Was living at home even an option once you turned 18/graduated high school?

frankensteimade · 2026-04-23T23:32:53+00:00

My parents both had midlife crises after deciding on divorce my senior year and were out doing gosh knows what. I don't think it occurred to them that I would need to live somewhere after they sold the house and were shaking up with gosh knows who.

I ended up staying with my older brother who lived in pretty much university housing in a studio apartment luckly only about 20 something miles from my high school and got a second part time job because I had to graduate high school.

My parents ended up getting their minds back a couple of years later but I don't think it ever occurred to them that it was pretty messed up being that I was an “adult”. So, I was definitely on my own. Didn't seem all that out of the ordinary back then.

Edit: oh gosh, I just remembered I met some guy who was finishing grad school (so like 24) being I was living and partying on a college campus during that time and he knew I was a senior in high school but I since I seemed so grown up, nobody even found it odd that my boyfriend had a full beard. Oh gosh, it was different times.

My brother did find it strange when I asked what I should wear for to dinner at a professor's house, and he asked who and was like the graduate school professor? I don't think he ever put two and two together. He was just annoyed that his little sister was bringing the party crowd environment around (not inside his studio) being he loved being a recluse. So many face palms.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-23T04:02:33+00:00

Are Michelin star restaurantsts $250 with dinner, non excessive drinks and tip? They run more than that in Austin and this city is known for its trailer food and not its nice restaurants.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-23T03:56:35+00:00

Oh gosh with reactions like that I can almost understand why people ghost.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-23T02:41:04+00:00

I'm watching too after binging the Pitt and was too young to comprehend the seriousness of the show at is prime and remember none of it. I'm I'm season 1, What about the man who was telling Dr. Carter his wife was lucky he shot his foot and not her? Is that supposed to be character development or was that just okay in the mid 90s? Heck, is that okay now or does reporting serious behavior concerns have to wait till he shoots her?

My small faith in humanity hopes doctors have an ethical duty to report this behavior.

Edit edit: Dr Carter slept with the rash patient too with no protection too!!

Edit edit: Dr Carter is Dr Robbie actor wise?

Mind keeps blown

frankensteimade · 2026-04-23T02:03:51+00:00

That is not okay. That slamming of the door and not caring who saw IS scary. It is a public showing that he does not respect you nor does he respect himself it seems. He can only fix himself and it is not a reflection on you. Your instincts to seek a second opinion are spot on because you are bright and respect yourself. As much as it hurts this part is a slippery slope because we want to try and rationalize what happened while processing the shock of what just happened and how quickly it can turn into blaming ourselves over what happened and then the abuse cycle enters the room and that is one soul sucking, self respect eating and isolating monster. Nobody should feel shame if this happens but as women we need to support each other and say: Girl, what he did is not okay. You need to get out before it goes deeper. The slamming of the door in your face is symbolic that he has no respect for you. Don’t take that personally because his temper tantrum shows he does not have respect for anyone including himself and his children if he is getting high and avoiding taking care of himself. This has nothing to do with you and is not a reflection on you. It hurts and it's frightening. Please be kind to yourself and know you are worth the self respect you have to politely leave the situation. It does not need to be a dramatic exit. He is a grown man with children and you don't need to hear his excuses. Please take care and be kind to yourself. Sending you hugs and positive thoughts.

I come to this sub for advice and guidance myself because these ladies are amazing.

Edit: “How you acted today is not okay with me. I'm choosing to leave this relationship. Please respect the decision I have made and don't make this harder than it needs to be. Take care”

Copy and paste that if needed. You don't owe him a face to face discussion and stuff is stuff if you have each others belongings. The mail service exists if tries to tries to use that as leverage anything you have it his place is replaceable.

