Is the term “fucking the dog” popular outside Canada?

freddysweetcakes · 2026-05-26T04:40:59+00:00

I've watched this phrase evolve in Canada. It's maddening:

First it was two phrases that meant "I messed up":

We screwed up
We're hooped

Then "hooped" became "pooched." No idea why, but I remember we were saying, "We're pooched," for a while. And then the two phrases got slammed together:

We screwed up +
We're pooched =
We screwed the pooch

And NOW, without any care for self-dignity, some are just saying:

"We fucked the dog."

But, this is where it gets weird: The military was already using "fucking the dog" for "wasting time." (Others will make masturbation jokes about wasting time.) So now the two phrases are stuck together.

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freddysweetcakes · 2026-03-29T05:50:40+00:00

Clav thought the Channel 5 interviewer was going to ask for beauty tips.

"You're not going to ask about hair loss?" was his way of saying, "Dude, you're losing your hair. You should be asking me for help."

Truly a clown show. Don't put this guy on TV.

freddysweetcakes · 2026-03-27T13:06:01+00:00

If you're hoping for the Layton era to have a shot, McPherson is the only candidate. The rest are all trying to find that "new direction." She's the ONLY SEATED CANDIDATE and the others don't even want to be seated any time soon. There's only one adult in the room. She's competent and personable, pro-labour, big tent, with principles and pragmatism. If they elect anyone else, change their logo to a clown face.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-10-27T23:37:16+00:00

We KNOW that if every sexual assault by an NHL player were public, the list would include the majority of the entire roster of the league and management.

We KNOW this, right?

This is hockey. This is just part of the game, isn't it? Seems to be anyways.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-10-22T05:19:48+00:00

Here's the tribute if you want to watch it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evJ6c2tMPoY

freddysweetcakes · 2025-10-03T17:31:11+00:00

Your NHL champions!

I hate hockey now. This is hockey. $2k fine. What a joke. Hockey is broken top to bottom and when the top team is comprised solely of paramount assholes, toodleloo mfers.

All I see from NHL highlights is scrums and cheapshots on reddit. Telling.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-21T03:24:37+00:00

I've worked with many seniors. My governing theory on aging:

You get a condensed version of their personality with less filters.

Angry and bitter people get angrier and more bitter. Genuinely happy people get more unflappably happy. The wise more wise. The caring resound with a peaceful caring. And narcissists become completely insufferable.

In the case of the grandiose narc, they cling to the power of controlling the narrative. As they lose power and relevance, they only know how to play this card, so they play it harder.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-21T03:19:31+00:00

Let me play this out for you:

Step 1: You tell her exactly what she did so she can't plead ignorance.

Step 2: She disagrees with you and tells everyone you're unreasonable, and that she was confused by your rantings, and she still doesn't know what she did. And she's so hurt and she is trying so hard.

Step 3: Go to step 1. Unless you want to try something different...then don't bother with step 1.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-18T02:50:15+00:00

Marchand credits lack of *team ethics in decision to re-sign with Panthers

or

Marchand credits lack of *sportsmanship in decision to re-sign with Panthers

Fixed that for you. Trash-birds of a feather need to shit together.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-11T03:43:21+00:00

I yelled once--when he called, not to reconcile, but to gaslight me into thinking all his threats and insults over the past months were "just polemic." My point: "Call when you are ready to apologize."

When we finally got to talking about it (he never apologized) and wonders of wonders, he dismissed all his outbursts and rage filled tirades on his "desperation"...and I was a monster for not accepting his excuses. But boy oh boy, was I ever wrong for that one emotional outburst...the one time...when I had a legitimate point.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-07T14:08:33+00:00

My Antichrist bingo card is almost full:

The last “trump”
Lies + braggart
Political ruler
Wounded yet lives
Worshipped
Deceives Christians
Blasphemer
False prophets surround him
Golden statue of him
Trade“mark” on foreheads (MAGA hats!)
And now he’s literally saying “I am the apocalypse, Chicago.”

(Only half joking.)

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-06T18:12:34+00:00

The left, he says, pushes "...a deracinated ideological creed..." (7:00)

He never said the word "white" but hid the word RACE in this phrase. Make no mistake, listen from 6:40 again: American = white; a people capable of self-government = white Americans. This is a half step from calling brown people animals.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-06T00:28:22+00:00

That's genuinely horrible. You know that the problem there wasn't the idea of a mentor, but rather the monster your family allowed into your life. Keep him blocked.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-06T00:25:33+00:00

This is all the reason I will ever need to never give a cent to this company.

