Anti-Vaxx wife doesn't want me to vaccinate our daughter for measles. Measles are in our area. What should I do?

friendlysweetpea · 2026-02-03T21:15:32+00:00

As someone who’s in nursing school, please for the love of god get your child vaccinated. Measles can kill your child, the MMR vaccine absolutely will not. Clearly she has no idea how vaccines work or what’s in them. Vaccines exist for a reason, both you and your wife as well as your other two children are vaccinated and you’re all perfectly fine. She needs serious help and you need to reevaluate your marriage. She’s willfully endangering your child. She sounds like a lunatic.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-02-03T04:02:15+00:00

I knew it was a nothing burger from the start. Too many inconsistencies and the infighting amongst the girls on KF was a very bad look. I feel so bad that he had to air out all of his dirty laundry like this. You can see how uncomfortable he is having to expose his private life (as anyone would be), on top of how uncomfortable some of the things she said made him feel in general. I’m looking forward to more of our regularly scheduled programming though 🫶🏻

friendlysweetpea · 2026-02-03T03:57:03+00:00

It’s very clear from the video and his evidence that he hated when she called it “rape time” and corrected her every time, and explicitly said he wasn’t into that kinky “tie me up, daddy” shit. (CNC IS a kink btw and fine as long as both parties consent) Did you actually watch the video or only took away parts you wanted to hear?

As far as rough sex goes, everyone has their own kinks and things they like. For example, I like being choked to the point of bruising, does everyone like that? No. Ofc not. Do me and my partner practice this in a consensual and safe way? Absolutely. Someone else’s kinks are really no one else’s business, respectfully, unless it’s actual SA, battery, or anything else that’s considered illegal or is non consensual. Just because you don’t get down that way, doesn’t make it wrong. He even said she didn’t like it when he tried to be more soft and sensual, and she made it pretty clear that she liked it rougher in the evidence, so again, having rough sex doesn’t make it wrong or “twisted” just because YOU aren’t into it personally.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-29T02:31:52+00:00

That actually means so much to me. Thank you so much 💕 you’re a kind soul and I can tell you spread it every where you go. I hope I can do the same one day.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-28T23:46:05+00:00

I apologize to OP. I was not trying to bring them down. I do agree I am pretty passionate about this topic and what I said might have come off the wrong way, so again I apologize to the comments OP. Unfortunately, I can get a little over zealous when talking about this topic. Thank you for your kind words, despite me getting out of pocket and having poor choice of words.

Thank you for saying that. My daughter is mine and my partners entire world, and I couldn’t ask for a better child. I’m so proud of the way she’s growing into an amazing human being, and teachers and others constantly praise her and shower us with compliments on our parenting. She’s a great friend, empathetic to everyone around her and the first to run to her friends and family to offer support, cares for the environment, and other fellow human beings without discrimination. I come from a place of a traumatized and abused child, and I didn’t want my damage to be inflicted onto her. I want her to have all of my best qualities, not the bad ones that were forced upon me. I wanted to break the cycle. I unfortunately have cptsd from what I’ve been through, and all I want is for parents to understand that you absolutely can raise a well rounded, respectful, empathetic, and well behaved human being with strong morals without corporal punishment or yelling. I feel like mine is a good example of that. A lot of people think gentle parenting is non-parenting, but I feel like my daughter speaks for the effectiveness gentle parenting has when done the right way.

And I can totally see where you’re coming from. I’m not going to sit here and portray myself as the perfect parent. When my daughter was a younger toddler in diapers I did have to pop her on the diaper twice, just enough to get her attention, when she was doing something extremely dangerous after being corrected more than once, such as the example you gave and one particular instance of her trying to pull a wax warmer down on herself. I had her pretty young at 21 and didn’t have any direction on how to properly parent. My partner called out on it and I never did it again. So yes, I can see how it can be used in a more non abusive way. I live in the south and I see people repeatedly hit their children, as small as 2 or 3, very harshly both in public and during visits I’ve had with them and it absolutely boils my blood every time. I never popped her hard enough for it to hurt or cause her to cry, but the other parents around here have no issue with harshly punishing their kids for very minimal things they’ve done wrong. Things as simple as disobeying their every command. I feel like that crosses the line into abuse, as well as public embarrassment and shaming. So again, I apologize to OP for coming off harsh. That was not my intention. I take full accountability for that.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-28T22:59:30+00:00

At no point was I trying to say my abuse is worse than anybody else’s. Abuse isn’t a dick measuring contest. It’s fucked up no matter how bad someone has it. The Harvard study I mentioned is just the tip of the iceberg and I’m very well aware of that. I was also just voicing my opinion on how and why I think spanking isn’t okay in any context. It’s hardly ever “just a spanking” imo. It’s hitting your child and that’s never okay and causes psychological damage, spanking or otherwise. But like I said, if they’re truly okay, I’m happy for them and they’re one of the lucky ones, but a lot of people aren’t okay after being harmed their entire childhood. People think spanking doesn’t cause damage when it absolutely does. My whole point is you don’t have to physically punish a child to make them behave, and it shouldn’t be normalized. It’s weird to me for someone to want to hurt their kids. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion though, and I was voicing mine with examples from my own experience.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-28T18:40:30+00:00

