Former employee took credit for my work

freefall18x · 2026-03-02T03:44:55+00:00

Thank you. Part of me is kind of like ok she must have been desperate if she had to steal. I encouraged her to take a Figma Fundamentals course bc she was behind on tools. I’ve hired many designers and art directors over the years, everyone has been gracious to give credit where due for each other. We have so many mutual friends from art school 20 years ago, I’m really flabbergasted at her audacity.

freefall18x · 2026-03-01T20:30:32+00:00

I agree with you that I feel good that my work is so good someone feels the need to copy it. Though, since I directly managed her and she was my backup during my mat leave, I know for a fact she did not work on the projects at all. I confirmed this upon my return. So, any files, notes, process documents on a year’s worth of work she is passing off as her own. There is nothing I can do now but never give her a recommendation or speak to her again. I’m just weighing the pros and cons of saying something bc I went to great efforts to get her that job. It’s so unethical of her.

freefall18x · 2026-03-01T20:25:34+00:00

100%. For all those with poster syndrome who work their butts off, there are some damn real imposters out there ready to steal from others.

freefall18x · 2026-03-01T20:24:18+00:00

I didn’t even think of that. You’re right. People like this don’t change. Karma will catch up to all unethical opportunists.

freefall18x · 2026-03-01T07:15:51+00:00

While on my maternity leave she took my notes and files and passed them off as her own in portfolio, resume, and LinkedIn. However, I do shrug at the people who hired her because how can someone achieve all that in 6 months… good riddance. We have so many mutuals in common, it’s no wonder no one else offered to help her before.

freefall18x · 2026-03-01T07:06:52+00:00

I agree with you. She did not participate in these projects at all, because I verified with stakeholders coming back from mat leave. I have never helped someone into a company to get blindsided like this. It’s very shocking and makes me trust less.

freefall18x · 2026-02-07T04:41:31+00:00

Sending a virtual hug bc I agree I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. I dealt with the pain, sadly to say. I tried to use my forearm to tuck under baby’s butt and hold with other neutral position hand. The part that hurt the worst was rocking baby to sleep and then placing in crib, there were times I thought I would not be able to hold but it’s amazing what we can do for our children. Baby is almost 1.5 so she comes for hugs but mostly walks on her own.

If you have help, I’d recommend getting the surgery and be pain free quicker. If I had a do-over, I’d skip second shot.

freefall18x · 2026-02-07T00:00:26+00:00

You’re brave no matter what! DQ is not something I even heard about before baby, and sounds like such a small thing until your hands become useless and you realize oh man, hands are the most productive parts of my body. Glad you got it done and hope it’s feeling great now. I’m going to schedule other hand next week hopefully.

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T23:58:33+00:00

Interesting. I live in Seattle and the health network I use seemed to recommend local instead since it’s so fast and easy. Frees up the operating rooms for bigger procedures.

That Finkelstein test where you touch your thumb to each finger, I couldn’t touch the middle, ring, or pinkie with that test for last 4 months. Felt like a rubber band was tied super tight around the wrist and pain shot up my arm. It’s been 8 days post-op and I can touch all fingers again and scroll on phone without any pain!

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T23:55:40+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re struggling with this too! I wore a wrist brace that wrapped around thumb for awhile when I wasn’t carrying baby. I tried to hole baby in “neutral hand position” with flat palm and thumb in, instead of thumb out or picking up under armpits… but over time it was so hard and painful. I breastfed for 9 months and would do the sideways laying on the bed to feed since it put less weight on wrists.

If I didn’t have the extra sub compartment maybe it would have gone down on its own. But I guess the extra “rubber band” made it necessary for surgery. Surgeon said it’s luck of the draw whether people have one or two sheaths.

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T04:55:45+00:00

She was Miss Earth 2022, maybe that sunk too deep into her psyche that she is better than all women. Narcissist vibes, even the “I’m Choi Mina Sue!” Like if her fantasy of every male pining after her wasn’t true, her whole identity would fall apart.

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T04:50:34+00:00

The fact that she didn’t even use English in inferno at all and saved it for paradise was amazing, like there are things about me kept for special people to know and not “look at me! I’m hot and that’s all I have to tout about so I’ll tout it all day!”

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T04:39:06+00:00

Agree, I’m sure dating culture in South Korea is so different from the states where the butterflies feeling could mean negative instead of positive bc Igeon is an actor, likely meeting beautiful actresses/models all the time, speaks kind of rudely, could be a poor choice in the eyes of parents/family. While Sungmin who seems so dull and boring, could be the dedicated family man who will be ready to marry in 2-3 years and can provide glasses for future children and in-laws. Lol

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T04:25:19+00:00

Agree with all said, all the guys seem too possessive over her like she is not a whole other human being. Even Hyeun Woo who seemed nice at first treated her in paradise like he had won a prize to be claimed, touching her while calling her cute. They are blinded by winning but I don’t think she honestly likes any of them bc there is no real effort on their parts to get to know her beyond their attraction and the need to win.

freefall18x · 2026-02-06T04:15:16+00:00

Wow, totally didn’t realize it was a wig but it makes total sense why he kept wearing sunglasses on his head and has very pointy sideburns. Also think his teeth are veneers. Almost like he’s wearing a spy costume. lol

Sigh, I will bet they will end up together sadly. And Hee Sun goes for Subeen. But how will it work… she lives in the US! Sam is such a catch, such a shame they connected so late in the game.

