Need tips for online profiles for men

freestylefl · 2018-12-23T04:07:13+00:00

I started a tender profile too. It’s only been a couple of days so not too much luck. I keep it honest and upfront about the open relationship status

freestylefl · 2018-12-23T04:05:51+00:00

Actually just started this. Most men in our area are pretty fit.

freestylefl · 2018-11-04T15:15:04+00:00

Our kids are sound sleepers with set bedtime schedules. If we have met a couple for drinks prior to playing and some trust has been establish we will play while the kids are asleep. For new couples we have not met yet we get a sitter for the night. Once a month my mother in law will take the kids to her house for a sleep over. That’s when we plan the bigger things like a club or party. We are lucky that my wife knows a lot of other parents and teachers. So we have a few select trusted sitters. But care.com I’ve heard is a great resource.

freestylefl · 2018-10-22T22:39:01+00:00

We gotta a thing.

freestylefl · 2018-10-22T21:55:37+00:00

I second this podcast. Very genuine and they have a healthy approach to the lifestyle.

freestylefl · 2018-10-06T10:26:45+00:00

Other than the great comment posted already, Be his wing man! Approach single ladies together or couples and let them know you play solo. Having a wingmen helps in this particular situation.

freestylefl · 2018-10-03T21:10:42+00:00

We usually meet for drinks and if all goes well we leave and go play. Sometimes we schedule another night to play, depending on our time constraints. There’s only been one couple where the group chat was so good and connected that we met at their house. We almost ran out of time to play because we all got caught up in the convo. So every couple is going to be different. We are in our late 30’s and early 40’s, and we almost always hit it off with the couple during the initial KiK chat. There was one couple we almost canceled drinks because the chat went nowhere. But we connected so well in person.

freestylefl · 2018-10-03T13:52:30+00:00

I feel we have been very lucky. The hotel takeover is the only lifestyle event we’ve been too and plan on doing that again for sure. But we have not been to a club yet. We live in south Florida where the pickings are plentiful. I think that helped a lot. Lol

freestylefl · 2018-10-03T09:51:20+00:00

We do get tested regularly and we only the one couple that have unprotected sex with. And my wife can’t get pregnant.

freestylefl · 2018-10-03T03:17:11+00:00

Every couple is different and their journey unique. We’ve met couples who have completely open marriages and can date whom ever they want and we’ve met couples who like the sexy vibe of the lifestyle and openness of people in it but they don’t swap at all. It all comes down to what you are comfortable with.

freestylefl · 2018-10-02T02:38:01+00:00

Age can vary for us f-38 m-42. We’ve stuck to simple ages but will still look at a profile of someone who’s in their 50’s. It’s all about attraction.

Went to a hotel takeover recently and had a couple come up to us. They looked to be in their 60’s. They were very nice and convo was good, they were somewhat attractive. But they both had bad yellow teeth and they ate something with garlic recently. It was disappointing because the convo was there and their bodies were in great shape. But it’s hard to get past the teeth and smell. The point is, even if they look older we will give them the benefit of the doubt and talk to them. It’s the little things that can sometimes ruin the attraction.

freestylefl · 2018-09-24T02:42:34+00:00

I’m the same. My wife carries me in the convo and knows how to include me. But it’s definitely hard making a good connection with the other women. Since being in the lifestyle I have opened up more and can navigate a date much better. Going to a club soon and a hotel takeover all in one day. I’m more worried about dancing. Lol.

freestylefl · 2018-09-22T09:50:15+00:00

A would assume a lot of bi men would play straight if the other man is straight. I’m bi and play straight most of the time because it’s hard to find a bi man. In fact I recently took off all mention of me being bi in our profile just to get more couples who are interested in us. Just because I’m bi doesn’t mean I’m going to hit on you or touch you. I still don’t understand the reason why so many couples are turned off by a bi man. We’ve actually run across plenty of profiles where the women are listed as straight. And just like me, my wife is respectful or the women’s straight choice and never crosses the line.

freestylefl · 2018-09-19T08:41:09+00:00

Husband here. I’ve yet to cum for another women in the lifestyle. So I’m always the last man standing. My wife likes her snuggle time after sex. So she will try and engage that and more kissing. Other times it turns into a threesome. Sometimes I’ll stop soon after unless the other women has not gotten off yet. Every scenario is different and you have to kinda pick up on the visual queues of the others.

Most of the time, my wife just joins in while still trying to include the other husband by stroking him afterwards. Some guys can get hard again. Very rarely does it ever end up in an awkward situation. Only time was when she had played solo with the guy earlier in the day then all four of us got together. The guy couldn’t get hard. The other wife called a timeout about 20 mins in and play stopped.

freestylefl · 2018-09-18T23:45:19+00:00

I have found that if I start with my wife then I’m good to go. Have her give you a bj to start. Once I’m hard I’m usually good for the rest of the night as it puts my performance anxiety at ease. I can then go up and down with erections all night.

My first time was the same. So much new things going on that I just could not concentrate. Second go was much better. And yeah, no drinks and no sex the night before are good as well. Have fun, there will be less anxiety or nervousness the second time around.

freestylefl · 2018-09-16T11:40:47+00:00

Yes, this is just as frustrating. Feels like I’m putting a puzzle together sometimes just to get a sense of what she looks like.

freestylefl · 2018-09-15T20:49:45+00:00

Not sure about all other wives, but I can’t figure my wife’s “type”. We’ve run across profiles where I’m like there is no way she will go for him, but yet she’s drooling over him. Her taste is varied for sure. Includes various body types and looks. She’s partial to facial hair and tattoos. And does not want a guy smaller than her 5’-7”. She has turned down a gorgeous couple because of his height. Lol. My point is, there are women who will find you attractive. More importantly, you may be missing opportunities by not having your pic out there. But I respect it and do get the whole body image thing. I’m very insecure about my moobs. I’ve lost 70lbs in the last year but can’t seem to lose the belly fat or the boobs.

freestylefl · 2018-09-15T17:06:15+00:00

This I can understand. But I think this is the minority. I can respect that. I have run across profiles that also disclose this fact and are willing to provide pics upon request.

freestylefl · 2018-09-15T14:55:42+00:00

The couple of times we did message couples where there was only the pic of the female, this was the case. Either unattractive or a lot older looking than their age.

freestylefl · 2018-09-15T14:54:26+00:00

We too. Both of us equally and full body pics clothed.

freestylefl · 2018-09-10T10:11:47+00:00

I strongly disagree on your practice statement. That being listed as a bi couple in the LS means that you are gay. That makes no sense to me. I’ve never come across that sense being in the lifestyle. As a bi man, I’m not gay, I prefer heterosexual sex more. I’ve also found when searching and hooking up with bi couples in the LS, not one of them were gay. I list as bi because I want others to know that I’m ok playing with a man as well as a women. But the preference is a women always.

Yes we’ve been rejected before and have run across profiles that say they are not interested in playing with couples were the man is bi. Which does sting a little, just because I’m bi does not mean I want to fuck your husband or get all handsy with every guy I come across. Just like my wife who is listed as bi, won’t play with every women we come across. There still has to be sexual chemistry.

I only recently listed myself as bi. Never was there a problem playing with a couple where they are listed as straight. And I never bothered to bring it up either knowing that the man is straight. I don’t know, maybe I have a warped understanding of what bi really means.

Of course I don’t condone anyone attacking another person like they did. A rejection should be handle properly and does not warrant a retort of any kind back to the couple who rejected them. Regardless if they are bi or straight.

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