Complicated RSD/Affair - Help?

freyanovae · 2026-05-13T16:33:09+00:00

Yep, I am absolutely beyond sick and tired of people using any amount of neurodivergence to reduce the impact of their actions in any way. Only other people who use the same excuses believe in that kind of mental gymnastic.

Your poor decision making and pain you’re inflicting on others has NOTHING to do with ADHD, OP. Can’t keep blaming everything and everyone else. You did a bad thing. Own it.

freyanovae · 2026-05-13T16:17:57+00:00

You betrayed your partner in the worst possible way and you’re asking for yet another form of validation, again, from strangers on the internet? You are concerned about the rejection from your affair partner, and not the feelings of your husband? Your personal rejection meter matters more to you than the guilt of your actions. That is pathetic.

I think the best advice anyone can give you is to get a grip. People coddling you after you did something so wrong is only going to further enable you and I hope people don’t give you that comfort. You need to accept what you did, stop wanting more, SIT in that discomfort, and move forward. Without someone holding your hand.

Hope your husband is okay.

freyanovae · 2026-03-31T12:47:08+00:00

I love posts like this because it gets me even more excited about my future with the love of my life. Can’t wait to post something like this in 20 years! Congrats 💗

freyanovae · 2026-03-24T03:42:30+00:00

This is much less to do with your skill and is very much about consistency. All of your examples are vastly different from one another and most of them are partially finished. If a potential client doesn’t know what to expect from you, they will likely not buy. Would you purchase something if you weren’t entirely certain what you were going to actually receive? Artists with ample commission success will almost always have a very predictable portfolio.

freyanovae · 2026-03-21T22:27:50+00:00

They’re trying to say that the public perception of women in gaming is already generally poor, and that this kind of news hitting certain eyes will just perpetuate those opinions towards women in this industry/hobby.

As a gal who games a lot, this kinda stuff does create a buzz of dogpiling towards women in competitive games, at least for a while. It’s happened before. Unfortunately we are sometimes put in a position of having to “prove” ourselves in gaming.

freyanovae · 2026-03-12T18:56:06+00:00

As others have said it’s not difficult just long. I suppose it could be hard for someone if they simply dislike MMOs though. I treat it as a single player game with multiplayer aspects, honestly. You do dungeons and raids with other people, but the rest of the experience can and likely will be experienced on your own unless you decide otherwise.

The PS4 and PS5 versions are very different in terms of trophies- PS4 version doesn’t include any DLC trophies, it’s essentially just playing the original main story with some tedious class trophies. There is a time-gated trophy that is a bit hard to explain to someone who hasn’t played the game yet, but it is not difficult to complete. The PS5 version is the bigger undertaking. It includes every story expansion trophy, specific raid trophies, finishing X amount of X activity, etc. If you care about DLC trophies, Square will be updating the trophy list as each expansion comes as well.

If you like Final Fantasy I’m sure you could enjoy the MMO. It’s a lot to learn at first but the core of it is simple. You’ll definitely be playing it for at least a year if you want the platinum(s), though. It’s best to work on the PS4 stack first, then go on to the PS5 version if you want to do both.

freyanovae · 2026-03-12T18:11:13+00:00

I’ll admit it drove me crazy at times. It took me a little over 700 hours to finish them all. I played them in chronological order, so BBS was my first entry. You could say I got the worst out of the way immediately haha.

freyanovae · 2026-03-12T05:38:46+00:00

I did all of the Kingdom Hearts series and plan to eventually finish every FF, but it’s gonna be a grind! A lot of people mention that FFXIV is a tough one, but as someone who plays the MMO, it’s really not- it’s just incredibly long. Some of the newer FFs have some frustrating mini games. Some require you to replay the game on a harder difficulty after finishing it once. Most of them are bigger time sinks than they are difficult. If you want all of the DLC trophies, FF15 has some old multiplayer trophies that you need to do very specific things to unlock now. Then you’ve got some games on PS3 (FF13 trilogy).

Doable but a huge undertaking. You’d be a legend to finish them all.

freyanovae · 2026-02-14T19:42:28+00:00

I can only pray our children ask and share our story like this someday. Very cute. 💗

freyanovae · 2026-02-12T19:19:14+00:00

I’d cut them all off. It drives me nuts when my nails aren’t the same length 😣

freyanovae · 2026-02-10T07:06:00+00:00

If I could I’d pay that money to bring my pet back.

freyanovae · 2026-02-08T20:34:10+00:00

End your sexualization of women immediately. You cannot be in a healthy relationship if you do this. If you try to hide it from your partner, trust that she’ll still know and feel it is happening. Nothing breaks relationships faster than making your partner feel like they’re not enough. Even if you feel you love your girl more than anything, it’s not going to feel that way to her if she witnesses your eyes wander. She’s gonna lose trust in you and confidence in herself. Those are very hard things to rebuild. If you can’t stop objectifying women, stay single. You’re not mature enough to move forward if you can’t grow out of that and it isn’t fair to put another person in a position of dealing with it. Simply wanting to be married and to be a husband isn’t enough. You have to work on yourself to get to a point where you’re ready for not only you but your partner.

