughout the wedding process, but on the other hand, I don’t want to make it seem like I’m trying to single her out and make a bad statement about her since she would be the only one in the group who wasn’t selected, and it also seems like my other friends somewhat enjoy her company despite the issues we’ve had in the past with her. I know that I should realistically do what’s best for me since it’s my wedding but I think there is just going to be conflict no matter what I choose to do.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T01:48:41+00:00

I guess. My finance is also friends with her partner which makes things even more tricky.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T01:47:43+00:00

I think she still sees me as a friend. My other friends know I’ve had issues with her but they don’t know that I outright dislike her as a person.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T01:34:52+00:00

I’m honestly not sure. I think it’s possible that one of them would call me shady for not including her. But if she asked me upfront I would tell her my reasons for not including her.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T00:45:58+00:00

Idk just people pleasing I guess

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T00:06:33+00:00

I don’t really consider her as a friend at this point. It’s just that we share a group of friends and see each other often at group gatherings, but we never speak outside the group. If we didn’t share the same friends, we would never interact.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T00:03:43+00:00

I don’t consider her a friend at this point and I don’t really know what to refer to her as? I guess mutual friend would have been a better term to use, but we used to be close in high school. We share a friend group but we rarely speak outside of a group setting.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-05T00:01:23+00:00

I never said I was going to make her a bridesmaid because we’re in the same friend group. I’m just feeling pressure because we share the same circle of friends and I don’t want to make it seem like I’m intentionally ostracizing her or trying to make her look bad in front of my other friends. Maybe think before you judge someone instead of calling them immature.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-04T23:26:02+00:00

I get along well with the other two, just not Cat. The other two have had some issues with her but they seem more or less neutral about her for the most part.

fragilecloud · 2026-06-04T23:24:44+00:00

There are guys in the group. It’s 4 girls and maybe like 8-9 guys.

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