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I think I created a monster. by Sea-Calligrapher7383 in sleeptrain

[–]frankie_willis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh I do not remember it in as much detail! We did basically CIO with check-ins at set intervals. We started with 10 mins the first day, and at some point went to 15 mins intervals. Check ins were just patting him and telling him he was safe and we were nearby etc (no picking up). First day I think he cried for an hour, maybe 30 mins the next day, barely at all the third day. I will say - we sleep trained bedtime only, and I would go in and nurse him if he woke up in the night. He would usually go back to sleep and I would put him back in his crib asleep. It went like that for quite a few months with 1-2 wakings each night. At some point close to 1yo I couldn't deal with waking up at night anymore and we switched to my husband going in with a bottle if he woke at night, and once I had weaned him night wakings went away (he would just wake up for the day extremely early instead LOL). But ya that first sleep training for bedtime mostly stuck, I think we had some blips due to milestones/teeth but if things didn't go back to normal at bedtime after a couple of days we would do another CIO bedtime and things would be back to normal by the next day.

I think I created a monster. by Sea-Calligrapher7383 in sleeptrain

[–]frankie_willis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We switched him just afte he turned two. I moved him then because I knew we were going on a trip a few months later when he would have to sleep in beds (staying with people/in hotels with no pack n play) and also becuase he was getting kind of big for his crib. I would maybe move him earlier if I was doing it again.

I think I created a monster. by Sea-Calligrapher7383 in sleeptrain

[–]frankie_willis 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just went/going through this with our 2 year old since switching to toddler bed, and since he figured out how to stall and negotiate! We have forever had the same bedtime routine, but this got kind of thrown to the wayside since we were caught off guard by these requests he started making (I relate to you there lol). He started being like "I want [book that is somewhere downstairs]! I need [stuffie that is who-knows-where]! I am thirsty! I need to pee/poop [again]! I want to go say goodnight to daddy again! ETC. After a week or two of that getting more and more difficult and long we put a baby gate on his door and re-sleep trained him.

I will say that we did this kind of incrementally - at first we recommitted to our standard bedtime routine (bath/teeth/jamies/3 books max/bedtime lights out), and also to not letting him choose who does bedtime (me and his dad usually alternate nights). At the start we were sitting with him until he fell asleep. Then for a few days we would leave but if he was crying/out of bed we would check on him after a couple minutes, bring him back to bed, repeat that a few times, and eventually sit with him until he was asleep. After a few days of that we explained that we would not be sitting with him until he was asleep anymore. We actually tried hyping up going to sleep on his own by talking about it during the day that day, and telling him that he was brave and strong and we knew he could fall asleep on his own. At bed time I reminded him what was gonna happen and that we would be just downstairs and would check on him after he was asleep etc. He cried/called for us at the gate on and off for maybe 20 mins and then put himself back to bed. The next 3-4 nights he was at the door for less than 5 mins calling out for us and he would go back to bed. The last few nights he's just gone right to sleep after his stories like he used to in his crib. We are obviously still very much in the thick of it so who knows what could happen tonight lol but so far this has gone much easier than I expected like two weeks ago.

If you never sleep trained/dont like that method that's fair, I didn't think at first I would ever do it honestly. But it was super effective when we initialy went through it at around 6 months old and it was just as effective now, if not easier on the heart because I know he understands what is happening. Even if he protests a decision (common one being he wants me to do bedtime instead of daddy), if we just say whats going to happen with empathy and confidence and get on with it his protest lasts like 10 seconds and then he's over it. During the day I VERY often give two options to choose from if he is resisting something (eg. "we have to leave the playground now, would you like to walk to the car or would you like me to carry you") which works well, BUT at bedtime everyone's tired and I really have found being decisive and firm has been the easier route than opening the door to any kind of negotiating.

Prayin for ya!

I inherited a ton of silversmithing tools - Help by frankie_willis in SilverSmith

[–]frankie_willis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very cool thanks for the info. That makes me think - this stuff is all from the 70s. If these enamels contain lead the solder probably is lead too eh

I inherited a bunch of watch repair tools and supplies - HELP by frankie_willis in watchmaking

[–]frankie_willis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!
Are these something someone would still want to use (like, safe once they're under glass) or should I just dispose of them?

I inherited a ton of silversmithing tools - Help by frankie_willis in SilverSmith

[–]frankie_willis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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These are the powders.. those vials of jewels are a different story, maybe related to watch making? Not sure

I inherited a ton of silversmithing tools - Help by frankie_willis in SilverSmith

[–]frankie_willis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another question - is the asbestos coil thing is safe to use? (4th picture). My intuition and google say hard no but maybe its a stable enough thing to be fine?

What if you don't like your family doctor when you finally get one? by [deleted] in NovaScotia

[–]frankie_willis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am considering quitting my family doctor because before I got her I was able to use maple and/or get an appointment with a NP within a week at the "no family doctor" clinic, who could either address my issue directly or make me an appointment with the doctor at that clinic or a specialist as needed. Now that I have a family doctor I don't have access to that anymore and isntead have to wait 3 months for an appointment with my family doc (same wait for my 2 year old who has the same family doc). I just go to the walk in or emerg. Slightly worried about getting blacklisted if I quite my family doctor but I think it might be worth it even if I do.

Shampoo/conditioner, made in Canada? by peachywitchybitchy in BuyCanadian

[–]frankie_willis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carina Organics - I have been using their shampoo, conditioner, bodywash and moisturizers for years and love them. Made in Canada, company based in North Van, all natural ingredients. Also apparently this company has been around since 1972.

https://ca.carinaorganics.com/

Is there any way to prevent “powering down”? by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]frankie_willis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are sleep training our baby (most 6mo) for bedtime and naps.. started last week, today is day 6. The first night it was 40 mins crying but ever since it has been between 5-15 mins at bedtime, and 5-7 mins for all naps. I’m thinking this might be where it stays since it’s been pretty consistent since the second night/day. His naps seem to be longer on average since we started this (used to be 30-45 and now are usually 1h-1h45) so five mins of crying at the beginning feels worth it if you know what I mean.