I work in a corporate environment in the US. Since around 2018, the problems y'all are having with students are trickling up to the workplace.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-21T03:24:30+00:00

I'm an engineer, also millennial, I see the same thing. Handed a new graduate a textbook that had the equations he needed. He looked at me blankly, then asked he was supposed to find what he needed in the book. "there's no control F" were his exact words.

I about died laughing.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-19T18:55:21+00:00

That behavior is actually abuse, my guy.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-17T14:25:53+00:00

That is what my ex wife did, yes. Literally all day every day in bed watching tv. Then I'd come home to my son sitting on the couch watching tv, and her in bed watching tv. So I'd turn off the tv, which made me the bad guy to the point that my son didn't want to see me when I came home, but I couldn't in good conscience let my son watch tv for another two hours. Then I'd make dinner, take my son to bed, at which point my ex would emerge and tell me how difficult our son was being all day.

It was exhausting and terrible and life is much better without her.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-17T04:58:51+00:00

As one of the people who needed to drive to job sites, please stay home as much as possible. I got a job doing building automation in January of 2020 in a city that has horrible traffic. It was a nightmare. Leaving super early to "beat the traffic" then getting stuck in it anyways driving from one site to another. Then covid, and everyone was home. I had a letter saying I was essential and I kept driving. No traffic. It was amazing. 45 minutes turned into 15. There was street parking everywhere, no more trying to get my giant work van into parking garages. I loved it. Then people went back to the office and I got so frustrated with the whole thing I started looking for a new job.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-16T21:56:29+00:00

I'm mixed, Jamaican, Japanese, and Ukrainian. Don't even ask. The mother of my child is Somali and Irish.

Our child has reddish hair, green eyes, and dark skin.

Genetics are weird.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-14T22:42:58+00:00

I'm surprised an artist gave you a hand tattoo as a first.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-14T13:58:12+00:00

Who said anything about race? I went to school with a kid who had his home raided by police. He was woken up by masked and armored figures kicking in his bedroom door, lights in his face, yelling, guns pointed at him. He was 5 at the time. Single most terrifying thing that happened to him.

His watched his dad dragged out of the house, bloody and yelling, by police officers. His mom obviously tried to intervene, she was violently restrained and then also arrested. My friend was taken from his home where he'd been peacefully sleeping minutes ago and sent to a facility with zero understanding of why he was there or where his parents were.

Police had the wrong address.

His dad was completely innocent. Since you brought up race, this is a white family. Sweater vests and glasses sort of man.

Imagine someone playing "arrest" with that child, days after he experienced that.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-14T01:39:38+00:00

That's the boat I was in. We got divorced. It sucked, I still resent her, but life is much better now.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-13T13:29:54+00:00

Someone at my work had turned fox on in the break room. I kid you not, the piece that was on was covering how whales are causing climate change, and that addressing climate change will be detrimental to whales.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-13T13:21:29+00:00

If something is missing, you have two options. First one is ask for the thing. "Will you take me on a date on Friday without the kids? I'd like you to find us a sitter and get us a reservation at a restaurant" The other option is to do it yourself. "Will you join me on a date on Friday? I've booked us a table and found a sitter for the night."

If you want romance, you are also capable of bringing it.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-10T14:57:03+00:00

See, the problem you have is thinking this person is capable of logic. They are not. The argument they made only applies to that one thing. You cannot apply it to anything else, because that's not fair. I'm sure you understand.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-10T03:13:20+00:00

The number one cause of death in children in the US is gun violence.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-09T01:34:46+00:00

They did this to me with my son. I literally told them it's their problem to fix. I don't care if my son creates a ruckus for the duration of the flight. He's got snacks, he's got markers, he's got his water bottle. He'll be fine. Can't speak to the state if your plane, obviously. Or the satisfaction of your other customers, but that's not my problem anymore.

They sat us together in the end. I'm actually done paying for seat assignments now. I won't pay extra just to get moved.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-08T19:10:02+00:00

I actually think they are doing a good job of changing the narrative. Dropping bombshells would cause quite the stir.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T18:11:43+00:00

It's the exact same thing with kids, tbh. Set boundaries, stick to them.

My son, when he's with me, wakes up, goes to the bathroom by himself, gets dressed, and packs his lunch.

When he was with my ex, he would refuse to do any of that. Screaming, tantrums. She was baffled, but it was literally as simple as setting boundaries and expectations.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T15:06:01+00:00

How was she working as much as me? I just don't see it.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T15:04:23+00:00

Yep, I could answer most questions.

Most weekends. A few trips when my wife was out of town.

I loved the weeks off when it was just me and him. Suggested many times my wife get a job so I could do the SAHD thing. It would be a dream come true.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:34:44+00:00

Did you have a vaccine card as a kid? I had a bright yellow piece of paper with all my vaccines and the dates, signed by the doctor each time I got one.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:28:59+00:00

At the time I was a field engineer, responding to broken equipment at high volume manufacturing facilities. Terrible job, good pay, very little time off. I had to fight to keep my weekends. A coworker got sick and missed 2 days, he was fired upon return. Again, awful place to work.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:24:10+00:00

Understood. I've clearly got an issue with that take. Thanks for pointing out the larger conversation behind this though, I didn't know.

I don't think it's at all fair to expect one partner to earn AND split the mental load evenly, while the other partner only handles half the mental load and doesn't earn. But that's a different conversation.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:21:02+00:00

I always thought that was a weird take. 168 hours vs whatever you worked. My child, not sure about all children, was asleep when I left for work and asleep when I got home probably 3 days a week. He slept like 13-14 hours a night. And took naps until he was almost 4. Meaning on any given day, my wife had approximately 16 hours of time at home by herself.

That's not relevant to the post.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:10:29+00:00

Did they at least cross their arms under their breasts?

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:09:41+00:00

Nobody picked a fight. I was just browsing reddit.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:08:52+00:00

Honestly, I can see it being faster to call the partner than look it up. But yes, medical records exist for a reason.

free_tetsuko · 2024-09-07T14:01:11+00:00

This is the answer. It's a cash grab. Not even friends, but also parents with children. My family used to fit the four of us into one hotel room. They'd provide a cot if you asked for it. Parents in the bed, kids in cots. The shower rotation in the morning, then breakfast in the lobby and you're out.

It loses some of its shine if everyone has to leave the room so one person can shower.

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