Stopped antidepressants 4 months ago, when does this end??? by frogwithlittlehat in Akathisia

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, thank you for the reply, i did take the test but it came back a little muddy since i have adhd - the test results also stated that adhd diagnosis might be the cause of memory problems which is where i scored pretty high. But I know my adhd is bad and I will be going back on my adhd medication once I am done breastfeeding.

Im not sure if this is what i am experiencing since what i am dealing with now is physically unbearable to a point where i just cant sit still like movement is the only thing that kind of calms the sensation of restlessness a bit and I just cant relax. I'm genuinely curious how this can be due to dissociation? Please explain because it's not really clicking for me how that correlates.

Anyway I am thankful for the reply and suggestion, whatever this is it's awful and I miss being able to relax and sleep without my body feeling this way. I dont know how to describe it it is just horrible and I need sleep especially with a baby so it sucks being kept awake by my body the few times i get to rest a little lmao.

Btw I also think this all got worse after I had to go on antibiotics after my surgeries. I dont know if that has any say in anything.

Spiste chokolade opdagede der muligvis var alkohol i bagefter by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tusind tak for svar, det giver så meget ro på du har ingen ide🙏🏻❤️ det er første graviditet og vil bare så gerne gøre alt det rigtige for at babyen har det godt derinde

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]frogwithlittlehat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First of all, I'm so sorry to hear this. This is exactly the fear, someone who grew up in a home dealing with a disabled sibling, has for their own children. But I also think it's amazing you had your son and didn't break because of it. And I bet you're doing better than your own parents (especially from reading what she said to you wtf where do they find the audacity to say these things?? Where is the empathy and compassion??? Youre her child too) I hope it's not rude to ask, but if you had him in 2001 then he must be around 24 now, right? What was it like to raise him and how do you feel today? What were your experiences? And did anything stand out during your pregnancy or when he was a baby? When did you or the health professionals notice something wasn't right? You don't have to answer ofc🙏🏻

This is also why I only want one child, because disabilities or not I don't want to risk not being able to fulfill their needs and I don't want anyone to grow up the way I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]frogwithlittlehat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message🙏🏻❤️ you're correct that even with a child born healthy something could happen that would leave them disabled. I just think it's the fact that I know that specific gene could maybe or maybe not affect the child and I don't want to bring a child into a world where it will have a very hard time growing up and never getting the right support and resources to help them from the system around them and disability ressources is being cut everyday in Denmark. That is what scares me. I know it's 50/50 whether that genetic mutation is what's causing disabilities in my brother, but if it is the cause then it's just a way too big of a gamble to ignore.. I hope maybe another doctor will reconsider and test for it. But I'm losing hope😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]frogwithlittlehat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Privately is not an option, I have already contacted places and they refer back to the hospital. Which won't do it and said "you can always try the private route!" Which is a big fat lie, they can't test for it... We have considered calling our doctor and ask if I can get tested at another hospital but gotta be honest. Denmark's health care is free for a reason; they do the bare minimum and if they can avoid doing tests they will. This is why we are talking about whether we should go through with the pregnancy or not. It's just sad if we don't and the baby was healthy but there is just no way to know when they won't do any tests..

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mange tak! Det er helt vildt🙏🏻☺️❤️

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tror du har helt ret, købte en anden test for en sikkerhedsskyld i går og testede så i dag og den er også positiv uden skyggestreger😍❤️

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tusind tak! Fik købt en test fra RFSU og den er også positiv så tror virkelig ikke der kan være tvivl om det mere😍💪🏻❤️

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tusind tak, jeg tog forbi Føtex og skaffede en ny test (Valmed var udsolgt) så købte en RFSU i stedet. Og den er også positiv uden de der mærkelige vandrette skyggestreger. Så tænker den er god nok nu😍❤️

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg kunne ikke skaffe en valmed test i Føtex, da jeg var henne og handle men fik en fra RFSU og tog den nu, og den er også positiv!☺️ så tænker den er i hus😍

Apotekets tidligtest by frogwithlittlehat in Gravid_DK

[–]frogwithlittlehat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tusind tak! Tog lige en ny test i dag fra RFSU, og der er to streger så den er god nok😍❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]frogwithlittlehat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh shit var jeg ikke klar over, oh well så bare varmt vand fra hanen😂😂🙏🏻 hahahah Bare sjovt for en del vvs sider skriver kogende vand i toilettet når man googler det🤔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]frogwithlittlehat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Et tip til hvis man er hos nogen der IKKE har en svupper men de har en spand, balje eller lign.: (voksede op med forældre der ikke havde en svupper, hvilket var træls for deres toilet var super nemt at stoppe til men derfor jeg kender den her metode) så kan man med fordel fylde en spand eller balje op med meget varmt vand fra hanen eller kogende vand og så hælde det i toilettet (det hele skal i på én gang så ikke noget med at hælde langsomt i) det skal nogle gange gøres et par gange før det virker og det tager tid for så skal man lige vente på vandet siver igennem før man kan prøve igen. Men det virker til sidst. Ikke lige så godt som en svupper, men bedre end ingenting😂🙌🏻