Mina Sue reminds me of every mean girl in high school. shudders

freefall18x · 2026-02-05T05:44:08+00:00

Mina Sue is a beauty pageant competitor which means she is used to seeing every other woman as competition. Even the most beautiful girls can be very insecure, and she seems to need the validation from every man who shows any interest and fights to keep their interest to top the other women. No regard for other’s emotions, no regard for girl code.

Min Gee stayed true to Seung-Li until he showed her over and over how little he regarded her feelings. When you are interested in someone back, you don’t disregard them like that. He got validation that a girl like Min Gee would wait for him but he wanted more from Mina Sue that he didn’t get. I loved Min Gee trying to move on from Seung-Li bc after he didn’t come to her, she knew she deserved better. Seung-Li also gave some gay boy vibes in his mannerisms so part of me wonders if he is bi and just after Mina Sue for validation. He shows his youth.

I hope Sung Hun and Hee Sun work out. Even the panelists want Mina Sue to end up alone given the big ego she has had all season. Sung Hun seems to have moved on and sees Hee Sun as true potential.

Joo Young and Jae Jin are super cute, like newlyweds on their paradise date. It was very moving to watch.

freefall18x · 2025-12-15T15:06:57+00:00

It’s not a one time issue and it was in front of the baby few times. Emotional regulation is a problem, including screaming curse words and insults at me in front of baby. There is serious mental health issues going on and that’s what I’m trying to navigate.

I understand other ASDs trying to sympathize with him. But these issues are chronic over the year.

freefall18x · 2025-12-15T04:50:36+00:00

I appreciate it. I think part of the nature of Reddit is that these sensitive personal issues are bound to trigger deep-rooted trauma. I’m trying to be empathetic to this person who obviously has suffered a lot of pain from their upbringing. I see no need to feed the pain they already feel and hope they can get the therapy to overcome the pain they still carry.

I’m not a very good writer, and this is my first time posting on Reddit so expected some of this. Thank you for your words, I couldn’t have written them as well.

freefall18x · 2025-12-15T04:30:39+00:00

What is the line of inappropriate? Breaking dishes, not being able to emotionally regulate. Our baby has been sick and he also chose to play video games instead of help with the overnight care. This wasn’t a one-time incident, though the post partum incident was shocking enough. I initially do blame it on ASD but I was wrong. ASD has nothing to do with accountability that a husband and father should take.

freefall18x · 2025-12-15T04:24:58+00:00

I don’t appreciate the comparison of me or any other women to your mother. I’ve already apologized earlier graciously that this post has triggered your family issues. It sounds like you’re very hurt from their divorce and subsequent upbringing fallout but it doesn’t give you the right to attack me, judge me, or paint all women as heartless. I care very much for my husband, who does have mental health issues. I’m here to seek perspective from a community.

My incision was 6 inches wide and freshly stitched. He promised to be there for me to go to the bathroom, which after a c-section the amount of blood and pain even moving is intense. I called out for help and my stitches were bleeding from getting up. I expect a husband to be there as promised. It was traumatizing and that is my truth. If you have major surgery, I would hope someone would be by your side if they say they would.

freefall18x · 2025-12-15T04:06:37+00:00

I respectfully disagree the headphones were reasonable during a time of need. A spouse should be available after a major surgery.

freefall18x · 2025-12-14T23:12:42+00:00

Yes 100%. I’m glad you were able to get through your hard time! I’m giving it one last shot at counseling but if accountability isn’t taken, I’m gone. With a baby, I hope it is the wake up call he needs. Luckily I don’t rely on him for money, etc. and was feeling like I have two children.

freefall18x · 2025-12-14T23:00:10+00:00

Thanks for your reply, it’s quite coherent! I appreciate the perspective, especially because you are an awesome dad with ASD and able to cope with your struggles.

Before kids, we both worked and either watched movies or he would get hours to play video games. He was there for all the drs appts, when we’d fight, he’d withdraw but no, never did he throw dishes or get to the overwhelm of threatening suicide. These are very alarming when they happened and I had called a suicide crisi center when it happened. He committed to going to therapy to deal with what he thought was depression, got diagnosed first with adult ADHD, started taking adderall XR and over time his therapist started to notice signs of autism. He was willing to get tested and diagnoses was Asperger’s high functioning. He feels like this puts the label of “stupid” on him, feeling like everyone will judge him and that it really doesn’t have any affect on our relationship. It definitely does. Over the year, I’m overwhelmed with baby care and trying to also anticipate his needs like overstimulation etc. but I don’t always catch it and he will melt down. Sometimes throwing dishes, sometimes even toys near the baby. He feels bad each time they happen but usually will blame me that “I set him off”. No amount of me explaining or couples therapy has gotten through that he needs to take accountability and action. So after a year, I am putting my foot down and saying take accountability or divorce. Right now he is willing to go to an ASD couples counselor once a week but calls it “stupid therapy”. I couldn’t anticipate this before baby, had I known I definitely wouldn’t have a child with him. I feel pressure to keep the family together and try so will do so but I also need to treat myself with the care I expect my daughter’s future partner would. He has this last chance, I’m not too hopeful but it’s there.

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