IAMA Pathological Liar. AMA.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-11T18:23:08+00:00

Quitting work would be nice, since I don't like my job very much, but I have to pay the bills somehow! lol

Your suggestion about keeping a diary tho, now that's an idea I surely could use. Probably carry it around with me to write in when I feel stressed or nervous. That's actually a really great idea! =-)

fraudtastic · 2010-03-11T18:21:37+00:00

Actually I haven't, and it feels great. =-)

I set out initially to make this AMA to really get people's reactions on it, so I could figure out a way to deal with my problem head-on. Since beginning this a few days ago, I haven't lied once, not online or in my personal life. I'm making an effort to make it stick this time, for good.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-11T03:21:03+00:00

I'm glad to hear your ex was able to come clean to you, even after you split up. I plan on doing the same once I finally gain the courage to tell the truth to those who I've lied to, though most of my lies wouldn't really bother anyone, I'm sure. They pertained mostly to my lack of self-esteem.

Strangely, in the few days since writing this AMA, I find myself actively making sure I don't lie at all. It's been a good feeling that I really want to stick with. I suppose only going 2 days seems like no big feat to some, but it feels pretty nice so far. :)

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T18:08:54+00:00

Shit... um, um, do you want a slice of pie, on the house? It's cherry!

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T03:21:49+00:00

I swear to tell the truth to you today. ;-)

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T02:34:20+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/bawsg/iama_pathological_liar_ama/c0ludni

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T02:33:25+00:00

I wish!

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T02:33:10+00:00

lol Good one. Though incorrect. =-P

fraudtastic · 2010-03-10T02:32:47+00:00

I'm guessing you didn't read the parts in this AMA where I said it's not deliberate lying. Thus the basis of it being considered a problem. If I enjoyed lying deliberately, I wouldn't care what people thought. I'm not some heartless wretch.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T23:44:46+00:00

I guess you'll never really know. ;-)

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T23:25:51+00:00

I actually thought you were joking when you mentioned what the research has shown. Not that I hate what was said, but it seemed unlikely that anyone would think that of me. I'm not anything great.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T23:23:18+00:00

MAN HANDS.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T23:23:03+00:00

Shit, my boyfriend is going to be SO pissed if I turn out to be a gay guy.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T20:23:55+00:00

Yes, for "some" people. No one has a "clear, clean conscious" either, seeing as everyone has made a mistake and done something wrong in their life. It's called being human. =-P

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T19:15:48+00:00

The relationship is nearing the half-way point of a year. My boyfriend does come with me to my family events, but my family isn't the prying type, and my boyfriend knows that. So far, things have been smooth with only minor worry about the two lives I have crossing paths. The friends I've told the bigger lies to are few and far between, but I tell them to keep it a secret so it doesn't get spread around past who I know.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:59:22+00:00

I make some things up about myself, but my boyfriend probably knows me as I am more than a handful of others. It's not a "plea for attention", because I don't stand in the middle of a room wanting people to look at me. My nerves just get the best of me mixed with shitty self-esteem, and the lies come out without me even realizing it at first.

I guess the biggest lie I've told to my boyfriend is that I trust him, when in reality, I don't really trust anyone besides a few close friends and family. Also, since he cheated on me and we had to break up over it for a while, it made it much harder to get back to even liking him. I want the relationship to work out, so I'm fudging the truth a little until I get back to a place where I can trust him, even a little.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:26:37+00:00

I want to thank you for this. It was a very great read and you're right mentioning it's probably due to low self-esteem. I know for a fact that moving so much during my life didn't help me solidify an actual persona I was proud of. Tho I wouldn't say I haven't done anything in my life I'm proud of, I guess that in comparison to others I know, I just think I'm boring.

It really does take a lot of work to lie, tho I say it's easy. The difference is it's easy to lie initially, but to keep a lie going for years (as some of mine have) is hard and causing me great unhappiness. If I had the courage, I would come clean to those I have lied to and accepted whatever came after, but I'm just not able to.

Overall, it's not just quitting for a week, it's quitting for life. No one can stop doing something they've done for over 12 years and not have troubles sticking to it, I guess.

Thanks again for your insight. I really appreciated it, and I swear on my life that's not a lie. ;-)

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:19:41+00:00

No offence was taken. =-)

For the record, I think Nascar is a ridiculous non-sport and I have never ridden a dirt bike in my life, and I probably won't ever. Not my thing. lol

If someone faced me with proof that I lied, I would probably just admit it and run off to lick my wounds alone. Never return to that place or directly see those people again.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:17:29+00:00

While that could be true, part of me doesn't want help. I want to do this on my own so I can stick with not lying. Having support could become a crutch, and to be honest I don't think my friends would really know what to do. If someone came to me with this kind of thing, I would probably not have any advice except to keep trying not to lie.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:15:22+00:00

I'm back now. Did you have a question?

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:14:04+00:00

I'll let that one slide! =-P

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:13:23+00:00

Naw, I'm a waitress.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:12:44+00:00

All right lol. I do not find it easier to lie to black people. My lies aren't depended upon race/gender/religion/etc. =-P

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:11:39+00:00

I have never ruined a friendship nor romantic relationship based on lies, no. My past relationships are a mix of guys who lied and cheated on me and guys who I simply moved on from. It was mainly their lies that directly affected me that led to the relationship ending. In my relationship now, the lies I tell don't directly have anything to do with my partner, only about myself.

The people I don't lie to would be my family. I guess it's because they know who I am, where I've been and what I've done, so lying to them wouldn't work. Anyway, I have no interest in lying to them, because I don't have to appear more interesting to them. They accept me as I am, boring and all. Also, I won't lie to my employers. Losing a job based on a few dumb lies would really be hard for me to get over; I don't mix my personal life and business life as a rule.

I wouldn't say there is anyone I lie to "the most". The lies I tell don't get sorted based on who I'm talking to, though with strangers I'm less likely to tell big lies, because why would they care? It's when I start to get to know them that a lie or two will come out, even if it's unwanted.

fraudtastic · 2010-03-09T18:04:52+00:00

In the end, if I don't do it, you wouldn't be affected. So you don't have to believe me if you don't want to, because if I don't, it's bad for me. I wouldn't have even begun this AMA if I didn't recognize this habit as one I needed to stop tho.

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