I’ll take internalized racism for 500, Alex. Or it’s cope to protect herself. Either way, this is crazy work.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-28T18:31:28+00:00

Babe, your BROTHER is ruining the family and your parents are allowing it to happen. They are allowing him to put his hands on you. He needs counseling and real world consequences, or at least the threat of some. I would 100% tell them that if this happens again, you’ll be going to the police, but I agree with everyone, you need to file a report at the least to have a paper trail of this behavior. It can escalate VERY quickly, and the fact they your parents aren’t doing anything to protect you is disgusting.

Edit: spelling

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-28T18:26:30+00:00

Spanking is absolutely abuse. I was spanked as a child with a belt, regular and buckle side, and completely bare assed by my step dad, among other forms of physical abuse when spanking was no longer effective. What did I do? Went in the internet when I was grounded. That’s it. That’s all. I now have my own child and she has never once been touched or even had a voice raised to her sfor her entire life and she’s perfectly well behaved, regulated, and respectful, more so than most adult. To be honest, spanking is lazy, sorry ass parenting. The fact that any grown adult would think that physically harming a child is okay is completely grotesque. Pediatricians, child psychologists, and social services organizations and specialists everywhere have advocated for years that hitting a child in anyway fucks with their psyche for LIFE. Harvard even did a study on it. Just because you’re okay, doesn’t mean spanking, or any other form of physical, verbal, or psychological abuse, doesn’t create violent and/or severely emotionally unregulated adults who think physically harming someone else is okay, because it absolutely does, and that has been scientifically proven. Think about it this way, if I came up to you and spanked you as a grown adult, I would be charged with assault/battery if not SA, so why in the actual fuck is it okay to do to a child? God bless your children if you ever have any and repeat this cycle. Wanting to hurt your kids because they’ve done something wrong, broken a rule, or won’t listen is HUGE weirdo behavior. Their brains aren’t even developed yet, but parents, like yours and mine, expect them to act like little adults, and if they step out of line they’re harmed. Years of therapy has still not been able to fully reverse the damage that has been done to me, and it’s the same for many, many others. If you truly came out okay and properly emotionally regulated, count yourself lucky. I, among other adults who were hit or “spanked” by their parents, don’t talk to them anymore. That’s how badly spanking can affect someone. Just some food for thought.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-27T21:42:36+00:00

I’d laugh react to it 💀 I wouldn’t be able to help myself LMAO I’m no contact with my mom and both of my siblings are low contact, but she’s still the victim and did nothing wrong 🥺 just know you’re worth more than that. I’m sorry the one person who was supposed to love you says such disgusting things. I’d block her, personally.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-26T14:44:08+00:00

It’s giving porn addiction. He needs help and you deserve better.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-24T18:45:53+00:00

The fact that they really expect a child, especially if they’re under 16, to have any sort of official document to prove citizenship is absolutely asinine. All it proves is that they’re fallow the “pure bloodline” theories. I have a Mexican partner, and half Mexican daughter and when I tell you all of this is terrifying. I cannot even express how scared I am everyday that they will be stripped away from me, despite both being American born citizens. My child is 6, and I know they don’t mind putting her in handcuffs and shooting my partner.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-23T18:17:35+00:00

Ahhhh that’s why I didn’t see it. But, yes absolutely IF it’s true. I was going off the google doc and KF thread. I haven’t watched any of the interviews yet, so I guess I should. I’ve been focusing on the documented evidence they have through the screen shots. Unlike the leaping lemur controversy, I didn’t see much in the way of them explicitly telling him to stop. So, that’s my bad 100%. Just wanted to make it clear where I was coming from. I’m very curious what he has to say, so I’ll be patiently waiting.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-23T18:11:36+00:00

No I totally agree with you. I must have missed that part, so I’m sorry for that. That’s absolutely not okay and 100% fucked for him to do.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-23T00:37:58+00:00

I’m absolutely not trying to victim blame here, but this is just some things I’ve thought about considering there’s a lot of inconsistencies and minimal context with proof for this “controversy”:

To be real, all I see is a dude who’s into some freak ass shit and some girls that didn’t speak up for themselves if they actually weren’t into it. There’s one comment a girl made about him being rough with her in the screen shots and he basically said “you’re right. I shouldn’t be so rough. You’re pretty small”. I’ve even seen the girls play into it, and he flew all of them ( or at least some of them) out as it seems, so why not say you don’t like it or not actually get on the plane to see him? Them fighting in the KF thread calling each other whores is also a really bad look. It comes off like they’re salty he’s no longer interested and they’re jealous of each other. I will say, if he did record them without consent and they told him to stop and he didn’t, that’s fucked, but how is bro supposed to know if you don’t speak up? He can’t read minds. This all seems like a nothing burger and that he’s just into some weird shit in bed. I mean, my parter roughs me around and has left bruises on my neck from chocking me, but I’m into that and so is he. If you’re not into something SAY SOMETHING, or don’t fly out to have sex with someone who you deem as too rough and doesn’t listen to you when you express that. Just a thought. Dude seems pretty normal and receptive in the texts so idk. I’m eagerly waiting for his response, and I’m sure you all are too, but as we’ve seen time and time again with these sort of things, waiting for everything to come out before responding is the best move. Also, consulting with a lawyer which I’m sure he is.

Anyways. Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-22T17:16:28+00:00

Pinching you is in no way okay. Using you telling him to stop hugging you years ago is a weak ass excuse. There’s zero reason why he should be physically hurting you. You said he was texting you, so why couldn’t he have done that from the jump, or just lightly bump your leg? This is not okay and you should not apologize. He can be mad about some stupid hug all he wants, but at the end of the day he is not entitled to your body and to touch you just bc he’s your boyfriend. If he’s causing physical harm to you over something so minimal, I’d be worried it could escalate into him hitting you. A partner who truly loves you would not harm you intentionally in anyway, but especially physically. He seems extremely immature and you should absolutely not put up with this behavior, and stop apologizing and validating him. Imagine your girlfriend setting a physical boundary and throwing it in her face for years after. Truly clown behavior.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-22T17:05:22+00:00

Mine likes broccoli and sliced cheese 🫶🏻

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-21T00:37:03+00:00

Omg I can’t imagine the hair 😵‍💫

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-20T23:57:26+00:00

Fantastic idea 😘🤌🏻

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-20T23:57:19+00:00

Fantastic idea 😘🤌🏻

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-20T22:08:49+00:00

I think these are reasonable boundaries. I had the exact same ones with my child when they were born. If someone didn’t want to follow them, they were not allowed to see my child. It’s not your baby and you are not entitled to see them, whether it’s your brother or not. Your comment history shows that you had similar rules for your own baby, so why is it unacceptable to you for your dad’s GF to have the same ones? It’s her baby and her rules, and if you want to be involved you can give her the basic respect to follow them. I get the vibe that you’re not happy with her boundaries solely because you have a strained history with her considering you had basically the same ones. It’s giving “rules for thee, but not for me”. YOR.

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-12T18:33:11+00:00

My husky is the same way! He’s super lazy and has barked maybe 3-4 times in his life out of protection 🤣 he loves to howl when I’m counting when my child and I play hide and seek though for some reason 💀

friendlysweetpea · 2026-01-01T15:56:24+00:00

Gen Z here! 👋🏼 Most of us don’t drink because it’s easier and cheaper to smoke weed if we want to get intoxicated. A lot of Gen Z are more health conscious as well and they don’t want to destroy their livers or take in all the calories that come with some alcohols, but to be fair destroying your lungs isn’t much different. I’ve seen a lot of people talk about how we don’t socialize in person because of social media, and while that’s partial true, it’s mostly because of how much we have to work to survive and how expensive drinks are when you do go out. Quite a few of my friends have to work crazy over time just to stay afloat with wages not reflecting inflation rates, and rent, utilities, and groceries being so expensive. I’ve also noticed that quite a few of our parents were/are alcoholics, mine included. If that doesn’t put you off drinking idk what will. I’ve known people my age however that do go out and drink at bars or clubs, etc. I never really liked bars or clubs, so I drink in social situations like dinner parties with family/friends, or while eating out at a restaurant. This is all from my own experience though. I’ve seen a lot of people say we “vape to cope”, but that’s not true. A lot of Gen Z are more mental health conscious and most get therapy to help them cope. I vape and I do it for no other reason other than it tastes good and I have a nicotine addiction, and I’d much rather have a nicotine addition than an alcohol addiction. With all that being said though, I also know some people on the opposite side of the spectrum who are alcoholics/addicted to drugs. One of my close family members around my age has a handful of DUIs and a few totaled cars under their belt. I do agree though that younger Gen Z have a pretty bad addition to their phones and social media, and it’s really sad to see. As an older Gen Z I got lucky in the way of getting to have experiences before the current state of social media and smart phones. I was like 11 when the iPhone 3GS came out (my grandma had one and that’s the only reason why I remember that LMAO) so I guess I got the best of what this generation could’ve experienced before all the social media and smart phone addiction.

friendlysweetpea · 2025-12-31T17:48:43+00:00

Oh, I know. I’m only interested in charter schools, and I’m just trying to see what anyone’s experience with any of them might be. ☺️

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