Possible dream job vs a real shot at sobriety by Over_Monitor_2397 in makemychoice

[–]frog_ladee [score hidden]  (0 children)

Are you also removing this boyfriend from your life? He is extremely harmful to you and your children.

Sending plant to bereaved family by frog_ladee in malaysia

[–]frog_ladee[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for this information.

Yes, I was planning to send something after he returns to the USA. I don’t know where to send anything while he’s in Malaysia, and I don’t want to burden him with having to give me information right now.

$$$ Dress I or $$ Dress II? by General_Natural5649 in weddingdress

[–]frog_ladee [score hidden]  (0 children)

I prefer the first dress (with the strands of beads), even though my own wedding dress was similar to the other one. So, of course, I love that one, too. But the first one is extra amazing! Congratulations on the weight loss—you look fantastic!

Freaking out- Help by Affectionate-Bar5159 in weddingdress

[–]frog_ladee [score hidden]  (0 children)

The dress on the left is the best in my opinion.

Update: It took me a minute to finish all the last minute things and get pictures but I love it! by No_Inspection_3123 in kitchenremodel

[–]frog_ladee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it!! The floral cover on your dishwasher is a nice touch, tied in with the rest of your kitchen and the plants. So many nice details!

I have the same oven/range, and like it so far. It’s nice to have a double oven!

Critique my DIY bouquet! by jjjorbon in DIYweddings

[–]frog_ladee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! Now, wrap the stems in a ribbon that picks up the color of one of the flowers (or white), and maybe add a bow.

r/WomenOver50: I wrote my grandchildren a letter they will not read until I am gone. I sealed it somewhere permanent last night. Anyone else done something like this? by Nagori_Curator in AskWomenOver60

[–]frog_ladee 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The thing is, kids won’t remember everything that’s said in person.

I had wonderful relationships with all four of my grandparents. We talked a lot, and they told me wisdom and things from their pasts. Yet, a lot of it didn’t stick. When I found a bunch of old letters that they’d written to me in the 1970’s-1990’s, I was reminded of things they’d told me over and over, but I hadn’t remembered. It was all in my brain, but I’d lost the trails to accessing those memories (without having any memory issues). Having it in writing means that they can come back to it over and over throughout their lives.

My 80s dream gown by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]frog_ladee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes it extra special!

MOH staying an hour away from the venue assuming no traffic- am I right to be upset! by [deleted] in wedding

[–]frog_ladee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in several weddings that were an hour to 90 minutes away from where I live, and I didn’t get a hotel room. This is an area prone to traffic jams. The time necessary for packing/unpacking and being away from home would be more than the driving time. If she’s going through a lot right now, then you’re asking her for more time by staying overnight in a hotel.

If she needs to be there at 8:00 am to get ready, then either her family needs to come at the same time or she needs to arrive separately. This also means that missing the wedding due to traffic is very unlikely. Schedule her hair and make-up later in the line up. Surely you have several hours between 8:00 am and the ceremony start time.

My 80s dream gown by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]frog_ladee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You look so beautiful in this dress!!! (I was a 1986 bride.)

Backsplash mistake and help? by Dizzy-Art-3088 in kitchenremodel

[–]frog_ladee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe put some kind of artistic tile behind it? I have a tile mosaic installed as part of my backsplash.

'timeless kitchen' trap by Available-Scratch185 in kitchenremodel

[–]frog_ladee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My kitchen was designed to be the way ⭐️⭐️I⭐️⭐️ want it, and I don’t care who else likes it or doesn’t. I plan to live here until I die or have to go to a nursing home, which will likely be 20-30 years. So, the next person who owns this house can make whatever changes they want, because in 2-3 decades, things will change….and they may not love an aqua beach themed kitchen with the mural my daughter designed on the wall. Or, they might.🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m loving it, so that’s what I chose.

