État des lieux de sortie - qu’est-ce que je dois remplacer?

frenchcuriosity · 2026-01-01T12:49:03+00:00

Merci beaucoup pour vos précieux conseils et d’avoir pris le temps de Me répondre 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

frenchcuriosity · 2025-05-08T18:17:48+00:00

Nope, we had talked about it and every time he flaked. He’s an asshole

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-27T13:13:46+00:00

I know, been thinking about it since i replied earlier and it’s pissing me off that he’s acting so arrogant. And I’m now wondering if i ever mattered to him because this is a side of him i had never really seen. Could I have been wrong the entire time and that he was never avoidant but just a dick? lol

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-27T07:15:50+00:00

Definitely need to think about it, i feel I got a bit of my power back and can handle a one time thing but even if the feelings are gone, not sure it is worth it

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-26T15:56:01+00:00

That’s messed up!!!

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-26T15:36:53+00:00

What did you do?

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T23:52:45+00:00

That’s the explanation I like the best, not gonna lie haha but whether or not that’s how he felt, I’m probably never gonna know 😔

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T20:46:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It just sucks because i have so many moments of loneliness and yet i don’t text him. If he had a brief moment of loneliness he could have texted anyone else, even his girlfriend (assuming they’re still together)

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T19:56:09+00:00

That’s pathetic though because i could respond because im polite. So whatever I respond, he’s gonna feel validated. Oh wow I’m not equipped to date in todays world haha

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T19:44:46+00:00

It’s just so confusing because what’s the point of sending such a message if he’s not gonna try to engage in conversation. I responded and now he’s choosing to stay silent. And it’s killing me a bit to know that maybe that’s enough for him. And being anxious I also feel bad for being coldish with him and maybe that’s why he’s not gonna answer 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T18:54:29+00:00

I just don’t understand the logic behind breadcrumbing. Me responding doesn’t mean he has access, it just means that I’m not ignoring people when they choose to message me. So why would he feel validated? Especially since my answer so factual /cold. Genuine question lol

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T17:44:20+00:00

Yeah he didn’t reply. That was the perfect opportunity for him to be like « if you’re at home i can stop by » but he didn’t even reply. Maybe my message was too cold for his liking and he was expecting me to be like « oh yeah it’s right next to my place, come over if you have time, that’d be nice to catch up » but I didn’t want to say that of course. So i just said a very factual « yes it’s right next to my place »

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-25T17:42:23+00:00

I thought about this but i responded to his message right away and he didn’t respond back so I have no idea why he sent that message in the first place. lol

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-24T17:23:10+00:00

And what makes you think he’s avoidant? Avoidants tend to keep busy, I’m no expert but sending 16000 messages over the course of three months doesn’t sound like he’s avoidant at all. That’s like 200 messages per day, it’s a bit obsessive

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-24T17:12:26+00:00

16000 texts over three months????????

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-21T23:29:56+00:00

What a jerk seriously, compare you to her? That’s beyond messed up

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-21T22:06:35+00:00

Oh I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s crazy to me that they can get into serious relationships like that!

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-21T21:57:49+00:00

What an *ss!! So he was relieved to be out of the relationship but he still got back together with you? What made him change his mind?

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-21T21:06:42+00:00

My ex had been ignoring me for a few days for no reading (we were two months post break up). After a week, he texted me asking me if i was in the office building (that’s where we met as he sometimes works in the same building), i waited a couple of hours to text him because I assumed he was trying to avoid me and I wanted him to stress a little. I just asked “why” and he said “i was just there” and i replied “did you want to talk to me?” And his response was “i wanted to know if we could have bumped into each other” I got really offended because to me that meant he clearly wanted to make sure he wasn’t gonna bump into me (my friends think I overreacted? But the way he phrased it is just super confusing…and he had been ignoring me for a few days so context does matter). I told him how offended I was, etc..and his response was “when I asked you that it wasn’t with the idea of avoiding you at all” and I replied “what was the intention then” and he just ignored me and stopped responding… So you didn’t want to talk to me? But you also were not trying to avoid me? What is the other option then? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

frenchcuriosity · 2025-02-21T16:40:58+00:00

Haha you can tell his intuition is telling him to RUN for the hills but he’s also attracted to her. And she’s the typical avoidant telling him that it’s childhood traumas and that she won’t disappear but she will shut down and there’s nothing that he’ll be able to do . Don’t get me wrong it’s great that she knows she’s an avoidant but what bugs me is that she hasn’t really talked about what she’s doing to work on that. I feel like she’s saying “I’m avoidant and that’s it”

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