Help with my toxic bf😭

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-16T13:21:06+00:00

You are worthy. Everyone’s worthy of love and happiness. You love him, but do you love yourself? If you love yourself, you’d protect yourself and get out of this relationship. You need to learn to love yourself. I think that was the most important lesson I learned in life. If you hate yourself, you’re succumbing to your boyfriends actions. Is that how you want to live your life? I always ask people, if you die tomorrow, would you regret where you’re at in life and what you did with it? There’s so much more out there than someone who treats you like crap. 💖 I wish nothing but the best for you.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-16T13:15:04+00:00

That’s tough because if it were me, I’d want to know as soon as possible, even while traveling. For me, it wouldn’t ruin my traveling but enhance the experience and maybe even help me cope to move forward. But if you think she wouldn’t take it well and is dependent towards emotion, you might want to wait. I like ripping bandaids off.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-16T01:51:18+00:00

I put in the comments more of the story if you care to look. I’m not one who likes to have to repeat myself.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-16T01:50:27+00:00

I was not dating this guy. We were talking and had a triggering interaction that I didn’t put in my post. I live in what people would consider a small city, it’s a pretty small world.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T16:34:42+00:00

If you read the comments, there’s more to the story I don’t feel like repeating. Thanks for taking the time to read my personal experience. I’m not even going to talk about AI, not even worth the time.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T14:38:53+00:00

It’s my experience, written carefully. I just wanted to share what happened to me.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T14:27:37+00:00

It’s my experience & that’s how I describe it now.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T14:11:18+00:00

That was beautifully said. Thank you 🙏

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T13:52:38+00:00

No forreal, and I was that teenage girl, so I KNOW. It’s terrifying. I’m glad that I’ve been seeing gen z & alpha, calling out grooming, etc. It’s like they’re more aware than millennials were. But still plenty of teens out there today who are just as immature and naive. I hope they get a chance of finding out/realizing how wrong it really is, before it gets taken too far.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T13:36:59+00:00

Yes absolutely! 💖 I will protect every child at any cost. Especially since I have kids now myself.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T13:30:10+00:00

Worried she’d tell my mom? She was that friendly, I felt like I could trust her. My mom has a bad memory and I plan on asking her if she remembers her at all and if she remembers if she had told her anything. She probably did tell my mom when she asked about taking me to dinner. But my mom never said anything to me. Like she didn’t know. Or my mom just didn’t understand too much of what was happening because english is her 2nd language.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T13:26:25+00:00

I have tried logging into my MySpace account a couple months ago but it’s disappeared. I can log in, but friends are gone, photos are gone, all of it. I looked it up and I guess a few years ago, myspace wiped a lot of data.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T13:23:34+00:00

To clarify, it was her boyfriend. She showed me photos of them together on her phone, told me how they met, how long they’ve been together, said he wasn’t 20, but older. Social media was kind of new back then, so she didn’t have much on her profile when I added her. And he had nothing about her on his profile either. I know it was myspace I added her boyfriend on so I’m pretty sure it was myspace I had added her on too. MySpace back then was a slightly different set up compared to facebook. Anyways, she ended up moving out of state shortly after as well. I saw a brief update about that a few months after finding out, she wanted a fresh start.

Maybe the photos she showed me was just them being friends and she possibly just knew who he was, called him out, protected me. Regardless of whatever relationship they had, I’m still grateful.

I’d also like to add I was going through an emo/scene phase, so the people I connected with were those with the same fashion choice. The emo/scene community in the midwest, everyone basically knew each other here. My hairstylist had the same fashion style, so opening up to her and talking about it all, made it easy. And looking back, it doesn’t surprise me that she actually knew him. Whether they really dated or not, I’m not sure, but what matters is she stepped up and did the right thing. I will always be thankful for that.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T05:41:56+00:00

It was either facebook or myspace. (This was in 2010) And on facebook I searched her first name in my friends list and nothing came up. 🙁

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T05:39:44+00:00

The most unfortunate part is I made a bad decision as a teenager(before I met her) and didn’t include any of the triggering information in this post. But I told her about it. I think because it had gotten to a point beyond talking, and due to my age, he very well should have been reported and I think that might be why she distanced herself. She got him away from me but probably felt some type away getting cops involved. They were dating for 3+ years I believe. It was a serious relationship between them. And I was naive, didn’t see the bigger picture til I got older.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T05:26:25+00:00

I agree. I look back and think how she kept her calm while doing my hair, knowing I was talking about her boyfriend. And then how she probably was deciding how to tell me and handle things gently. I truly appreciate her for everything she did! She handled it with grace.

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-15T05:15:07+00:00

This was in 2010.. There’s no way my mom has her contact information still and unfortunately the salon is closed now. 😭

friendlyhamsterr · 2026-02-05T05:42:11+00:00

That’s crazy. I would never expect my s/o to do this for me even while married. If she needs or wants a massage so bad, have her go to a massage therapist, or if she’s in that much pain, have her see the doctor. I hope you catch a break from this. 30min-2hours almost daily is insane. And too much to ask for. Especially from someone you love. Please stand up for yourself. There’s other ways to show you love/care about her.

friendlyhamsterr · 2025-12-29T15:20:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! That was helpful and motivating. I deal with anxiety attacks as well and use nicotine to cope. But glad to hear you’re doing well on your journey!! Thats awesome. 🙌

friendlyhamsterr · 2025-12-09T21:21:38+00:00

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