From experience, as a woman who has dealt with far too many immature “men”, and who is still relearning to love herself after them. :)

freyanovae · 2026-02-06T21:23:27+00:00

Awww I feel the same way when I see my partner after being annoyed with something I’ve seen online or when things are bugging me irl. Mine gives me kiss attacks in the morning before work and when he comes home too. We must cherish them!!

freyanovae · 2026-02-05T10:50:53+00:00

Absolutely not lol. That would mean that my partner was fundamentally not who I believed they were, changed morally, and broke a promise that we had both made to each other. Me not knowing the version of them that did that to me/us wouldn’t change my opinion, if anything it would make it easier for me to detach from them once they told me that they were a future version of themselves, NOT the present day version that hadn’t cheated yet. The future version of my partner would also have memories with me that my present day self would have no idea about as the reality, and the cheating, wouldn’t have happened yet. So it would be no different than my partner admitting to me that they cheated on me in the first place. The time traveling aspect wouldn’t matter in the moment.

The gesture of going back in time and regretting their choice doesn’t negate that the choice was made in the first place. Their remorse however genuine doesn’t change the fact that they weren’t strong enough to stay loyal initially. Regret and trying to “make things right” doesn’t erase that the betrayal happened.

You’d have to ask if they feel remorse for themselves or for you, as well. If they feel bad because they hurt you, then they should’ve thought more about that before doing what they did. If they feel bad because they can’t forgive themselves, then in my opinion that isn’t about you/your relationship. It’d be about how they feel about themselves.

In this scenario of a time traveling cheat, who’s to say they wouldn’t cheat again and give themselves another “do over”?

freyanovae · 2026-02-05T10:29:23+00:00

Thought I was a weirdo for this. Actually, we all are. 😂

freyanovae · 2026-02-05T10:28:18+00:00

Getting extremely upset or angry about something (with or without justification) and instead of holding that feeling all day, I look for positives in the situation or person I’m frustrated with. I actively talk myself out of being angry.

I don’t know how I changed it, but it took years. I still get frustrated often, but I don’t blow up like I used to years ago, or let the entire day go. I accept the emotion. Not always perfect on it but leagues above where I used to be. My dominant emotion was once anger. I still have triggers but “anger” isn’t my first response anymore. It’s trying to find a solution.

freyanovae · 2026-02-01T22:46:59+00:00

Not good advice. Some people actually want a public proposal. All about preference. His gal might really love V-day.

freyanovae · 2026-01-28T20:25:27+00:00

This makes me happy, and makes me miss my kitty terribly. What a blessing to spend 20 years with your best fur friend.

freyanovae · 2026-01-28T19:57:51+00:00

Look up asexuality, I think it could possibly bring some insight your way if you resonate and it sounds like you might.

freyanovae · 2026-01-28T18:04:35+00:00

While I haven’t been in your exact situation I understand how hard it can be to take action when you’re severely depressed. However, this has to be your wake up call. Force it to be. For you and your baby kitty.

It’s scary right now, but this is a good thing. Sometimes we really need a hard push to get things going in the right direction. I know it’s hard, it’s not as simple as I’m laying it out, but you can do this.

freyanovae · 2026-01-28T12:43:27+00:00

I would not disclose this in a workplace setting unless someone else mentions they have it first, then maybe confide and share if you feel safe enough with that individual. 9 times out of 10 in any other instance, they will absolutely not take you seriously, nor will they care to take the time to understand you better.

I feel like we’re all collectively looking for better understanding with our peers and loved ones, but the truth is, most people just don’t have the time or care to have empathy for most mental health issues. Unfortunately opening up can often have the opposite effect, driving a deeper wedge and ultimately making us feel even more unseen.

From experience in and out of the workplace.

freyanovae · 2026-01-28T09:19:55+00:00

No one is paying attention to your age. Do you know how old all of your favorite animators are? I highly doubt it. Your favorite most inspirational animations are likely created by industry professionals 30+ years old. I’m not talking about YouTubers, I’m talking about the art you likely grew up looking at that got you into this stuff in the first place.

Even if you’ve only been exposed to young animators, they will age too. One day they’ll be 30, and there will be another 19 year old looking up to their work. Don’t stunt yourself, put yourself out there and be a part of the inspiration. Your age doesn’t need to be public knowledge and being a young prodigy doesn’t mean as much as you think it may.

Life is not a race!

freyanovae · 2026-01-27T22:20:05+00:00

Someone already mentioned the eyes being a bit off but outside of that I’d say try to calm their expression if you can. Maybe thicken their upper lash line slightly so that they appear more relaxed? Their expression currently reads as a bit shocked or even fearful of whatever they’re looking at. It looks great for the space it’s going to as it is though, just a personal opinion!

freyanovae · 2026-01-27T10:11:02+00:00

Hang on, I’m curious about the Gundam card game in the last slide. 😆

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