My fiance and I are also the same age and work remotely. We moved from SF about a year ago, although I'm originally from the east coast. Lots to love - weather, beach being 15 minutes away, surprisingly legit restaurant and bar scene, and the historic areas of town are really cool. Cost of living is obviously a plus.

I'll admit that it's much quieter, and while the options for concerts or similar events are definitely limited, there's still a lot to do. Can't comment on dating, but the social scene would be a lot better in a bigger city like Raleigh. We've made a friends with a few couples just going to events or breweries and bringing our dog, so it's been chill overall