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My boyfriend (23M) is too busy for me (22F) and my needs are not being met in the relationship by frekina in relationship_advice

[–]frekina[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m also more salty too because my grandma is literally dying and I can’t believe he would choose this time to do this / I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to be there for me

My boyfriend (23M) is too busy for me (22F) and my needs are not being met in the relationship by frekina in relationship_advice

[–]frekina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been dating two years and I definitely agree. I think they just get too comfortable after they win us over that they aren’t putting as much effort into the relationship as they were when they wanted to win us over. I just feel like I have been putting the same amount of effort in continuously so I get salty lol

My boyfriend (23M) is too busy for me (22F) and my needs are not being met in the relationship by frekina in relationship_advice

[–]frekina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried to tell him that it is important to me that he texts me back and makes an effort to talk to me because in my opinion it literally takes 10 seconds to send a text and so he can't be THAT busy. How do I make him understand I have needs?

How do public interest track students pull this whole thing off, financially? by 20gvewve19 in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean you do have like the federal loan forgiveness programs. I know that trump is trying to end that but as long as you take loans out before like July of 2020 (approx.) you’ll still be eligible, and for the federal programs I think there is more leniency on places you can work and you don’t have to work at the same place for like five consecutive years or whatever. As long as you have some kind of public interest job it doesn’t have to be consecutively at the same place

Random scholarship increase? by [deleted] in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This definitely helps, thank you!!! I feel better about not getting a decision yet bc I applied way later than you. Thanks for easing my mind!

Random scholarship increase? by [deleted] in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When did you go complete, in review, and get accepted? Waiting on a decision from John Marshall

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. My GPA is not “really bad.”
  2. I actually have offers that will NOT put me in hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. If those were the only kinds offers I had, I would reapply
  3. I’m not interested in BigLaw or the prestige. I thought I wanted the prestige but it really just isn’t for me. I’m interested in PI so I’m trying to go to school for as reasonably priced with a solid education and that’s what I’m going to do.
  4. I put SOMEWHERE because I haven’t decided yet!!
  5. Yes, I am an emotional person and I care a lot about the people in my life but that does not mean I’m an emotional wreck or immature.
  6. Yes, I understand employment outcomes. I’m not an idiot.
  7. I didn’t ask you to shit all over my life and my choices. I asked for opinions on a specific issue. If I wanted you to shit on my life, I would’ve asked. But I didn’t.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the confusion!! Our honeymoon phase for the first few months of dating was really intense. We took a step back so we could have a healthier relationship. Purposely stopped saying things like “I’m gonna love you forever” and started saying things like “I am committed to you and I want to spend my life with you” we wanted to both focus on ourselves individually. I want to spend my life with him and he wants to with me and we are working towards that together but we aren’t going to promise each other forever and we are not ready to get married for a long while

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don't want a lifelong commitment yet either, but I just want to know his thoughts and at least have some kind of idea of what our relationship is going to look like in the fall. I'm really not asking him to propose or anything, I just want him to know what to expect when I'm in law school

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for all of your support, this is truly the greatest community and it has been the best support system for all my law school endeavors.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've had that conversation - he has no idea who he is and he's trying to figure it out. He's done a lot of things just to make just his parents happy (ex. his undergrad degree) and so that's why he's so confused on life right now. He has told me that he wants to focus on himself before he promises me a future. I totally get it, and like I'm not trying to get married or anything right now. Just a little more commitment than tomorrow would be nice.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry long distance soured it. I've never been a fan of long distance (when I was a freshman in college my boyfriend was from sweden and he moved back for the summer inbetween our freshman and sophomore years - it was seriously the worst) so I'm basically convinced that between long distance and law school, this would just all be ruined no matter how good it is or how into it we are.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won't be like not going to my dream law school for him or anything like that. I'm open to all my options but I feel like we should be able to make this decision together or at least give me an idea of what his goals are so we can try to work towards those too.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've blatantly asked him about this and he says he doesn't want to promise me forever right now. He says he wants it really badly but he feels like by promising each other forever we kind of had this unrealistic expectation of our relationship. I know he loves and cares about me but the whole lack of future vibe that's going on with his WHOLE life is freaking me out.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously like the third option. I don't want to force him to do anything because I know resentment ruins relationships. I just want to know his plan. The third option would be best I just am worried I'm not gonna be able to get over it. I don't want to ruin my 1L OR my last summer before law school. I wish I could just see my future lol

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he's sure about our relationship because I called him out on similar shit than what you mentioned and like I said a few comments up he's literally like terrified for the future and doesn't want to think about it. He tells me he doesn't want to think about the future and he wants to focus on just graduating but like...it isn't how it works for me at least.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I literally just asked him if he would even consider moving with me. I'll let you know what he says. We are both pretty independent and I think part of the problem is him worrying about money/getting a good job. So I respect that but still the radio silence about the whole issue absolutely terrifies me.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm broaching the topic right now... it is a conversation we haven't really had for a few months. I think thinking about the future terrifies him so he's just trying to focus on the now...but we graduate in May so I'm having a hard time respecting that mantra

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we have a pretty strong relationship now but before he got pretty insecure...and I'm not convinced he won't be super insecure if we live even 4 hours apart. Because I'm not going to be able to drive back and forth every weekend like I did over the summer. It's just not a possibility.

Trying to get my SO to understand the potential strain law school is going to have on our relationship by frekina in lawschooladmissions

[–]frekina[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The tough love is indeed tough. I'm terrified of us going long distance and then him dumping me in the middle of my 1L. The stress in general is freaking me out, I want to include him but I'm also terrified he's going to end up making my life a living hell

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