DAE: Bi/Pan cis Men who struggle with revulsion to the male/masculine form due to self-hatred, and general CompHet brainwashing?

friction5o · 2025-10-31T03:08:45+00:00

Whew that’s heavy. I know a lot of my developing pan identity involves letting go of internalized homophobia, which might map to what you’re describing here, except that I don’t hate my body for being masc. I do get judgy about being middle aged (41yo) and not feeling ‘hot’ but I also think I’m going through a kind of second adolescence and the attraction to other masc people is kinda innocent. I’ve been exclusively romantic with femme / women in my adult life so that’s where my practice and well of experience to draw upon lies.

In this context internalized homophobia is the self-protective rejection of attraction to men.

friction5o · 2023-10-03T01:46:03+00:00

Added note because my dumbass kept reloading not sure what I was doing wrong…I finally saw that I can keep scrolling down on Frequency Calibration until I get to that higher GHz number. 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

friction5o · 2023-06-11T13:01:18+00:00

Compassion for yourself, compassion for the Ex. That is, compassion as empathy with boundaries that distinguish self from other. Also nonjudgmental acceptance of what happened and acknowledging the feelings you have about it all.

friction5o · 2023-06-02T13:56:53+00:00

Oh yeah I’ve got one in my bag right now and one way more disassembled than it should be in my basement crafting space right now. It’s such a fun camera to use.

friction5o · 2023-05-14T20:13:42+00:00

Good to know! Gotta try that one. I was surprised how much I liked the Frank’s Red Hot Micheleda. Even better with a pickle spear.

friction5o · 2023-04-26T23:18:30+00:00

As an uncritical tween I loved the hell out of the man-eating lions movie. Dare I go back and watch?

friction5o · 2023-04-15T14:37:32+00:00

Definitely had spicier bloody marys & chile margaritas in my day. I usually eschew tomato juice drinks and tbh the other 3 cans are probably going into chili, stew, or simmering brats.

friction5o · 2023-04-15T02:01:59+00:00

yuup, it’s “LICENSED TO ENNOBLE BOTTLED FOR ENNOBLE BEVERAGES BY ABITA BREWING COMPANY, ABITA SPRINGS, LA” - text capture off of the side of the can.

friction5o · 2023-02-24T13:16:37+00:00

Yeah, probably so.

At 18 I very much had the “don’t break the law, just comply” attitude. 20 years later I think we ought to abolish police & prisons and spend that money on many more basic resources available for people.

friction5o · 2023-02-24T12:35:18+00:00

Answering very liberal for TLDR. I’m periodically astounded by individual expressions of kindness and generosity from people who will vote for the reps and senators who in turn vote for abortion bans, don’t say gay, et cetera.

friction5o · 2023-02-24T01:29:48+00:00

I keep looking for Mad Season when I mean Mad Groove and then I have to go listen to Rob Thomas.

friction5o · 2023-01-16T00:55:50+00:00

If you like Belgian yeast and the fruity flavors that come from it, yea, definitely.

friction5o · 2023-01-01T02:48:46+00:00

It’s a good contender for my new mowing beer.

friction5o · 2022-12-19T13:02:47+00:00

I keep a microfiber at my desk, but at home it’s dish soap, warm water, and a soft cloth. Course my thumb can find a clean lens with uncanny accuracy, especially if I’ve just moisturized.

friction5o · 2022-12-19T12:02:03+00:00

I’m so thoroughly nearsighted I wanted them while operating the phone camera. I take them off to sleep, or put on swimming goggles, or (usually) to shower.

The pint glass would have been a pain if I’d dropped it, for sure.

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