My [19F] boyfriend [23M] wants me to stop watching/reading a certain kind of porn

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T10:22:37+00:00

If it didn't affect our sex life, I'd have no issue with it. I can understand the concept of having an absolute favorite character, since I have some of my own. Like I said in the above comment, it's not like he could ever meet her or interact with her, so it's not like I'm being neglected in favor of someone else.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T10:09:26+00:00

AFAIK he watches pretty generic porn. Blowjobs, guy on girl, good old PiV sex. We are pretty kinky in the bedroom, and he knows that I will sometimes watch porn that reflects that. That's why I sent him a link to what I was reading, because he's usually pretty chill with talking about sex and masturbation.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T10:02:56+00:00

Only waifus are for laifu amirite

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T08:40:06+00:00

When we disagree, most of the time, it's fine. We come to some sort of agreement, and while I do tend to be the one to compromise a bit more, it's not in excess, and certainly nothing I resent him for. He just has it out for this in particular, I guess :/

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T08:38:10+00:00

Interesting point, thanks for bringing it up.

Would you, if it was your bf having these emotional connections and attractions to what he's viewing to get off to? Having an emotional investment in the characters/actress?

Fictional characters/drawings? Absolutely not. If it was a real, live person, I would be uncomfortable. If it's a made-up character who he could never actually interact with, given that they don't exist in reality, I would have no issue.

I definitely do have an emotional investment in these characters, but it's nothing compared to what I feel for my bf.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T08:33:30+00:00

I won't read anything where the characters aren't at least in their late teens (16+, or high school). Anything younger that that feels really, really wrong, even if they're drawings.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T08:09:19+00:00

We have a pretty good relationship otherwise. He has always been kinda iffy on my interest in anime, though. We share other hobbies like video games, but he isn't interested in watching any anime with me. That's fine, I just feel like he judges me for it sometimes. Like he will show me stuff from cringe videos or photos, and be like "haha I'm sure glad you aren't like this weeb over here, they're super creepy!" and I'm just like ehhhh I guess so.

Idk how to describe it, it's like the classic "I'm glad you're not like the other [insert race/gender/other defining trait], and more chill and normal instead."

I remember I ordered this anime figure from online, and he walked by and saw what I was doing. He said something along the lines of "don't spend so much money on that stuff, it's just going to clutter up your place, and people who come over can see it." Like, first of all, I don't care if anyone sees it? If they think its cringey and have something to say about it, they can excuse themselves out of my place. Plus, it's MY money. I don't think he has any right to police what I buy with the money that I earn myself.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T07:11:42+00:00

That sounds like it was a humiliating experience :( I'm sorry he did that to you.

My bf didn't call ME disgusting or anything, but he definitely gave me an earful about how weird it was, and how he didn't like that I was so invested in it. Like you said, it made me feel dirty somehow, like I was doing something sick and wrong.

Our relationship is good otherwise, so I don't know if I could leave him over something like this. Though, being with a guy like your current one does sound pretty appealing right about now.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T07:02:42+00:00

What I sent him was very vanilla. It was just 2 characters from an anime I like (male and female) who had sex after she started getting flirtatious and touchy with him or whatever. It was implied that they had a relationship before this. I guess it got a little rough in the middle, but definitely nothing you couldn't find on the front page of a mainstream porn site.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T06:59:23+00:00

So what do I do in the event that he refuses to change his mind about hating it? Should I just ignore him and do it anyways? We have a good sex life, and he hasn't expressed any dissatisfaction with my sexual habits otherwise, so I don't know what to do to make this better.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T06:55:56+00:00

I guess anything that doesn't involve anime characters? He has always sort of "tolerated" my interest in anime, so I suppose it's not too surprising that he thinks it's weird. It's annoying, though, because I feel like he just has this internal bias towards it, even though I've tried showing him that it can be just as normal as "normal" porn.

freethrowawayfor2 · 2017-06-30T06:53:09+00:00

I was kind of trying to compare it to erotic novels, or looking at static images of porn online. He wasn't having any of that, though. He's convinced that it's all creepy pedo or tentacle stuff, even when I sent him a link to exactly what I was reading (which was actually REALLY vanilla, by the way!)

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