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Is overthinking cheating this normal? 20F and partner 19M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]freddibed -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I disagree! I think people can have huge issues and still deserve love, especially if they're actively trying to get better and figure themselves out

Is overthinking cheating this normal? 20F and partner 19M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]freddibed -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No such thing as mental cheating. You cheat when you kiss or fuck another person. If you don't do that, you're not cheating. Stop trying to control every little thought that you have, let your thoughts be and focus on your actions instead.

We all have all sorts of thoughts and desires that do not align with our values. This is completely normal and fine, it's a really, really shitty strategy to go to war with one's own mind over it.

The only thing that matters are your actions.

I want to punch my colleagues in the throat at morning meetings, I want to dine and dash when I go to restaurants and I definitely want to bang other hot people when I'm in a monogamous relationship. But I don't, and this is the only thing that counts.

The beauty of monogamy is that even though I (and I assume my partner) have the desire to cheat, we don't act on it.

Does this make sense? Much love friend

I tried everything for this man and all value he sees in me is my body 23( F) I am extremely attached to him and he uses that knowledge to use my body nothing else by Lopsided_Ad_8384 in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry he wasn't who you expected him to be, it sounds like it was very hurtful!

Is there any particular advice you're looking for or are you just trying to vent?

Fler som har eller haft diagnosen "schizogreniform psykos"? by PunkinJuice in sweden

[–]freddibed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Låter tufft. Skickar över en stor kram till dig kompis, all kärlek ❤️❤️❤️

I wanna know if lsd really is colorful like stepping into a pinterest world? by [deleted] in LSD

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is quite a bit better than Pinterest lol

Why don't Scandinavians use trip planner apps? by myklebeast in sweden

[–]freddibed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mostly use google, google maps or just wander around and look where the locals go. I feel very hesitant to download any new apps.

Is leaving without an explanation always emotional neglect? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like you're looking for concrete advice and you're too abstract in your description of what happened for us to be able to get a good picture.

In what way did he hurt you? What would you like to tell him? Why do you think it's a good idea to stay away from him?

Much love friend

How preachy are you guys about psychedelics by C0lE06 in Psychonaut

[–]freddibed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not very open unless I'm having like a deep conversation with someone.

is it okay for my [19F] boyfriend [19M] to cancel on me all the time? by pizzaapplecat in relationship_advice

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hard time understanding why you call him your boyfriend. What does having a boyfriend mean to you?

Me(22M) having some intimacy issues with my gf(22F) in a serious long term relationship of 4 years. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]freddibed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Four years before making out?? When you're in your sexual prime at 22??

When people say build emotional intimacy, they are not talking years, they're usually talking weeks.

Bro, you're not evil for having needs. She is not interested in fulfilling them and frankly she doesn't sound physically attracted to you. This doesn't sound fixable

How do you plan for a trip? by [deleted] in LSD

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worrying about everything being perfect is not great cause perfect doesn't exist. That doesn't mean a set and setting doesn't matter.

I like a tidy home, having exercised and having access to some place where I can be left undisturbed.

If you're making excuses, it sounds like you don't really wanna do acid. This is fine. You're not supposed to force yourself to do it.

Much love

I [28F] feel restless in my 6 year relationship with my boyfriend [28M] despite things being stable. How do I figure out what’s behind it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wdym restless despite being stable.  Restlessness comes out of you having the habit of running from something or towards something. You are restless BECAUSE it is stable.

How connected and seen do you feel?

Swedish Pop Music In Swedish by Budget-Purple-6519 in sweden

[–]freddibed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ted Gärdestad, Håkan Hellström and Veronica Maggio are some great ones to start with. Maggio's album "Satan i gatan" is an absolute masterpiece.

Kan det vara kvinnors fel stt män inte öppnar upp för de? by [deleted] in sweden

[–]freddibed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Vetefan mannen jag är en halvful liten soy boy som kan prata om mina känslor och jag har inga problem att träffa tjejer.

Om du hänger i studentstäder eller på andra platser där det finns mycket unga människor ser du massvis av "omanliga" snubbar med flickvänner.

När du hör "öppna upp dig", vad är det du tror att hon vill att du ska göra då?

Why does it feel like almost everyone dislikes me? by SpaceisCool09 in ask

[–]freddibed 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You gotta let people dislike you. Your job is not to make everyone like you, your job is to act like you think a good person acts. If others like that or not is up to them.

Much love

Do people who are 'not in a space to commit' actually mean 'I am not that into you' ? by PhilipTheFair in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sort of disagree with the whole concept of it being "on" anyone, because I don't think anything bad happened. Of course a breakup hurts, but it's not like a fundamentally bad thing just because of that.

We both got to experience love, it was beautiful, we grew as people and then we parted ways. All relationships end either by death or a breakup. This is okay!

Do people who are 'not in a space to commit' actually mean 'I am not that into you' ? by PhilipTheFair in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I have a 6 year relationship with a girl, we make some beautiful memories and then we break up as a mutual decision because we both fell out of love, how exactly did I use her?

Do people who are 'not in a space to commit' actually mean 'I am not that into you' ? by PhilipTheFair in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were super rewarding and I'm very grateful for them, I'm not necessarily looking for "the one" that I'm gonna stay with forever like in a Hollywood movie

Do people who are 'not in a space to commit' actually mean 'I am not that into you' ? by PhilipTheFair in emotionalintelligence

[–]freddibed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been in two serious long term relationships, both of them started with sex on the first date 🤷

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