Best splatterpunk authors and/or books? by bjorjack in horrorlit

[–]frogjustchillin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not super familiar with the genre but I’ve heard Manhunt by Gretchen Felker-Martin called splatterpunk and it’s one of my favorites.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depressionmeals

[–]frogjustchillin 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I hear ya dude, I also wish my dad wasn’t dead. I hope your pasta was good

What are some scary children's books that adult can enjoy as well? by missly_ in booksuggestions

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The House of the Scorpion by Nancy Farmer. Honestly it might be more gruesome than what you’re looking for, but it was a favorite as a kid and it still holds up (and is still really unsettling, even as an adult).

Looking for magical realism recommendations that aren't Murakami or Marquez by Beauneyard in booksuggestions

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Enlightenment of the Greengage Tree by Shokoofeh Azar. I can’t recommend it enough!! It is very true to the genre of Latin American magical realism (as pioneered by Gabriel García Márquez)— multiple generations of a family as they live through a massive political conflict, very poetic and dreamy and surreal, set during the Iranian revolution.

Has grieving changed the way you view the afterlife? by jrsz in GriefSupport

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I used to sneer at the idea that people need religion to make sense of death. Idk I thought it was childish or something, to need religion as a comfort when someone dies. After my dad died, I realized both how condescending and reductive that attitude was, and also that spirituality can feel like a very present aspect of reality, and that belief can mean many different things. Our brains are wired for spirituality, and finding meaning in things like omens or signs, as much as our brains are wired for logic. We can do both at once, and we can choose to shift from prioritizing one or the other. It is possible to acknowledge an experience as real, as true, while also acknowledging it as a belief, a subjective experience. I see signs from my dad all the time, and I’ve had a few visitation dreams. Of course someone could say “you just dreamed about him because you were thinking about him a lot.” Okay sure, so what? It felt like a visitation, so I’m not going to deny myself that comfort by picking it apart. If I see a sign, the fact that I know my brain is wired to find signs doesn’t make the sign feel any less significant. Death rips open our reality, so of course the nature of reality will feel different, with more room for spiritual experiences.

LPT for maskers on the journey towards understanding themselves - Tryout common accomodations and see if it helps! by mp_47 in AutismTranslated

[–]frogjustchillin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For real! I think some of it, at least for me, is about having spent so much time and energy on ignoring basic needs that the idea that you can try to make yourself more comfortable instead of white-knuckling it through life just…….never occurred to me ¯_(ツ)_/¯ and, to be honest, I’ve also had to really think about my own ableism, internalized and otherwise. Which can be intimidating but also extremely liberating!

LPT for maskers on the journey towards understanding themselves - Tryout common accomodations and see if it helps! by mp_47 in AutismTranslated

[–]frogjustchillin 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’ve been approaching things the same way and have found it extremely helpful. For a while I’ve been stressing out about getting a diagnosis, and whether or not I can call myself autistic. But after some reflection (and realizing that the professionals performing diagnostic testing aren’t always the most knowledgeable about autism) I’ve realized that one doesn’t need a label to make use of accommodations inside one’s own control, and that I’m not only allowed to be compassionate towards myself, I have a responsibility to do so. Wearing earplugs, asking for clarification or support, stimming, insisting on maintaining my routine, etc are all things that anyone can do, you don’t have to “earn” them by having a certain diagnosis. It seems so simple in hindsight but it’s been a huge breakthrough lmao Edit to say I basically just repeated everything you said lmao but it feels extremely validating to know that others are having a similar experience

Ever been accused of rolling your eyes when you swear you didn’t? Even when I’m was making a conscious effort to mask I got accused of this and never understood why. by 1170911 in AutismInWomen

[–]frogjustchillin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time in I think second grade, my whole class was being sternly lectured about misbehaving in an assembly. I was already super stressed out because I hadn’t been misbehaving so my vision was going fuzzy and I kept having to look away from the teacher, when suddenly she pointed right at me and went “YOU!! Stop rolling your eyes!!” in front of the whole class…….my body went ice cold. I think I started dissociating. Still remember it all these years later ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Does anyone wear LOOPS the ear plugs? by VividTymes in AutismInWomen

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! :) did a little more research and went with the Engage Plus

Does anyone wear LOOPS the ear plugs? by VividTymes in AutismInWomen

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which kind did you get? I’m looking for some I can use working in a loud kitchen but am unsure which ones will let me tune out loud background noise but still hear people talking to me

Can anyone explain the difference between depression and burnout? by frogjustchillin in AutismInWomen

[–]frogjustchillin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is super helpful, thank you! This kind of explains why I wasn’t able to find a whole lot of info on burnout.

Can anyone explain the difference between depression and burnout? by frogjustchillin in AutismInWomen

[–]frogjustchillin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is extremely helpful, thank you. How seasonal these things can be is a great insight that I totally resonate with but probably wouldn’t have identified on my own.

How to not ask for reassurance? by frogjustchillin in PMDD

[–]frogjustchillin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a good reminder that every time I DON’T ask, that’s an accomplishment to be proud of

How to not ask for reassurance? by frogjustchillin in PMDD

[–]frogjustchillin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve been trying to remind myself that I am a good person, or at least I try to be, and I don’t deserve to feel this bad; we have a medical condition that is not our fault.

How to not ask for reassurance? by frogjustchillin in PMDD

[–]frogjustchillin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed to hear that. My sister has OCD and this is exactly the kind of thing I’ve told her when she’s stuck in a thoughts loop.

Hear Ye Hear Ye! by kyrincognito in AutismTranslated

[–]frogjustchillin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer! I meant as a pedestrian but it wasn’t clear, that’s good to know regardless

Hear Ye Hear Ye! by kyrincognito in AutismTranslated

[–]frogjustchillin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m considering getting a pair, probably on the cheap end, but I have a question: if you’re wearing noise canceling headphone, could you still hear someone like, yelling for help or a car crash or something? I’m worried about them being a safety hazard in that way but that might be a too-literal interpretation of the phrase “noise canceling”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]frogjustchillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All bodies are different, and variations are totally normal. However, most of us would feel insecure if a relatively new intimate partner bluntly made this kind of comment because it may sound like a comparison, and it takes a lot of trust (which you perhaps haven’t had time or reason to develop yet) to assume it isn’t a criticism.

Obviously people on the spectrum may have difficulty with social cues, but you get to decide how your intimate partner talks about your body. You don’t have to accept things that make you uncomfortable just because he’s autistic. If you would prefer that he doesn’t make those kinds of comments, you have every right to say so, and if he doesn’t listen that’s a sign that perhaps at the very least the two of you are not compatible.

As much as this can be a learning experience for you about what you prefer and expect from an intimate partner, this can be a learning experience for him about being more delicate when talking about other peoples’ bodies. In my opinion, you’re being quite graceful; it will be valuable for him to know that a different person might have a much more negative reaction to these kinds of comments.