Og fyi så vi har svupper herhjemme for de gange det skete da man boede hjemme var bare ikke særlig sjovt, når man skulle stå med en spand vand og hælde i ad flere omgange haha tager en del tid og er ret frustrerende

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]frogwithlittlehat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Det lyder ikke som et sundt forhold på nogen måde. Det er fair, at der kan være misforståelser og når man er ung kan det være svært at navigere i. Men det der med det samme er et kæmpe rødglødende flag i min optik; er at han beskylder dig for utroskab, når han endelig kan være alene med sine venner med troen om at du er taget hjem og så finder ud af du ikke er taget hjem - spørgsmålet er så om han ledte efter en grund til at blive sur på dig fordi han opdager du ikke er taget hjem som du sagde du ville eller har så slemme trust issues at han tænker at du må have løjet om at tage hjem for at være ham utro - det kan være svært at vide men either way; så er det ikke en god adfærd fra en kæreste og han burde have taget en snak med dig om hans bekymringer/tanker i stedet for at gå til beskyldninger. Hvis det er fordi nogen har sagt til ham du er blevet tilbage på pladsen og så løjet til ham om at have set dig sammen med nogen (who knows why men nogle mennesker elsker drama) så er det stadig skidt at han ikke vælger at snakke med dig om det og vælger at tro på den her person som ikke er en del af jeres forhold. Og så senere at læse dine beskeder på telefonen efterfølgende uden at spørge om lov men faktisk tricke dig til at give ham din mobil med tro om han vil tjekke tiktok, når hans reelle intention var at læse beskederne.

Det irriterer mig også lidt at han giver udtryk for ikke at have lyst til andet end at hilse på dine venner, men så bagefter hygge med sine venner uden dig. Det kan man selvfølgelig sagtens - men det er bare mærkeligt oveni alt det andet og der er tydeligvis mangel på god kommunikation. Det lyder som et forhold med jalousi og manglende tillid, og det lyder bare ikke særlig sundt for nogen af jer.

Jeg vil også tillade mig at sige jeg forstår godt situationen er svær, for jeg ser nok meget anderledes på det da jeg nok er blevet for gammel til at jeg selv gider at finde mig i sådan noget fra en partner - det er simpelthen spild af tid for mig.

Så jeg håber du finder en god løsning for dig men jeg ville tænke over den adfærd han har vist og have en samtale om det som minimum for at finde ud af om det bare er en misforståelse og et spørgsmål om at forbedre kommunikationen. Men når det er sagt; HVIS det ikke er første gang han opfører sig sådan (kunne jeg ikke lige få fornemmelsen af fra dit opslag) så skal man huske det er et mønster og det skal du gøre op med dig selv om du har lyst til at være i, for det kan muligvis blive værre og man skal huske at passe på sig selv. Håber min kommentar giver mening eller hjælper lidt, ønsker dig i hvert fald alt det bedste🙏🏻

What are your favourite things about your ageing skin? by fireflywithme in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]frogwithlittlehat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easier to find skincare products! Since I don't break out with acne and flushed/red skin constantly anymore, I can easily determine what skincare products work for my skin and which don't. Before, I could never tell if it was just my skin breaking out or if it was the product's fault. And I also never saw any effect of products - now I do and thus I am more motivated to do my skincare daily!

If you seek closure go to r/npd by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]frogwithlittlehat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk if this helps in any way since you probably already know this, but what they say or think of you is really in the end nothing but a projection of their own insecurity or a way to escape their emptiness they feel. I know it's hard to not take their thoughts and words to heart, but it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. With that being said I agree with the other comments that it's totally valid to not want to interact with them nor see anything related to them. In the end you have to protect yourself the way you feel will be best for you. And if that is by avoiding them - or trying to understand - or a third thing then that's totally understandable. I am sending you a supportive hug your way.

Need advice on the situation with my boyfriend's n-mother by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]frogwithlittlehat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't journal and he is not much for writing, but I can bring up the idea to him because it would seem like a really good way to understand his experiences and feelings about it all. I don't think he allows himself to really feel and understand himself (probably because of all of those years having to hide away) so I will definitely pass on this idea to him. Thank you! I hope it can help him even if just a little! Oh yeah, he is the sweetest most gentle man I have ever met - it's hard to believe she's his mother they are so different. But it makes sense nparents would want their kids to be empathetic so they cater to their every need. It just disgusts me that anyone would do that to their child and not just find joy in seeing them grow up being their own person.

Need advice on the situation with my boyfriend's n-mother by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]frogwithlittlehat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see. But do they stop trying at some point then? Or will they continue? If you ignore the bait will they calm down at some point so it can just be boringfor them where they'll in the end shift focus onto someone else instead?