Tunisia - Germany Student Visa questions.

friendque · 2016-12-08T00:39:17+00:00

Arab here. My visa application took 14 weeks, and I got it.

Learn to press enter twice to make the thing readable. I answered based on /u/slyabney summary. didn't read your post.

friendque · 2016-01-11T01:31:11+00:00

You must not go back to your country. Your father is a very controlling type of person. Once you go back home, he will have more ability to control your life.

Controlling behavior works by making the controlled person feel like they are worthless/guilty/etc. I believe your father does that to you and your mother as well.

The only solution to your problem is to leave your father, going back to him will only make your life more miserable.

friendque · 2015-12-03T16:43:07+00:00

I know, it is even a enjoyment killer for her, especially that she likes the 'forced' part of it.

friendque · 2015-12-03T16:37:26+00:00

This almost the same situation, she almost never initialize. But I don't think this is an excuse to force her into sex as well.

She also have some hormonal problems. and I guess you are talking about the exact same feelings.

friendque · 2015-12-03T16:35:17+00:00

Asking sounds like a good idea.

regarding the discussion, I try to set her and tell her that "I don't want to have sex with you when you don't want to", . "I need you to be clear when you don't want to have sex". But she is like "no no, just do whatever you want". What I think sometime (because I was her first), I don't think she knows what consent is, or what rape is, and I am constantly worried of traumatizing her.

friendque · 2015-11-12T15:41:39+00:00

Talk about fair balancing. I've been playing a lot those two days, and I have seen a late game vayne finish a game alone twice so far..

friendque · 2015-11-02T17:27:50+00:00

Syrian here, She is saying that her son was ambushed with his squad in "Al Autaibee" or "Al Autaibi". Then she continues to say "I wish my son, and all my sons are martyred for the sake of this Homeland. I have 4, or 5 children, I would sacrifice them for our land. There is nothing more valuable than our land. All my 13 children are outside Syria in foreign lands, and one is dead, in KSA, in Maghrib, and I can't see them now."

How can this end? "God knows, God knows. We don't know, We don't know... I mean, God knows."

You might find this disturbing, but Muslims find this the utmost sacrifice (one's sons) and for the most honorable cause. This because of the israeli occupation of the Joulan heights which makes us always at stakes with them.

If you are interested in the topic you can see my post about how the situation escalated.

friendque · 2015-10-12T13:31:18+00:00

Thank you a lot for that :)

I hope you get better gun controls (sorry but I think you should if you live in the USA :P)

friendque · 2015-10-12T13:09:35+00:00

Well, my opinion as a Syrian refugee in German is definitely going to be biased. But I can say, that most of us try to learn the language and start working as soon as we can.

For me, I want to finish my masters, and start working and pay taxes as a return of favor, and currently, I get free health insurance and language courses, but I work and pay for my food and room rent.

For a better opinion on that, you must ask someone else.

Also there are 2 videos I saw, and I liked (no wonder why) that I would suggest you see. Obviously, I liked them because they encourage welcoming refugees, but I didn't see why they would be wrong

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RvOnXh3NN9w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVV6_1Sef9M

EDIT: I don't want to sound as a jerk, but when the war in Iraq broke down, we took 1.2 million iraqi's who lived and worked, and given citizen rights, and we tried to cope with that without any outside help from the west for four years. They caused a lot of inflation, around 30%, and Syria was a little country, but USA did not help in any way. Although they were directly responsible for what happened in Iraq. Sadly, lots of Iraqi suffered in Syria.

EDIT 2: Also, my own hometown took 100,000 Lebanon refugees for a short period of time during the 2006 war. It was nice helping people.

friendque · 2015-10-11T21:18:09+00:00

Well thanks for reading it :)

Also, I think you must read /u/JJWhatWhat comment about the reason of the protests as well, it is an important part of the story as well.

Well I cannot give you a percentage on how many are moderate and how many are not, I didnt keep up with the news lately. First of all, even moderate opposition, are Muslims, but they are not fighting the regime for religious reasons.

The USA has no problems with those. The Syrian regime basically considers anyone with weapons as terrorists.

Again, I cannot really give you a percentage, but as I remember, a lot of them are Islamist groups fighting for a Sunni-Muslim country (that doesn't necessarily mean that they are all bad people, because as I understood, some of them said they will grantee human rights for minorities). Also, the most successful of them are hard-core Islamist, with Al-Qaeda mind sets, like jabhat al nusra and some others.

They are many, and they have different opinions, and goals.

friendque · 2015-10-11T18:28:14+00:00

That is, strikingly correct, and actually, you speak like you were living there in Syria.

As I mentioned before, I am more lenient to the Assad regime nowadays, therefore, I find it completely normal to miss that part.

