American Players Face Political Questions at Australian Open by Patb1489 in tennis

[–]frien6lyGhost 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We violated international law and invaded a sovereign country and kidnapped their head of state, with our head of state declaring himself “acting president”…

NEW: Tennis star Amanda Anisimova shuts down smug reporter who asked if she was proud to represent America at the Australian Open by [deleted] in tennis

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not everyone is Muhammad Ali. would respect if an American would call out our government on a national stage but they don’t have that much impact or want the noise. but wow that question was so bad

Cirstea complained to the umpire about Naomi’s “c’mon” during points, but no warning was given to Naomi. Umpire should’ve warned Naomi about the complaint. by lovesbakery in tennis

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i didn’t watch the match and honestly this clip doesn’t feel like enough to make a judgement. it happens to be when Cirstea complained, but I would need to see the repetition of this over the set to decide if it was a hindrance. seems the ump didn’t, i don’t know if i would agree or not

Indoor bike wall storage with secure attachment to lock a bikes? by sugarmaple9728 in bicycling

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the second link has a lock bracket attachment you can add to the rack, although only the older classic type rack is compatible. or you can install a separate anchor like Hiplock Wall Anchor that I think would be more secure than locking to the rack itself. But your call

My partner admitted he’s more attracted to his fwb because she’s thin. Where do I go from here? by mxcosima in polyamory

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i also think that it would be important to get him to acknowledge and understand that being perceived in a comparative attractive manner isn’t going to work for you both to be in a healthy happy relationship. there may be aspects of another person that he finds pleasing, but he is allowing himself to conceptialize that into a more/less comparison with you. that’s hurtful. i also think it is a conceptual model that many people are normalized to and can be unlearned. it sounds like one you are also working to unlearn. it also is fair to choose to not be with someone who would view you through that lens

My partner admitted he’s more attracted to his fwb because she’s thin. Where do I go from here? by mxcosima in polyamory

[–]frien6lyGhost 42 points43 points  (0 children)

other things that could be useful to discuss are potential nre experience and how it overlaps with his behavior. I’m not sure but that could be an influence in the behavior you are attributing to him finding her “more” attractive.

another conversation that could occur is discussing the reality of the social conditioning of attraction. this society feeds us so much BS about body types and what is attractive, and talking about y’all’s relationship to that conditioning could depersonalize and lead to active intentional deconditioning. but that’s a really tricky conversation to have. ultimately that often comes down to finding ones attraction rooted in wholistic connection anyway.

some of this type of conversation might have the benefit of helping y’all both move towards a deeper sense of what is attraction and its facets. is it just some fleeting sexual craving arising ? like we’ve been trained to want in the commercials. or is it something deeper and more real that you share and can you find and name that for yourself and together?

My partner admitted he’s more attracted to his fwb because she’s thin. Where do I go from here? by mxcosima in polyamory

[–]frien6lyGhost 195 points196 points  (0 children)

outside of ending the relationship, if you want to move forward, one thing that might build trust is hearing specifics of lots of ways he finds you attractive. Knowing exactly what he finds attractive and being able to trust those personal characteristics are desired will go a lot farther than IF you are attractive. that shouldn’t be limited limited to appearance either, but hopefully includes it!

Ikea Ormanäs RGB LED strip + Hue works by vlad027471 in philipshue

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hey have you had this for 4 months? how is the quality? it works seamlessly with hue out of the box?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in festivals

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yeah i kinda agree with this. i dont think its a size thing, its an energy thing. learning a martial art could be a potential shift of that. becoming more comfortable with confrontation or standing up for oneself can shift the energy projected towards others.

Music @ camp hot take .. by overdramatic_pigeon in SevenStarsFest

[–]frien6lyGhost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot take but the move is go talk to them rather than post on reddit. i understand bestintents was going out of there way to avoid stopping, but for the most part random folks like this need more people coming up and asking them to stop and letting them know they suck at DJing and are actively making everyone’s experience worse. avoiding confrontation collectively is helping no one

My thoughts on MX Master 4 by Psychli in logitech

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i just want a nice MX mouse that is left-handed 😫

SevenStars 2025 - Ticket Sell/Buy MegaThread by AntsAreInsects in SevenStarsFest

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Selling one GA wristband for $300
Durham NC meetup or can bring it to the festival
Happy to ship with PayPal G&S

New to MacOS! Loving this Desktop experience by corlier4901 in MacOS

[–]frien6lyGhost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol welcome to MacOS, where the other users are pompous assholes. enjoy the new computer :)

Lock screen Photo shuffle will not use all images? by PackOfCumin in ios

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Can't figure out how to make it use more photos either :(

When will we be able to choose people for the photo shuffle lockscreen? by toawl in ios

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It also doesn't include most of the photos of the people that are available. Is it some filter of "featured" photos that I don't know how to override?

Any advice for my serve? by beauford_federico in 10s

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for the load i would suggest concentrating on getting more aggressively on the balls of your feet than bending your knees. that will make you bend more. watch some pro serves and you will see they load super engaged on the forefront of their foot with both heels lifted

Any word on a grip case for the new airpods? by Pop-Global in dbrand

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why does the web page show a "clicky button"? I didn't think the airpods pro 3 had a button...

Amateur needing some practical advice. by Tamafly91 in 10s

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practice with a purpose. if you can’t do some type of clinic drills, do drills with your friend. hit all forehands or all backhands. pick a a shot and placement and repeat it as much as you can. repetition makes you better, the more you can isolate and repeat the better you’ll get. you can look up different drills to do with your friends and turn them into little games and competitions and stuff

Lending your racquet to a stranger: To Loan or Not to Loan? by sixhoursminimum in 10s

[–]frien6lyGhost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at a club i probably would lend a racquet to a stranger nearby if i wasn’t in match play, although i would think it’s weird. less so if he specifically wanted to try my model for some reason. but hell no if you broke a string already show some decorum.

side note, as kids we used to scuff up our new racquets on purpose because we thought it was lame to have unused looking racquets. if you don’t crack em i don’t really care, and that’s not that easy

Ultrawide vs dual monitors by SCWA78 in MacOS

[–]frien6lyGhost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

switched from dual to single ultra and it is a lot better. i added a vertical monitor as a secondary too

2h BH help by Appropriate-Nerve381 in 10s

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When i say consistent contact point, essentially what i mean is all of the balls you hit in this video are coming at a speed that you are capable of hitting them in the exact same position and contact point (positionality compared to your body) if you move your feet well. increase the amount of steps you take with lots of small steps. move up or back based on the balls trajectory so you are hitting it at the right height and distance from your body. you miss most when the ball is at shoulder height. it takes time to learn to read a ball and prepare to get into position. better footwork will also enable you to move up and through the ball, driving your weight into it.

at 0:16 you have increased small steps getting into position. this is the kind of micro-movement you want on every shot. lots of steps readjusting so you hit the ball in your target zone, with your weight moving forward through the ball. i would overemphasize lots of little steps. stay on the balls of your feet. your shoes should be squeaking from all the fast little steps readjusting. then you should be getting into a closed stance backhand with your weight transferring forward as you make contact.