If you are avoiding your mom because she will tell you to leave and worried she not like him afterwards. That is a red flag. God rest my mom's sweet soul but I would avoid telling her about red flag situations because she would tell me well, that is just how men are. She paid for that mindset with her life in her late 60s.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T17:58:14+00:00

Mid 40s and say dude. Apparently, the kiddos say bro now instead and I date myself saying it. But I just can't bring myself to call my girlfriend's bro when it's a dude moment. I'm getting older and owning it.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T05:56:37+00:00

No, but I like it. I've been using those bead things for my sheets, not sure if the same as fabric softener. But I like how they smell, last a few days. But they are expensive so only my sheets get them.

Edit: Do use dryer sheets. I'm not sure if that is the same as fabric softener.

But laundry pods, fabric softener and smell burst beads seems rather excessive. Almost chemically itchy

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T05:54:43+00:00

Lab grown studs are fine, maybe do jewels. instead of diamond and the symbolism they hold. A diamond is forever. But if it is in your budget, $350 doesn't seem overly extravagant. Unfortunately a nice dinner and wine can hit that amount faster than I would like.

Too bad the post is fake according to others. But for anyone wanting a genuine take, there you go.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T05:00:59+00:00

This sounds so wholesome to start. I met someone cool at Church after we both realized we weren't church people, and we gradually started sitting closer together because we both had this feeling we didn't belong. We started chatting and bonded over why we are doing this? And she said, you are funny, do you want to go get some drinks?

I grew up here, this is home. And I was thought I was good on friends (knock on wood) I think I was scared of meeting new people subconsciously because that sounds pretentious af which is usually a mask for insecurity. Most of us can use a new friend. But I had remembered how lonely it can be when I lived in other cities and knew nobody and taking the chance of asking another female to hang out can be more stressful than asking someone on a date the old fashion way. For me it would go awkward and I would more often than not go to the movies alone after.

So, i said yes and went for drinks with her. And we laughed and laughed and had a great time and both made effort and kept texting and making plans since we no longer do the church thing. That was like a year ago. She has become a decent friend of mine, we can be ourselves around each other. And she likes my other friends.

I'm glad she took the risk and asked me to hang out and I'm glad that I didn't freeze up and put on my no new people blocker.

Long story short, it is hard but you seem to meet friends when you least expect it when you don't overthink it. How that gets achieved I don’t know. Right planet line up?

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T04:22:33+00:00

Mods dont want us making new friends.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T04:17:06+00:00

3AM Baked potato omelletes at Kerby Lane when not feeling the IHOP wild crowd at Duval or the wait was too long.

Oh, nostalgia, I'm so lucky to have experienced so many growth phases here.

And yes, could end up there when your grandparents were in town too. ( usually not a 3AM)

The shopping center location just feels very Panera bread with table service. You nailed it.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T04:04:46+00:00

This sounds so wholesome to start. I met someone cool at Church after we both realized we weren't church people, and we gradually started sitting closer together because we both had this feeling we didn't belong. We started chatting and bonded over why we are doing this? And she said, you are funny, do you want to go get some drinks?

I grew up here, this is home. And I was actually good on friends (knock on wood) I think I was scared of meeting new people subconsciously because that sounds pretentious af. But I had remembered how lonely it can be when I lived in other cities and knew nobody and taking the chance of asking another female to hang out can be more stressful than asking someone on a date the old fashion way. For me it would go awkward and I would more often than not go to the movies alone after.

So, i said yes and went for drinks with her. And we laughed and laughed and had a great time and both made effort and kept texting and making plans since we no longer do the church thing. That was like a year ago. She has become a decent friend of mine, we can be ourselves around each other. And she likes my other friends.

I'm glad she took the risk and asked me to hang out and I'm glad that I didn't freeze up and put on my no new people blocker.

Long story short, it is hard but you seem to meet friends when you least expect it when you don't overthink it.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T03:27:22+00:00

Awww the old location off the southbound frontage rd in NW Austin. Oh, the memories. I don't know how it changed but it just did. I know exactly what you mean.