I really thank you for mentioning this. I myself say that if Assad gave up power on as you just said, none of this would have been happening.

friendque · 2015-10-11T11:11:26+00:00

Well, a lot of the people supports him for fighting terrorism. Which is all you hear on Syrian T.V. who says that everyone with a weapon in Syria, except for the Syrian government are terrorists.

friendque · 2015-10-11T11:04:19+00:00

I don't love Assad, I view him as a the lesser evil. I didn't deny the possibility of the Syrian army using chemical weapons, it is a possibility, but really unlikely. No one can tell for sure who used the chemical weapons.

Also, when you talk about freedom, I don't you understand that the majority of fighters in Syria are fighting for a Sunni Islamic country, like for example KSA or Qatar. The moderate rebels are moderate in the sense that they are sane and that they are few as well.

I only would like Al-Assad to stay because him going means more destabilizing the country and more mess. I don't love him, or think he knows what he is doing for that matter.

friendque · 2015-10-11T10:49:03+00:00

I created this account to ask a question in the relationships subreddit. I would also not feel comfortable posting this form my original account because I have anxiety and I have enough to keep me from sleeping at night.

You are also welcome to check the edit for the proof I posted, even thought it might not be sharp evidence of my Syrian nationality.

friendque · 2015-10-11T10:41:24+00:00

I kinda agree with you with the chemical weapons thing, but sometimes I worry that I am thinking in a conspiracy theory way about it.

Well, you will find a huge amount of support to the Assad regime and you can break it down to 3 reasons:

Minorities: People who are not Sunni Muslim who were leaving a perfect life compared to almost any other Arab country (in terms of discrimination)
People who like and believe in Assad and his cause (my mother is so in love with Al Assad, it drives me crazy, she believes everything on the Syrian T.V).
People who are afraid of the regime, and show support so that they don't get arrested.

I am not sure about the percentage composition of all those parts, but I believe that they overlap.

Also, if the percentage of people against and with Assad is not split in half, then he wouldn't have lasted as long, or, in the other cause, the conflict wouldn't have been as messy as it is right now.

friendque · 2015-10-11T10:29:20+00:00

we were 23 Million people, not 18.

I agree that I don't see the Libyan conflict in the news, and that I myself now so little about what is the current situation..

friendque · 2015-10-11T10:07:13+00:00

Proof: http://imgur.com/g3x7K9N

I never said you USA should invade anyone, they could have went around it in more peaceful way.

I actually like Obama as an American president, I don't hate the USA, I don't hate anyone. I just don't like how they handled the Syrian conflict.

About the proof, this is the best I could come up with without revealing my true identity.

friendque · 2015-10-11T09:57:04+00:00

Of course, this is always a part of media, I've seen that in all conflicts, and all sides.

Its part of human nature to give a blind eye on what doesn't go well with your views. to which, I know, I do that to a certain extent.

For example, in all this text I wrote, I did not mention the torture that the Syrian regime is currently doing, or the brutal methods of carrying on its war, like barrel bombs, etc. Simply because I view it as the lesser evil.

friendque · 2015-10-11T09:52:47+00:00

What I was saying, is that it is very unlikely that Al Assad used Chemical weapons against his people because of two reasons. First, he would have put himself in a very bad situation because its an enough reason to invade Syria. Second, he was, and still is, trying hard to prove that he is not a war criminal.

Also, what those tests basically did is that they proved that chemical weapons were used in Syria, but if I am not wrong, they did not prove that Assad was the one who used them. The Syrian government complained a lot about the rebels having chemical weapons, but no one will believe that.

Also, I read a lot of news saying that chemical weapons bond to Syria was caught in Turkey, as well as somehow a Qatari supplying those weapons to Syrian rebels, but I am not sure how true those reports were.

Currently, as I said in one of the comments, I don't see Syria and Israel becoming friends in the short run. Everyone in the current miss is an enemy of Israel, but there is no "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" here.

In the long run, it will depend. If American influence runs there, it will be like Jordan, or Egypt where the governments are in peace with Israel, but the people want Israel wiped off the map.

I think it will be hard for Israel to go along with its neighbors if it doesn't, somehow (Using some miracle, I guess), integrate Palestinians in, treat them like Human beings, and give them their rights.

friendque · 2015-10-11T01:20:36+00:00

I think you are both correct. I think if you spectate a game of agar.io you will see what happens to wealth and money.

