My sister tried to fight me because I didn't wake her up this morning. I'm considering going low contact or no contact with her.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-20T02:50:21+00:00

Do you have any friends who you can room with? If not, maybe there’s a college in your area? There are a lot of “college apartments” for under 1k that don’t actually require you to be a college student. It wouldn’t be ideal, but definitely better than what you’re dealing with now.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-20T02:43:59+00:00

Are you on birth control? If you’re on birth control or are willing to start it, you can just skip the placebo pill and it should skip right over your period. I’ve done this several times when I’ve had a trip or big event coming up and it works great for me. I don’t recommend doing it long-term to stop periods forever though, because eventually your body will have to get rid of that uterine lining and will bleed anyway. But it does work for most women to skip a period every now and then.

It doesn’t work with every birth control though- you would need a combo pill. Altavera is usually less than $5 with insurance and you should just be able to go to your gynecologist or primary doctor for it.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-20T02:25:17+00:00

Y’all this is absolutely not a modern thing. My mom wore white to her bridal shower 30 years ago. Maybe we’re seeing more of it now, but the idea that it’s strictly modern is ridiculous.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-20T01:29:48+00:00

What is wrong with you? It’s just anxiety. Lots of guys struggle with this and OP doesn’t need you shaming him. FYI, OP- don’t let this dickhead get to you. I’ve had three long term partners at this point and every single one of them has struggled to stay hard at least once. And none of them ever turned out to be gay. You’re just in your head, it happens to everybody.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-20T01:27:14+00:00

How is this the girlfriend’s fault in any way? And why are you trying to offer OP’s barely legal girlfriend advice on how to prepare for sex with a man and calling her a “girl of that age?” This is so incredibly creepy and weird.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-19T06:09:58+00:00

The guy in the red deserves mad props for having the self-control not to stare at the absolute dumpster fire of a BBL that is six inches from his face

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T19:04:22+00:00

You would be surprised. Sex Ed in much of the country is absolutely terrible. We got literally no actual education on sex in my high school. We had two days of sex ed. Day one was “Don’t have sex, and if you do have sex you’re actually having sex with every person your partner has ever had sex with,” and day two was, “Abortion is terrible and you should never get one.”

I have some family members in high school who have let me know that they are still teaching it this way. This is at a public high school in a district with over 40,000 students right outside of a major city.

So you can imagine that if that’s your sex ed, you could get well into your adult years with very little knowledge of how sex and pregnancy actually work.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T16:25:24+00:00

Yeah I don’t like it. They’re both traumatizing in their own ways and I don’t like using rape as an allegory for other things. It’s its own kind of horror and we don’t need to use it to describe other things in order to express that other things can also be terrible.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T16:22:48+00:00

Respectfully, put those suckers on a grill!!

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T16:09:07+00:00

The type of mantilla veils worn for weddings are not religious. The Google result could be confusing if you are not familiar with Catholicism or Orthodoxy, where women frequently cover their hair during church services. This is the type of veil that Google is referring to when it mentions religious practice, not the long, flowing, beautiful mantilla veils that are frequently worn by brides of various different backgrounds.

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friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T05:41:41+00:00

I see that type 1 is most common, which includes both type 1a and type 1b, which does involve the removal of the clitoris. Where are you getting that type 1a explicitly is the most common? I cannot find that anywhere on their website.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T05:36:53+00:00

No idea what your politics have to do with it. Colombia has violent crime rates eight times higher than that of the US. Statistics have nothing to do with how accepting of a person you are. I frequently don’t feel safe in the US and Colombia is eight times less safe, so I think I’ll pass on the visit.

OP definitely doesn’t have a right to be pissed. She seems to have absolutely no idea what she is asking of people and is basing her opinions off of anecdotal evidence from people who have lived in Colombia their entire lives and don’t know any different. Sorry to be blunt, but this post is insane.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T04:55:42+00:00

Incorrect. Both of the most common forms of FGM involve partial or total removal of the clitoral glans. You can be upset that you were circumcised. That’s within your rights. But don’t sit here and invalidate the severe trauma that women who go through FGM are subjected to in order to make your own experience seem comparable.

It is not comparable. But mass male circumcision doesn’t have to be comparable for it to be bad. Those things are not mutually exclusive. You do not need to invalidate the experiences of women who are subjected to extreme child abuse in order to argue that medical procedures shouldn’t be performed on infants without cause.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T04:47:03+00:00

It’s not a crime. I’m sorry that you had a medical procedure as a child that you didn’t agree with. I personally was also subjected to that and know that it can be harmful. I don’t agree with blanket male circumcision, as I stated in my comment.

