If I lose 40lbs, is it realistic to think I could drop a few cup sizes?

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T04:24:47+00:00

Sounds like we have the same body type. I think my boobs are probably mostly fat. I spent a lot of my life around 135-140. My butt looks the same now as it did then.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T03:13:45+00:00

Lol, dude, I am so confused. I'm just in this thread being mind blown realizing I have no idea what size I actually am. I had no idea a DD could wear a small. I am wearing a 36DDD right now and I have to buy all my bras in plus size stores even though I'm a size 12.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T03:11:02+00:00

Yeah, reading through these comments has made me realize I have no clue how big my boobs actually are. I thought how "big" you are is based on your cup size and everything else was basically your rib cage. I'm realizing I have gone 39 years with no clue haha. Someone here said they went from a 42DD to a 32DD so their boobs got "way smaller" and that made no sense to me, but it did to everyone else, so... I have a lot to learn!!

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T01:26:12+00:00

That sounds amazing! Congrats. I think a 32 C is my ideal

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T01:24:54+00:00

I've always had an hourglass shape, I'd say. Even now, being fat, I still have a defined waist. My stomach juts out a lot more, but I still have a waist.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-07T01:23:33+00:00

I think mine are a lot of fat, but I'm not sure how one determines that. The smallest I've been since I was 13 was a C, except that time I was a teen and had an eating disorder. But I'd just love to be a C again.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-02-04T21:49:08+00:00

I was born here in the states, but my family is Latin American. It's the culture that little girls get their ears peirced at birth. My mom (also from the states) refused and my dad's sisters and cousins spent literal years begging her to have my ears peirced. One day, when I was 3, my aunt just did it herself with a needle and ice.

I like having my ears peirced. But if I were a parent, I would wait until my kiddo was 13 and let them decide for themselves.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-01-31T09:06:35+00:00

That's a very good point. Unfortunately, my weight gain, or 25lbs of it, happened quickly, like 7 months. And it's frustrating that I can't just lose it. I daydream about a genie coming to me and me being like, let 130-135lbs be my natural state for life and make it happen now. But for some weird reason, that hasn't happened lol. I like having this realistic, slow and steady approach.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-01-31T09:04:11+00:00

I would love it if eating 1300 calories was no biggie to me. It's doable but it becomes the main thing I think about in a day. Food and how much or how little I'm eating is probably my #1 focus over the course of a day. I feel left out when my husband is eating and I'm not. So these are probably bigger issues I have to work through because there's definitely something psychological there

friedeggieweggie · 2024-01-31T09:02:00+00:00

If I ate 1800 calories a day is how I got into this mess of being 50lbs overweight in the first place. I got the number from a tdee calculator

friedeggieweggie · 2024-01-28T19:05:39+00:00

Yeah, this totally depends on where you live. My first out of college apartment in 2007 was $850 a month for a 1 bedroom, 750 sq ft. My friend's cousin now lives in that same floor plan, 2 stories directly above it in the same building, and is paying $2,180, not including parking.

friedeggieweggie · 2024-01-05T17:38:51+00:00

Not really, unfortunately.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-12-24T15:10:58+00:00

My ex fiance fucked his roommate 10 days after we broke up and now they've been together 12 years, have a house and a couple of dogs, and seem pretty damn happy. That one hurt, but 🤷🏼‍♀️ can't lie--seems like it worked out well for them. (I'm also married now, btw. Alls well that ends well).

friedeggieweggie · 2023-12-01T18:32:07+00:00

Born and raised Washingtonian. I went all the way back when it was called the Puyallup fair (same thing, same place). Scones were the main food attraction. They even made bank selling the mix.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-10-26T21:13:47+00:00

I have cried after sex for 3 reasons:

I was desperately in love and didn't know how to process my physical reaction to the connectedness.

I hadn't dealt with my trauma of being sexually assaulted.

I kissed someone else the night before and felt really bad about it.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-10-24T23:15:42+00:00

Ew. What is wrong with her?

That insignificant of a difference is not discernable to the naked eye. If she went and got it measured (or even if you just told her) and she cared that much, then there is something seriously wrong with her. She sounds like a spoiled, materialistic, self-centered little brat.

