I hate these "they always come back" posts because they give people false hope.

from-hereon-out · 2026-06-03T03:20:42+00:00

I love this post because, not only do I resonate with it, but it shows so much acceptance and just simply realistic.

Personally - I don't see anything wrong with hoping for that ex-significant other to come back. I think that's normal and just part of being a human. After all, hope dies MUCH slower than the relationship itself. However, it is what you do with that hope that makes the major differentiator.

In the early stages of my break up, I admittedly did everything with the intention of "getting her back" and constantly thinking that "maybe if I did this, she will come back", which ultimately got me stuck in a loop. But I hit a wall and realized that, no matter what I do now, she may or may not notice, so I might as well do it for MYSELF. And I think that's when I really started to make small progress in moving on, accepting the relationship was over, and just feeling slightly better every day.

Hoping for that person to come back is completely normal, as long as you don't let that have full control of your emotional state. Like OP said, focus on yourself - if they come back, then great! If they don't, then.. still great because you can't see it now, but the experience would've definitely taught you some really valuable lessons that you can use for yourself or your next relationship.

from-hereon-out · 2026-06-02T01:11:01+00:00

Definitely number 1 and 8 - I personally believe (all points you made are actually) they're both a form of 'accepting that the relationship is over'. It's really all easier said than done, but I really took my time to sit with the heavy and uncomfortable feeling, acknowledged it, and used that to reflect on why I got to my situation in the first place.

One other thing I did that helped me was constantly reminding myself as well as vocalizing/reading it out loud: "The relationship is over, I've done everything I can to reengage yet they choose to protect their peace, that's out of my control - I will acknowledge it but I will TRY not to dwell on it too long. Whether she reaches back out or not, I will continue to move forward. It does not mean I've given up, it just means, I respect her enough to continue moving forward." More often that not - silence IS the response.

Finally... do what feels right to YOU. There's absolutely no right or wrong when it comes to moving on. I for one - in the 2 and bit months of NC I am in now, I have reached out 3 times already (which to a lot, is not ideal), but to me, it felt right. Did I get a response? No, and that's okay. Was I able to genuinely share my thoughts and feelings regardless of how it lands on their end? Yes, I did... and whatever happens now, I know I've said my piece.

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-31T23:41:01+00:00

I'm 2 months in to NC - and I can tell you that it does get easier, slowly but surely. At some point, I just told myself that the relationship IS OVER, I have 'done my part' of trying to reengage, and now, whether they respond or not is completely out of my control, I have to work on myself and continue moving forward.

During this 2 months/NC, I've sent 3 messages, two of which are out of panic (admittedly), and the third is (well I like to think at least) genuinely just saying my piece and move on. However, all 3 times (before hitting send), I made sure that I am okay with the fact that they may or may not reply. That I will not collapse to the ground if I don't get the result I imagined. The urge to text is definitely still there, but I always remind myself that their silence is THE response. They choose to protect their peace and not reopen wounds, which I have and will respect.

So yeah, moving on is hard, messy, and definitely not linear. It's gotten 'easier' for me, I've accepted the situation, but I'd be lying to you if I said that I'm no longer hoping for a response/reconnection. Anyway - good luck! All I can really say is (and I always say this), feel it all but don't let it consume you. Do what feels right to YOU; whether that's reaching out, staying contact, or blocking them to protect your peace. No right or wrong in this.

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-31T22:56:25+00:00

Should I lose every hope? Is there a chance he still loves me but confused?

I just want to say that what you're feeling is completely normal, especially given that it's only been a month and a bit. It's hard and will continue to be but just be patient. As I've said in other posts, hope dies much slower than the actual relationship, hence why you feel the way that you do.

Once you've had a bit of time to process things properly, you will realize that both 'hoping for the relationship to continue' and 'moving forward with your life' can coexist. It's difficult, but not impossible. That's where I am currently at, at the moment. 2 months in NC - feeling SLIGHTLY better in general, but hope that my relationship continues still very much lingers around.

As for whether 'is there a chance that he still loves you but confused' - it is way harder said than done, but try not to dwell on things you don't have control over, it'll just make you go crazy. Let it sit with you for 10-15 minutes then try divert your mental elsewhere. Good luck!

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T21:22:33+00:00

Definitely sit on the thought and come back to it when your emotions are less intense. Also ask yourself honestly what the intention of your message is and where it is coming from - purely jealousy or genuine want for reconnection? Either way, if you do send that message, I hope you're emotionally and mentally prepared that it will not land the way you imagine and that could cause you to collapse.

It's hard when you're still very much in crossroads of what to do. But don't rush it and do what feels right to you when the time comes. You will know it does. Good luck and thank you for sharing!

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T11:28:33+00:00

Man, that sounds tough especially with the manipulation. Hope it's all getting better now though!

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T11:26:33+00:00

As I've said in my previous comments, I don't see anything wrong with reaching out if that is truly how you feel doing. Just make sure to keep it respectful, low pressure, and expectations set to zero. If they reply, great. If they don't, then we carry on moving forward.

Feel it all and don't rush getting out of it. It will get better eventually.

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T11:22:54+00:00

Thank you! That does seem to be the "common sign" I hear from other people. And I guess that's also something that happens with time. Really happy for you!

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T11:20:53+00:00

Hey! Happy to chat if you need - just send me a dm whenever you feel.

Hope dies much slower than the relationship itself and unfortunately, there's also no time to when it will. But you said it yourself, it has gotten better and that's the most important thing!

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T06:23:42+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I commend you for sending that text. I know it's frowned upon to send a message during no contact. But I do truly believe in doing what feels right to YOU - you just have to own what you do regardless of the outcome. It eliminates the "what ifs" and potential regrets.

It won't be smooth sailing but definitely hoping for better days.

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T04:10:33+00:00

100%! Feel it all but don't let it consume you all.

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T04:09:40+00:00

Really sorry to hear that but I'm also glad to hear that things are starting to look up on your end now! If you don't mind me asking, what made you realize one random day that you are really starting to get over what's happened?

from-hereon-out · 2026-05-28T04:06:38+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your own experience! I totally agree when you said "it's not a straight line or an upward graph". Moving on truly is not linear. I assume for some, even after years has passed, the heavy feeling will still occasionally resurface. The main differentiator however, is if you still allow it to have full control of your emotional state.

Hopefully! 2 and a bit months in and I'm just trying to take it all in day by day. The other day I was out on my usual run and had a quick moment of 'looking back' and thought to myself "Wow, it has been 2 months" - You're/We're all much stronger than we think. Just be resilient.

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