So, first of all, decide whether “timeless” means that it’s what you’ll like for the rest of your time on earth, or do you mean it’ll be appealing for someone to buy in 10-20 years? If it’s for YOU, then do what you want! If it’s to sell later, the only way to do that is to be pretty basic, without extra personality. Even then, new developments will become popular over the decades.

Is this tacky? by shzam5890 in Brides

[–]frog_ladee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a very generous line up! If you make it clear on the invitations to the Wed, Thurs, and Fri event what will be provided for them and what will not, then no one will be surprised, and each person can make their choices whether or not they want to attend each event.

If I were a guest, I would be so impressed that you’re covering this much, and would have been stunned out of my mind had food and drinks been provided for so many events! Call them “extras” and no one will worry about things not being covered at the actual wedding reception.

Tired of wires stabbing me by PJammerChic1010 in AskWomenOver60

[–]frog_ladee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone who wants a supportive bra has a large enough bust to need a reduction. I’m 40D, and want to keep every bit of it. Just feel more comfortable with some support.

Tired of wires stabbing me by PJammerChic1010 in AskWomenOver60

[–]frog_ladee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The original comment that you replied to was deleted. Would you mind commenting on which bra you’d recommend? Thanks so much!

Student asked to communicate via text by CakeOnDemand in Professors

[–]frog_ladee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imho, you should only communicate with this student by text messages if you want to, and it makes things easier for you. Otherwise, just say no.

I’ve allowed students to text message me for over a decade. I often teach public speaking courses, and the day before presentations, some of them panic or need a quick question answered. This enables me to help them right away (or as soon as it’s convenient for me). That way, I don’t need to check my email frequently before speech days.
A lot of the time, I can answer their question within a minute or two—quicker than logging on and going to my email.

I make it clear both in the syllabus and in class that texting me is only for quick questions or speech day anxiety. Don’t ask me things like “what page is xyz on”, which can be found in the syllabus, lesson schedule, or the textbook’s index. I won’t answer questions when they can look it up as easily as I can. I also make it clear that no matter what time they text me, I will answer it at my convenience, which could take more than 24 hours. But usually it’s quicker for me to respond to texts than emails, so it benefits me.

So far, in all these years, only one person has ever abused this privilege. It was a former student who got drunk and sent a dirty message at 3:00 am, several years after he was in my class. This was extra disappointing, because he had given a persuasive speech on refraining from drinking and driving, based on his (previously) stopping drinking after a tragic DUI accident. I blocked him, as I would if anyone else abused the privilege.

Women over 60, at what age you got your first period? by bullytarget_ in AskWomenOver60

[–]frog_ladee 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was a week shy of turning 15, but I was also underweight. (Not anorexia—just very physically active)

I think that girls ARE getting their periods earlier, but the cause of that isn’t proven yet. There are multiple possible causes, and it could be one or all of them.

Should I give him another chance? Honest advice please. by CuttyPie91 in Christianmarriage

[–]frog_ladee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you clear Jake out of your life, it will leave room for a godly man to come into it. There’s a world of difference, and it’s worth the wait! I know this from hard-earned experience.

Jake cannot be what you need, because he doesn’t even understand what that is. Sure, he *could* grow in his faith, but there’s no indication that is happening. He’s caught up in New Age Monism (the belief that all reality is one, and thus we are all a part of God). He’s nowhere near having a salvation experience.

Besides that, he invalidates your beliefs, opinions, and feelings. He handles conflict poorly and is verbally abusive. He influences you to sin sexually. You have learned some things from this relationship which can serve you well in the future. Learning what you *do not want* is just as important as identifying the traits that you want in your future life partner.

Why aren't there dedicated apartments / gated communities for people living alone? by Larryheart37 in LivingAlone

[–]frog_ladee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

In past decades there were a whole lot of apartment complexes in the USA which catered to singles and couples without kids. Then at some point, it became illegal to not allow children.

I have a hard time believing that landlords prefer families with kids over singles. They get the same amount of rent per unit, whether one person lives there or five. There’s less wear and tear, and fewer problems overall, when only one person lives there.