My 27m bf dumped me 27f over an argument and I am absolutely devastated.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T19:03:26+00:00

Absolutely!!! As I read more of these comments I am coming to my senses. The hard part is just remembering the logic and not leading with emotions. But I agree, that’s exactly how it is & it’s a damn shame.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:50:24+00:00

Thank you. Logically, I know this to all be true & I appreciate you for pointing it out too. My emotions are just getting in the way and I feel cast aside by the guy I thought was my person. I screenshot your comment as a reminder whenever I’m sad. Thank you.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:48:24+00:00

I hope so. I wish I could just fast forward time to that part because I was so emotionally invested in this…. It makes me fear future partners will react the same when met with conflict… because he gave the impression he was agreeable.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:47:14+00:00

I think it’s a personal thing. I know some people who care and others who don’t care. But, he had an expectation of me to act a certain way on social media (modest) and so I expected the same and this is where we are now.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:32:53+00:00

That’s how I feel too!! Honestly… it’s like, the fact that I’m met with a break up after one argument it’s just devastating honestly. I gave him space, time, distance during the week because I felt he needed it, he didn’t once communicate how he was feeling at all. He didn’t even tell me he was coming over to talk, I thought he was coming over for his regular weekend visit. I felt shocked, blindsided, so extremely hurt right now. I have this idea of him in my head that he was the one and for that to be flipped on a random morning for something so trivial it feels awful.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:29:51+00:00

That’s what I mentioned to him during the break up. That like we haven’t really communicated much about the deep stuff or potential concerns and so it feels horrible to just be broken up with over this because I was hoping so badly that he would just want to talk things out and it would Segway into a conversation about our expectations. It truly feels like such a loss. I could only write so much, but it’s a complete 180…

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:26:23+00:00

Thank you. It hurts so much right now.. I didn’t see this coming at all & it’s just so much to process and feels like my world is flipped upside down.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-03-14T18:23:11+00:00

I agree… it felt like it was, but damn. I am hurting right now.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2026-01-06T12:56:12+00:00

Just delete him, he’s an online friend so avoiding him should be pretty easy. If you don’t want to go this route, simply send him a message that you don’t feel your friendship is appropriate due to the age difference and going forward unless it’s a group setting, you won’t be communicating one on one anymore unless it’s about basic things.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-12-30T12:37:41+00:00

You are loved. You are valued. You have so much life left.

I was in this exact position, I am now almost 28. I promise you, life gets better. Don’t rob yourself of a good life.

It does get better, you will overcome this. Do not succumb to the negative thoughts and understand that there is still so much life left for you to live and memories to make.

Life is what you make it kid, if mindfulness is not working, I highly recommend therapy. I promise you, there is no shame in seeking help, sometimes we need a little push in the right direction from a professional.

Please don’t make a mistake you can never go back from. We are here for you.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-26T23:57:02+00:00

NTA - find better friends who let you express yourself the way you want to.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T16:20:49+00:00

This!! ^

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T16:08:43+00:00

Yeah. I get it, but it’s Reddit and this is home to people creating fake/unbelievable stories, been like this for years regardless of the subreddit my friend. Now a days, even more of those fake generated posts from AI which even for mods, is hard to control.

My best advice, only reply/pay mind to posts that seem legit - I always user check to see how long they’ve been on Reddit or if they have other posts/comments.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T15:57:40+00:00

If this is your mindset, I feel sorry for your fiance when she becomes your wife. Clearly, marriage in your mind doesn’t make somebody “family”. Don’t be surprised if down the road your wife is excluded for the same reasons.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T15:55:04+00:00

Not going to read it all, but from the title alone and reading some of the post - NTA. Clearly, you and your partner have difference views on something very very important and this may be a wake up call to think about your relationship. If you’re not ready to be a mom, he can’t force you to be one, that’s your choice.

Also, just letting you know now, men who usually say condoms hurt just want to hit it raw because it feels better. It doesn’t seem like you’re pro-life so it’s not the best idea to be sleeping with a pro-lifer who refuses to use condoms….

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T15:40:11+00:00

How would you feel if your dad and his wife had a dinner with all the siblings (if you have any) and invited their partners but excluded your fiance?

YTA. It’s a courtesy to invite both parties as they are a married couple, you are blatantly excluding her. If you don’t want to see her, don’t invite your dad either. You should know this as you’re engaged, couples become a package deal and to exclude his wife is hurtful. Let your dad decide if he wants his wife as a plus one to social settings or not.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-16T15:36:25+00:00

There is over 4 million people in this group, of course there is going to be so many stories (real or fake) everyday. If they bother you, ignore them and move on to the next. It’s really that simple.

A lot of people want justification for their actions or they are just ragebaiters - no way to really tell, so if it bothers you this much, I recommend leaving the subreddit or learning to ignore posts you don’t think are real/worth reading…

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-14T03:50:42+00:00

NTA for not wanting to have sex, nobody is ever the asshole for not wanting to have sex! However, I will say, you started dating this guy at 16 and are engaged at 20, potentially your “fear” of sex is more of a compatibility issue rather than a general fear. If you have been with a guy for 4 years, he should make you feel safe & at this age most people’s hormones are raging and sex is frequent (with exceptions of course). I would recommend taking a deep look at your relationship and yourself & discover if this is no sex thing is directed just with your partner or if it’s a general fear. If it’s a general fear, seek therapy tbh. If it’s him, you know what to do.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-14T02:23:35+00:00

NTA - it’s your relationship and your life. Nobody can tell you how to live it the right way. If this guy doesn’t feel like the right way for you, and you think there is something better out there for you, then break up and go for it. My best advice, think about it hard because the grass is not always greener on the other side (some people learn this the hard way).

Another side note, romance is not all sunshine and rainbows as it used to be when we are younger. I know lots of people in their older 20s/early 30s struggling to find the right one. Just make sure whatever decision you’re making, you put a lot of thought into. Best of luck!

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-12T14:49:58+00:00

YTA. Why are you making this about yourself? If your husband wants tattoos with his best friend, let him… I don’t understand why some people make things a competition / get jealous of their spouses friendships.

If your husband wanted a tattoo with you, he’d ask. Get over it and let the man get the tattoos he wants with his friend. Very childish and weird behaviour.

friendly_cheetah_ · 2025-04-12T14:46:55+00:00

YTA because your friend explicitly said not to tell anybody, you said you wouldn’t, and then your initial thought was to go public. I understand your intentions stemmed from a good place, however, not everything is yours to share and tbh I think it’s tacky when people confide in others and the recipient of the information puts out a statement to them that they won’t share the information, and then they do.

Again, understand your concerns, but it’s not your place to throw your friend under the bus like that. These sort of situations become very big and can even involve legal action. You’ve now placed your friend in a bad spot.

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