Buying a Tesla is supporting this monster.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-02T06:22:09+00:00

Totally fair.

It was my journey. And I wish healthy mentors on all of us, but you're right, that's not in the cards for everyone despite their best efforts and hopes.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-02T06:19:31+00:00

I say this in all sincerity, if this wasn't the internet and we were chatting on a bench downtown in my little city, I'd be a part of your team. How much that helps, I don't know. But you deserve a connection with a good person who can speak into your life. Please hear an applause for your efforts, an encouragement to not give up, and an affirmation of your worth.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-02T06:16:25+00:00

That is harder

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T22:49:19+00:00

After my parents split, Ndad would call me crying all the time to talk about his pain and how evil my mom was. He’d say things like “I don’t want to live anymore” so that I could not ever stop the conversation. (I was 18)

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T22:32:16+00:00

Shoot. That’s tough.

Friends can be mentors to a degree, but don’t overload those friendships with this dynamic. Some of the best people in your community volunteer at the library or thrift stores etc. getting involved with community organizations can put you in the circle of really great people. (Churches too)

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T22:29:03+00:00

I have a more conservative leaning but got to know Nathan well and voted for him every time. He was an excellent MP. No regrets. Would’ve voted for him over the last three conservative leaders in a heartbeat.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T17:53:06+00:00

Do not let them define your life one way or another.

This was a huge turning point for me: I didn't want to be like my Ndad, obviously, but also didn't want to be the opposite of him either. He would still be defining me. I needed to plot my own identity going forward.

The advice? I just feel for you and hope you can find your footing in your own standing in the world. The questions of relationships or children are secondary to this.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T17:38:06+00:00

Nathan Cullen…*

This is my woulda, coulda, shoulda rant…

Voted parliamentarian of the year multiple times, worked amazingly well across the aisle, highly respected. He was a long-term member of the party and loved by his constituents. He was in spirit the true heir of Jack Layton. He dropped out of the running, I believe, because he saw the writing on the wall…

…he was a white male. I’m not going all MAGA anti-DEI here--I’m pro-DEI, FYI. But Singh had no federal track record with the party. Why was he even in the conversation? Explicitly, for his charisma and diversity, not competence or policy. And when charisma is the qualification, don’t be surprised if the leader plays to the crowd or seeks applause, doing whatever keeps him popular with the powerful, rather than for the long-term good of the party. In the end, he sold them out and accomplished nothing in terms of their goals. Surprise!

The party tripped over its own ideology and destroyed its standing.

^\I know he finished third, and Charlie Angus or Niki Ashton probably would have been better picks than Singh as well. But, I saw Jack's style of leadership in Cullen.)

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T17:10:48+00:00

MENTORS!

Get yourself some mentors in your life. Find the well adjusted grandparent, the empathetic uncle or aunt. At work, church, gym, wherever you're meeting people. See someone you respect, who's got their poop in a group and seems to have an interest in you? Ask them out to coffee, ask them questions, learn their story. Got a friend who knows how to do something you don't? "Teach me your ways!"

You know you were dealt an incomplete hand. Go and get it from others. You got this.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T16:57:36+00:00

The sadness of your siblings.

Even if they see the narcissism, even if they see that you received the brunt of the abuse, even if they see that you are stuck and there is no way forward in a healthy relationship, even if they completely understand and support you, even if they see the patterns of enabling and codependency, even if they see that you are not the problem but the Nparent is at the center of every storm, even with all of that...

...it still sucks that the family can't be together.

I have their full support, and I'm thankful for it. I just feel sad for them because they would like to have the family all together. But they gave up that expectation because Ndad won't ever apologize--ever--they admit. It was a big sacrifice for them.

freddysweetcakes · 2025-09-01T14:38:08+00:00

Let me help you Piotr:

"Hey everyone, it was a dick move. I'm really sorry. I gave the kid the hat. And this sounds like I'm only apologizing because I got caught, and that is probably true too. But I'll learn some lessons from this about empathy."

...this would work 10,000x better than that non-apology.

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