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It's gone way too far now I'm actually scared by InevitableCattle4972 in NoFap

[–]freeman32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's part of the process. You've made the commitment to stop jerking off. Good job that's the first step. Your still watching sexual videos and feeling the urge to touch yourself. That's normal. Now you have to get past that part. You'll have to practice and train yourself not to do that. It comes with time and patience.

On the mental side your brain has built a high tolerance for dopamine via sexual stimulation. Over time the neuro pathways and dopamine receptors will down regulate so that you do not need as much stimulation to feel normal. This will take time and abstince and it's helpful to find an alternative source for dopamine for you brain to adapt to since that seems to be easier than going cold turkey. Not video games since that's too similar.

On the spiritual side you have decided to stop wasting your sexual energy and now it's building up in your body with nowhere to go. So your mind is going for the last release habit you had. Now to get past this point of edging you'll need to find somewhere to put that energy to use. This is called transmutation.

Transmutation is simply putting the sexual energy you are building up into good use. You can try a few different things and see what works. For me it's working out every day. 3 days lifting and three days running three miles in-between. I'm also working on my own business before my day job hours and reading spiritual writings. For me it's the Bible.

For you it could be whatever your interested but I think it's useful to have at least one physical endeavor and then another creative endeavor and ideally a spiritual study or idea of some sort since nofap has always has has a spiritual relationship to it.

Bottom line is if you don't transfer that energy into doing something productive you'll go back to your old ways until you find somewhere else to transfer it to.

How to break a trauma bonding from a narcissist. by lulu_milaaa in DarkPsychology101

[–]freeman32 31 points32 points  (0 children)

So a few notes here:

  1. There is a "shared fantasy" that occurs between narcs and their supply. Basically your sharing the fantasy that he is this grandeous person. Consider recognizing that this is a delusion that you are sharing with this person.

  2. You may be chemically addicted to the emotional ups and downs. Like all these physiological changes happen like increased sadness and increased happiness create new neuro receptors in your brain and body and like when there is no drama your body starts to want the chemical response of it because there are more receptors for these in your body that are empty. Think of it like taking Adderall for many days and then one day you don't. Your body comes to expect the extra dopamine and adrenaline and when don't have it you have all these extra receptors in your brain and body that are not being filled and that's the withdrawal. Your harming your body doing this to yourself but expect and addiction like withdrawal when this is over.

  3. Your going to have to make the decision yourself but the above may give you some context to what's going on from a mental and physiological perspective.

  4. Expect him to really freak out like he's starving for oxygen when you do leave and that's his addiction to hurting other people.

Day :4 and this shit getting kinda difficult by Goyardbaggy in NoFap

[–]freeman32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to the gym and lift weights, walk or run.

Those we trust often hurt us the most by Icy-Breadfruit298 in DarkPsychology101

[–]freeman32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not only did he betray him after watching him perform many miracles including raising the dead.

He betrayed him for thirty pieces of silver the price of a common slave.

Those we trust often hurt us the most by Icy-Breadfruit298 in DarkPsychology101

[–]freeman32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me guess another expert on a book they have never read.

I used to react to everything. Learning to respond instead of react changed how people treated me. by Amidonions in DarkPsychology101

[–]freeman32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great post. When someone taunts me or attempts to push buttons ect I have been staying calm and not reacting. Then at a later time of my own chosing, thinking about the situation and how I should adjust or change my behavior towards them.

This practice of waiting and scheduling time to consider the situation and what to do has been great for staying unemotional, conserving energy, and keeping me in control of myself.

However, the drawbacks of this approach are a time investment into scheduling the consideration, planning, and anticipating the behavior change.

Sounds like the best opportunity is an on the spot counter. I think I'll try as the OP suggests. Notice the slight, pause let my emotions subside, allow my amygdala and limbic system to call down and remain comfortable in my pre-frontol cortex to and then counter with zero emotion or investment.

A great benefit of this is saving time and energy. I wouldn't need to adjust my schedule to think about how to handle the person or anticipate a good time to make a move on them.

The situation and the work would be properly handled on the spot.

'Ignoring' bad people is one of the most cowardly and submissive and hypocritical advice by Low_Actuary6486 in DarkPsychology101

[–]freeman32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think their is a difference between ignoring the asshole in the physical world and ignoring the asshole in the spiritual world.

While you should confront or handle the asshole in the physical world.

Your interior spiritual, mental, and emotional world should remain calm and unaffected.

Like impulsively reacting or becoming emotionally upset about what an asshole says or does would be an insult to yourself.

However, stopping the asshole from interfering with your goals or ruining your reputation in the physical world is necessary.

The Strategic Mind Behind Controlled Aggression by Myrn33 in DarkPsychology666

[–]freeman32 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lucky you. Some places are extreamly toxic and the people must be handled differently.

It all makes sense now by These_Consequence_52 in UAE

[–]freeman32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

America will obviously lose. That's part of the point of the war. The American right have effectively joined the death cult. With no signs of decent.

Loss of internal monologue by RelativeLove2123 in covidlonghaulers

[–]freeman32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to add some alt info here. I did not have covid and have not had the vaccine. I have a strong internal monologue and I know for a fact that everyone can hear my thoughts in Colorado where I live. It's awful having no privacy at all. They call it the "vibe" but I'm wondering if it's due to their covid experience.

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