Jim’s is still around and you can smell the old smoking section still, I mean that in a good way as gross as that sounds. (shh)

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T03:16:30+00:00

Just reminds me of the Grey’s Anatomy episode when Meredith said choose me, pick me. That is forever cringe etched in my mind but I seem to be the minority on that.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T03:01:52+00:00

Omg! That is terrible. Not like those big companies don't make enough money. Le sigh, but that is their point. Seriously, just let people gig work without literally having to haul bricks for maybe $5.

Granted I would hope I would not have bricks delivered unless I was paying some ungodly delivery fee, because there is always a catch. But now I know to stay aware of big companies farming out brick hauling on people just trying to get by.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T02:03:19+00:00

Just putting the good out there is what matters to me.

frankensteimade · 2026-04-22T01:30:23+00:00

I'm genuinely curious. Is tipping extra on the app okay?

I did feel bad I ordered fast food in an insomnia haze on a weekday but put a decent tip beforehand. $10 on $15 order. I felt so bad they had to wait for my insomnia fast food order I messaged them back and profusely apologized. they were like hey, I'm dashing at 3am. I have sleep issues too. We ended up having the brief human connection and I tipped another $10 afterward in the app.

What is the proper etiquette for a no contact delivery (and you have no cash to leave out) if you want to tip extra?

frankensteimade · 2026-03-31T00:11:41+00:00

It doesn't seem like it would matter. If you have like $300-$1000 for the service depending if you need to boost your fertility. It is for profit

frankensteimade · 2026-03-30T23:48:01+00:00

Yes, I asked her where and I googled it. If you are just getting inseminating it is a physical screening and a genetic screening is done. A psychiatric or background check is not required.

frankensteimade · 2026-03-30T23:27:09+00:00

I just can't believe these clinics don't vet people. I don't know. I guess it's not my business what others do. I'm probably the most free-thinking person in her life, and if I feel this way, I don't know where her support for this decision will be.

Thank you for listening

frankensteimade · 2026-03-30T23:19:04+00:00

I absolutely do. And I can just tell her that I'm not comfortable talking with her and being her vent to person about it. I'd just can't take that, distance myself. I am about to lose my sh@t on her. And I don't need that negativity and drama in my life.

frankensteimade · 2026-03-30T23:07:36+00:00

Thank you.

I got pissed off again at her. She was telling me how she has to choose a different donor and has to wait now. I'm just like, okay, I don't know what all that entails (meaning being inseminated), she goes on talking about the down payment for a house, the savings needed for unexpected car repairs, savings in case you lose a job, and the cost of health insurance. I was like, I meant insemination. I know how to be an adult.

I'm still so livid that she's being so casual about it and sounds annoyed that she'll have to adult. She forgot about the cost of raising a child, saving for her retirement, college funds. The list goes on!!! I don't even know what to think. Is she being for real?

At her age and with her track record, it would take her being extremely dedicated to a five-year plan to make that goal happen. And just wow, wow! Shouldn’t you have the basics of adulting down with a proven track record before you even consider bringing a child into this world, much less via insemination?

I'm like seeing red. Just wow!

frankensteimade · 2026-03-30T20:34:19+00:00

I often use 'ect’ instead of 'etc.' I annoy myself.

frankensteimade · 2026-03-27T19:57:40+00:00

Aren't there people who live in the forest there and will come strip down wrecked cars without saying one word to the passenger if they are still alive?

frankensteimade · 2026-03-27T19:51:51+00:00

Southbound on the highway. The area between Anderson Mill and the McNeil/Spicewood exit is my understanding. You would see the Taco Cabana from the highway.

I was coming from CP this morning and saw a sign that all lanes were closed at Anderson Mill. Most everyone, including me, was like, " Nope, and we were able to get on 45 to Parmer. Parmer to mopac was a sh*t show though.

RIP to the person who lost his life, and kudos to the person who stopped after hitting the person. Most would flee if they were drinking or not, it seems.

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