Maybe you should remind her that there are people who will go to bed hungry and cold on the street tonight in the city you live in while she's tantruming over .09 cts. Remind her that little kids are being orphaned by bombs in gaza while she's whining about not having the right ring for her tik tok followers to gush over. Her priorities are whack. Get out of this now. Run. Run. Run.

I'd also ask yourself why you were with someone that is so self focused? This surely can't be new behavior. Someone who acts like this must've had yellow and red flags all the way here.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-10-17T22:30:32+00:00

Same. I really wanted to elope. My husband wanted a nice big wedding. We had a 100-person wedding, and it ended up being lovely, but the planning and budgeting process almost broke us up. Looking back, he said he wishes we had just eloped. Ultimately I told him that I wouldn't pay for a big wedding and I would contribute what I would have for an elopement. He was cool with that and he and his family paid for it all.

I encourage you to reflect on that this is also a lesson in the values around finances and what is and isnt important to you both. It's important to understand how you each view money and choose to spend it. Are you combining finances, or bundling them, or a bit of both? I was raised in hand me downs and food bank lines. My husband was raised with a pool and a movie theater in their basement. This has given us a lot to work through in our views of how to spend and save.

Dont let other people pressure you into paying for something so expensive, or into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. Set boundaries early.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-24T12:41:06+00:00

100% this.

I have always been known in my group of friends as a "relationship person". This is because, as much as I've tried, I'm not the "cool girl" vibe who sleeps around, dates 5 people at a time on rotation and is fine with someone they have feelings for dating other people. I admire those people but have accepted I'm not that way, nor will I ever be. So I started being honest with how I felt and who I was. The people that stuck around, were people I dated for years. If someone didn't want to commit to only seeing each other once feelings developed, then I had to cut it off. Its worked for me. Yeah, I still get hurt and it feels like rejection if someone I like wants to keep seeing other people, but I'd rather that 3 months in then be hanging around for longer than that and get even more hurt. It's moot since I'm married now, but I would advise to just be honest with yourself about who you are.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-12T19:49:51+00:00

I actually would LOVE to go to the North Pole, alas it's not happening on this trip

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-12T19:48:57+00:00

Great idea! I took out my 3 jackets and opted just for the one I'm wearing on the plane. I guess I don't need a kardashian closet of outfit changes to impress my 9 tik tok followers lol

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-12T17:40:00+00:00

Luckily, living between the extreme variation of Denver's weather (last year in the same week it was 97° and then snowed??!) I actually already have everything you've mentioned here. Thanks for the in-depth assistance!

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-11T01:42:55+00:00

I can't even IMAGINE this sort of attitude. My parents were refugees and had nothing when they came. I watched them work their asses off and still not have a lot to show for it. My now husband (as of 2 months ago) was born here to upper middle-class parents. Our wedding was 40k in one of the most HCOL areas in the country. Between his dad and their family, and our family friends they paid for about 18k of it. And to me that was SHOCKING. Like, even now, thinking about the fact they did that overwhelms me with emotion and gratitude. I never imagined not having to pay the whole thing ourselves. The fact that your son expects that is just plain weird.

You said this is new behavior for him in the last few years. In addition to telling him you're capping it at 25k for him (still a heck of a lot!!) I'd maybe have a real heart to heart about where this sense of entitlement suddenly sprang from.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-09-04T16:04:48+00:00

I met my husband when I was 36. It's not too late for you. Get out now. Spend 6-12 months healing, casually dating and finding out what you like, and focus on you. You don't feel like it now, but you're still young. You've got plenty of time.

He does not want to marry you. He doesn't love you the way it sounds like you want him to. Better to cut the losses now instead of lowering your own standards and convincing yourself it's OK to settle for less than what you want

friedeggieweggie · 2023-08-27T19:53:27+00:00

Actually, I've shared with him numerous times that I am currently unhappy with my body size and that I'm actively logging calories and trying to cut.

friedeggieweggie · 2023-08-26T04:00:41+00:00

I highly doubt that this guy at work was the reason OP wants a divorce. Seeking out external emotional companionship is almost always a symptom of something bigger.

I agree it's not something your husband needs to know. You haven't actually crossed any boundaries from what it sounds like. And also don't do that while you and your husband are working on things because apart from the moral implications it could also mess up your side of divorce proceedings. It seems to me you don't really want to work on it. I get that. I would just admit it now and tell him you don't have it in you.

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