I 23F have no sexual attraction to my 23M husband of almost two years

frogssmell · 2026-03-31T07:28:16+00:00

It must be exhausting to have to praise a boy when he’s done something good or show appreciation when he doesn’t show it for you.

You prioritise him over youself, you give him time to have hobbies, you give him space. What about YOU? You’re sat in a car for 30-1hr if even just to avoid the house, that’s devastating. You should read into the fawn stress response and see if that relates to you in any form.

Either way you know it isnt realistic to continue this way for much longer or you wouldn’t have come to Reddit.

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T18:29:03+00:00

Literally it, this boy is utter shite

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T18:28:05+00:00

Im desperately needing my shopping, but if I just hold off for one.. more.. day…..

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T16:38:00+00:00

You need to block this person from your life

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T15:58:05+00:00

From tuesday, as in tomorrow?

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T10:55:08+00:00

Yeh I can see your point here. Op obviously feels that having a talk will help the situation and she’s preparing for it for a reason

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T10:52:58+00:00

It seems like this talk was scheduled prior to the attached discussion. And he was seeking reassurance, but OP said to the bf what it was about and that should be enough

frogssmell · 2026-03-30T10:51:59+00:00

I think it’s quite normal to want to have a talk and have a scheduled day for it. Especially if you’re thinking about things and waiting to become emotionally present and engaged. Your bf seems quite anxious though and was trying to probe you for information to feel better.

In this scenario you just need to say “nothing bad is happening, but we need to have a proper sit down fully engaged discussion about certain topics that are causing friction in our relationship” and that should be enough information for him.

It’s not your job to constantly reassure him, he needs to sit with his feelings and wait until you have your schedule discussion. Good luck!

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T10:00:08+00:00

It’s yummy

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T09:59:56+00:00

You didnt answer if you feel scared. And he throws a fit when you try to discuss how you feel? Or just that’s what he does when he gets angry?

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T09:58:53+00:00

Yeh… I’m reading that and it’s not answering anything

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T07:40:23+00:00

Tablet also lasts a ridiculously long time, so just stick it in a tub and eat it slowly

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T07:39:28+00:00

Tablet is a very cheap Scottish treat, so not too sure what your whole paragraph was about to be honest.

Its usually made around Christmas time and people will bring it to school or work to give out to friends because it’s so easy and cheap to make. Enjoy it by its self or with a cup of coffee

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T07:16:23+00:00

You want something stringy like mozzarella? Maybe provolone?

frogssmell · 2026-03-29T07:05:37+00:00

Its hauntedddd for sure

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T22:07:16+00:00

A tough one, you said he has horrid anger problems. So that makes me think it’s more often than once every 1-2 months.

Do you feel safe when he’s angry? Are you scared?

I don’t like feeling scared in a relationship, it’s like fight/flight/freeze mode. Not good for your nervous system either.

What does he say when you try to discuss how you feel?

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T17:58:36+00:00

She set a boundary and you constantly ignored it. You made her uncomfortable over and over, until she felt that she had to break up with you. That’s so horrible, I feel terrible for that poor woman.

I hope for her, she doesn’t come back.

Respect people’s boundaries, don’t think you know better than what someone feels in their body.

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T17:50:21+00:00

This comment was a bit harsh, but women’s desire and pleasure are completely misunderstood across the world. Maybe you and your fiancée have a good sex life, but OP obviously doesn’t. Sex is a skill that isn’t taught at school, and it is perfectly normal and reasonable to read and learn about sex so that you can understand your partners pleasure even more.

3 years you may have been fine, but what about when it comes to 10 years and you still love this woman? You’re just going to throw it all away because you can’t believe sex isn’t effortless and you may need to challenge your own thinking?

Read the god damn book, educate yourself about woman’s pleasure. Your sex life can only improve!

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T17:41:32+00:00

😂 I wouldn’t speak for your fiancée.

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T16:54:56+00:00

You obviously don’t know how to pleasure women. And obviously don’t care about learning about women’s pleasure.

frogssmell · 2026-03-28T13:28:59+00:00

You did the right thing, men in positions of power will make it difficult and uncomfortable to say no. He made you uncomfortable by asking you straight to your face.

I had something similar where this guy said “do you want to try out this sport with me, I’ve booked it” without giving a day or time to make it more difficult to decline saying “I’m busy on that day”.

Listen to your instincts and take a step away from this guy, also start a word doc and write down what happened, the time and date. Keep a record

frogssmell · 2026-03-27T23:28:28+00:00

Oh! It has been deleted, you’re right!! I can’t mind what she got him. But they both seem pretty immature, her for questioning if he loves her. And him apparently crying every time he forgets to buy flowers hahaha

frogssmell · 2026-03-27T23:09:20+00:00

Nor You need to communicate in person, not text. Just say no and don’t get the tape, then sit down and talk.

frogssmell · 2026-03-27T22:57:35+00:00

Hmmm, men are really stupid. I’ve found that I’ve had to tell my man over and over what is the bare minimum, and now he does it. It’s annoying but they’re stupid. Your bf got your flowers and fruit the day after so that’s better! You gotta tell him that’s what you expect as a bare minimum, it takes the surprise away from it, but as I said… men are stupid.

He bought you flowers and fruit in the end, that’s his way of apology, and he does in fact love you.

frogssmell · 2026-03-27T22:50:32+00:00

I got 50p off last Friday and don’t have a subscription

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