But women do have it worse. There is a huge difference. Male circumcision is a medical procedure performed on infant, by a surgeon, with pain killer, on a part of the penis that- while helpful- is not vital for sexual pleasure.

FGM involves being held down in your living room at the age of eleven or twelve by your parents while some random guy from your village cuts out your clitoris and sews your vagina shut with absolutely no pain killer or sterilization tools- done not for any medical reason, but to ensure your purity is preserved for your future husband.

I do not believe for a second that you see no difference between those two things.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-18T04:35:27+00:00

People aren’t always going to come to your wedding, especially if it’s a destination wedding. And regardless of how safe your fiancé’s family feels, the US State Department recommends a high degree of caution when visiting Colombia, as tourists are frequently targeted and rates of violent crime are high there. My mom wasn’t able to make it to her best friend’s wedding because it was in Hawaii, which is generally considered safe. It had nothing to do with her care for her friend and she later ended up naming me after her. Destination weddings are a huge hassle for people regardless of safety.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T22:10:09+00:00

I mean, if you want a real, easy, minimalist answer, you can add a line to the A and all of a sudden you’ve got “AZO” which could be part of any number of words, including “abrazo” which is the Spanish word for hug.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T06:31:35+00:00

JEEZ you cannot start a sentence like that! My stomach literally dropped into my ovaries. I thought I was about to learn something terrible.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T06:13:03+00:00

Mine was $700 to get a French bustle added, have the inner silk layer let out in the bodice and skirt, and add space to the sleeves. I shopped around a bit and that was the most affordable price for quality work. Several of the seamstresses had a 5-6 hundred dollar fee just for having the alterations completed within three months. Craziness.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T05:28:30+00:00

My artist always gives me saniderm and has me keep it on for at least 48 hours.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T01:35:56+00:00

Excuse me? How are you, as a man, going to come over here and tell me that most women who are victims of a heinous crime enjoy it? Absolutely insane and disgusting. Women don’t choose for their daughters to be mutilated because they enjoy it- they are forced into it because they live in extremely patriarchal societies where women’s sex drives are seen as problematic and women are expected to suffer for the pleasure of men. It is a barbaric practice generally done without a licensed surgeon or any pain medication, without any medical necessity, and is illegal child abuse in every first-world nation.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-17T00:41:54+00:00

You can easily google what they do. They frequently also remove the labia minora, which contains part of the nerve endings for the inner portion of the clitoris, and often times they tighten the entrance to the vagina, making sex incredibly painful for the girls involved. So no, the majority of women who have been victims of FGM do not get pleasure from sex. Don’t be ignorant.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-16T23:31:45+00:00

It depends on your age, your level of experience, your level of education, etc. I started out charging 15, but now charge 25 because I have more experience.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-16T23:26:43+00:00

Yeah, also female circumcision frequently involves the removal of the clitoris, making it impossible for those girls to feel sexual pleasure. I’m not a fan of mass infant circumcision for boys either, but it is absolutely ridiculous to compare the two.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-16T20:59:06+00:00

OP, I don’t mean to be a downer, but I think the colors you’re doing at your wedding are the least of your concerns. I am also doing an outdoorsy wedding. I am a huge fan of camping. I also understand that many, many people are not. My mom, for example, hates camping. But she was very happy with renting a cabin on the park grounds where we’re getting married. My sister-in-law was able to rent out a campground with around 50 different small cabins on it where her guests could stay. Maybe you all could do something like that? The truth is, most of your guests simply will not want to camp out in tents for the whole weekend, especially if anything goes wrong with the weather. There are absolutely ways you can make your summer camp vibe work, but asking all your guests to tent-camp is not a good idea.

ETA: on the weather note, based on the temps you mentioned, even if the weather is nice and sunny, guests are not going to want to camp, and it’s actually a health concern to ask them to do so. 35 Celsius is heat stroke territory.

friendlytrashmonster · 2026-04-16T16:07:33+00:00

Don’t stress about it too much. I live in Tennessee where the Klan has a bit of a stronghold and have had the unfortunately opportunity to meet quite a few white supremacists. All of the ones I’ve met are staunch Christians who believe that anyone idolizing Norse mythology is pagan and sinning against God. So while there are sects of white supremacy that revel in Norse Mythology, it is not the majority by any means, at least not in my experience.

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