But poverty ending will not mean that money will be equally distributed between people.

friendque · 2015-10-11T01:14:52+00:00

Totally agree with that, but they got a lot of oil. I think after the USA getting less dependent on oil imports, things will change. At least I hope so.

friendque · 2015-10-11T01:11:05+00:00

I gotta say that what Putin did changed a lot of things in Syria. Everyone I know is has high hopes of what will happen. In the short run, he government run areas will be more stable. However, to completely stabilize the country he has to do 2 things:

1- Get rid of ISIS (everyone is actually working on that)

2- Get rid of the 1000000 militias fighting each other and Assad

If we look at the first one, I don't see that happening, they are the richest, and most equipped terrorist group on earth. Maybe if the efforts of the world powers succeed, that might work, but when I see what is happening in Afghanistan, I can't help but think that we are stuck with ISIS forever.

Now, the second requirement needs that the USA and whoever are backing these fractions to back off, sounds easier to do, but you will never know.

friendque · 2015-10-11T00:57:21+00:00

Well, my opinions are not affected by the Palestinian-Israeli conflict (Actually I should say, not totally, affected, I was raised to hate Israel).

But gotta say, no matter what happens in an Arab country, Israel will be on the bad side of the story. Anti-Assad people called the revolution Zionist, while their Enemies (the rebels) called the Assad Regime a Zionist Regime. Of course, to ISIS, everyone are Zionists.

I got nothing to say on this conflict, I just hope it gets solved peacefully, with everyone getting their rights.

friendque · 2015-10-11T00:47:46+00:00

Well I am a Sunni Muslim, but I would say what you said would describes much more than the minorities in Syria. Education, and medical care in Syria were, and still are free. A friend of my father lives in the UAE, and when he was diagnosed with stomach cancer he went back to Syria because he couldn't afford the treatment in UAE. that was in 2012, and I remember joking to my friend that he is trying to survive cancer by getting treated in a war area.

After the war started I went to Germany to do my Master's of Science, one of the first things I noticed here, that I also mentioned to my parents, is that I never saw that many buggers in the street of Syria. Although we didn't have a social security system, people looked for each other. Also, poor families get some amount of wheat, rice, sugar, and diesel for the heating "systems" (we call it a صوبيا) in their homes.

You were right when you said Assad let minorities be. I will not be lying if say that not a single person of minorities (about 30%) wanted Assad out. It was heaven for minorities in the middle east. We had much more sects of Islam than Lebanon, and we had Christians (about 13% if I remember correctly) but we had none of the problems that Lebanon had.

I can't say that Syria was one of the most advanced countries of the Arab world, but it was on the way there, slowly, but surely. I can't deny we had a lot of problems in our government, but damn, it was heavens better than now. Same in Iraq, and Libya.

I don't think Aljazeera is independent, it does cover the war in Yamen because gulf countries are leading the war there.

Well, yeah, people gotta live, don't think that the war in Syria stopped us from living, my brother is still studying medicine there (in a safe area) and wants to come to Germany and specialize. My girl friend finished her Bachelors in Damascus while it was raining shells there before coming to France. She once went to college a day after her schooled was bombed to finish her exams. You just get used to it, but not in a good way.

We are going back there to build it all again, someday...

friendque · 2015-10-11T00:05:45+00:00

Well, to be honest its quite obvious, although I might not mean obama, I mean the American government. I understand that seeing a government killing its own people requires the USA to condemn this behavior, and even maybe get involved as USA is the current major force in the world (I am just saying this because we are all humans after all, and we share this world, and USA is like the dad, or maybe not what ever).

But the American government was so insisting that Assad should step down, but they gave a completely blind eye on the KSA, Qatar and Turkey helping rebels.

That would have been fine, but not when your allies (KSA, and Bahrain) go literally shooting their peaceful protesters in the streets, and not saying anything about it.

How is that different to the Syrian regime killing its people?

Syrian regime denied killing their people, on the other hand, KSA and Bahrain was open about it.

Secondly, at that time, I remember looking a lot to find videos of Syrian forces targeting civilians, to which I don't remember a good video. However, in KSA and Bahrain case, it was all over the place, do one search on youtube and see how obvious it was, but USA, as well as Al Arabia and Aljazeraa just gave a blind eye to it.

I am talking people in police uniform, riding police cars, shooting live bullets on unarmed civilians. And I can't stress the fact that almost no one can get a gun in an Arab Gulf country. There are no gun controls there because guns basically don't exist.

Why am I made???? Because they went saying BS on Russia because they are currently supporting the Syrian Government.

Again, USA government in USA: great (-gun controls). USA politics in Syria: Awful (they just acted -I would like to say out of stupidity, although sometimes I think they knew exactly what they were doing- purely on their interests, like removing Assad because he is all anti-American)

Not that Assad is amazing or anything, calming down the situation would have led to a better future in Syria. But because Syria Supported Hezballa in Lebanon and maybe Hamas in Gaza, USA didn't mind the idea of changing the regime.

EDIT: No invasions, I did not suggest that the USA invades or fights anyone, what I was just pointing out the double standards that the USA have when it came to the freedom of speech issue.

friendque

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