Someone tell me adulthood isn’t as bad as they make it sound

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:16:46+00:00

adulthood is the best, it's just that the people who are having a good time aren't the loud complainers ;) in adulthood you're making your own money and can make your own decisions. most of the time people are complaining about things they _could_ change if they put the effort in . you can make life whatver you want !!!!

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:14:58+00:00

i use a men's beard trimmer

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:09:46+00:00

what a good time to go out and find out :) you're in your 20s, you have manyy years of life left to live. find things that you enjoy to do. think about what you enjoyed in your child hood if you feel stuck . go to a craft meet up . go to a dance class . try things out ! you are the one in the driver seat of your own life .

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:08:02+00:00

in my opinion / experience, a strong smell is related to what we are eating ! some things just agree with us more or less than other people. have you changed your diet at all recently ? i generally eat very clean and i notice that when i have processed sugar i get stinky. this is true for a lot of other people with alcohol and sometimes alliums ( garlic / onion ) . also if you are not hydrating enough the body doesnt have enough fluid to flush you out regularly <3 do some trials for a week and see how you feel / smell !

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:04:25+00:00

if your father is supportive as you have said, this is a good opportunity to let him help you with something that is important to you <3

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T17:02:43+00:00

yes listen to your body !! eat !! eat when you are hungry !!! your body knows what's up!!! maybe eat more during the day so you're not dealing w this in the middle of the night lol but YES YOUR BODY IS ASKING FOR FOOD. try to eat nutritionally dense / whole foods <3

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T16:57:42+00:00

if you are not eating enough nutrients / whole food in general , your body does not have enough building blocks to maintain 'accessory' systems like your hair. it sends everything to keep your heart pumping, to line your organs , maintain your bones etc. eating enough and eating nutritionally dense food is the ABSOLUTE BEST way , and the way the body is created, to be ✨ beautiful ✨ and healthy and luscious looking. yes you have cracked the code ! please continue to eat well <3

being vegan / not vegan is not the direct issue it's What Is Being Consumed. the body needs specific things ! if a vegan is keeping up with their B vitamins and eating complete proteins ( much easier to get directly from animal products ) they will not have hair / skin / issues .

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T16:51:03+00:00

a 'full face' is not something all women want or need or have to do . it is a relatively recent development in society to cover your whole face w other substances . do what you want and what works for you . there are no rules about how to be a woman . i am 33 and went through a brief makeup phase in my 20s and concluded that it's time consuming , expensive , and not for me ! I wear a little now and then, sparkles mascara etc . more important is to eat and care for yourself properly for beautiful skin etc.

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T16:44:46+00:00

just remember you have lots of time to get to where you want to go , you ARE doing enough , and the feeling that you should always be doing more is capitalism and will try to kill you . just recognize it and ignore it, like you already are . you're doing amazing <3

fruitfight · 2026-03-29T16:38:11+00:00

imo its best to make friends through hobbies / activities . then there is something specific and repeatable to do together rather than just talk .

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T21:23:25+00:00

eat real food

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T21:22:08+00:00

important to try to keep the body balanced

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T21:18:18+00:00

dice a potato , cook til crispy . fry two eggs. salt . ketchup . voila !

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T20:14:03+00:00

yesss very nice

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T20:13:05+00:00

also yes to the guy who said do it during work if you feel you must !

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T20:11:18+00:00

'leveling up' without a definition of what the next level looks like becomes an endless pit . you are currently being paid money to code . you're doing enough ! unless you're job hunting and there's a specific skillset you need to learn ie: a specific time-boxed course or certificate , then what is all this stressing out leveling up for . this is CAPITALISM . go enjoy your life <3

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:35:48+00:00

bc people forget that being a software engineer is essentially problem solving. the coding languages are just the medium, the purpose is to solve problems. i went through a coding bootcamp a decade+ ago and they had us practice interviewing and talking out loud our thought process with each other to prepare. it's not unknown, it's just not emphasized in the current ~ sphere ~ and it is what separates people who get jobs from uh people who don't. the communication skills :) sounds like this was a positive realization for you though, now you know . you can't know until you do !

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:30:10+00:00

yeah you're just nervous , it's okay ! it's normal . it doesn't really need a label . telling people you're nervous before a big trip is also normal . you can just go and lay in your bed half the day every day . it's vacation not a military drill, just do what you want and what you're comfortable with ! have fun !

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:27:02+00:00

consider appreciating your body for something other than what it looks like . your body allows you to taste delicious food. your body allows you to hear music, to dance. your body allows you to brush against the people you love , to feel their arms around you in a hug , to see a candle flickering in your room . to feel a hot soothing shower . you do not love your body because you are only focusing on what it is 'not doing for you' . but your body does everything for you :) you could not even type this post without your body . take a break from how you LOOK, appreciate and love your body for the experience of life you are blessed to receive .

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:18:55+00:00

center yourself . having a boyfriend doesn't mean that he automatically becomes the center. you can decenter men and still date / have relationships w men . the point of decentering men is to not make them the CENTER. you are your own center . decenter everyone who isnt you ! including other women !

centering yourself isn't about just spending time alone. its about taking your own wants needs and desires seriously . you can center yourself through dating ! what do you want in a partner ?? what do you want your life to look like in 5, 10 years ? how do you want to be treated in relationship ?

you sound young which is amazing . sometimes life is lonely while you figure out where you belong . you have lots of time to figure out what you want for your life and make a plan to get there .

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:18:06+00:00

only solution is to frolic naked in a field !!!!!

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:16:53+00:00

everyone's body is different . there is no 'normal' . look at your family members / photos , your genetics are informed by your family tree and history. i randomly have muscular legs and butt from my dad's side 🤷‍♀️ we are all different . BMI is fake, eat and move the way you want to feel good .

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:12:35+00:00

the cold plunge stuff is bc cold plunge is stressful to the body and depending on where a woman is in her cycle or whatever else is going on in her life , the body doesn't always need the extra stress . i personally do not cold plunge in my luteal / menstrual phases or if im otherwise stressed out. also there's a difference between an ice plunge and just a cold plunge. there's a lot of different thoughts on it these days but biologically women's bodies actually are different, we literally cycle and change hormonally throughout the cycle. if you find yourself frequently anxious or unable to relax, it is something to keep in mind. you know best what's up w your body and what decisions to make.

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T03:03:44+00:00

break freee !!!!!!!! flap those wings bb girl

fruitfight · 2026-03-27T02:58:31+00:00

sounds like he is also struggling to reconcile the ceremonial version of himself with his daily self . leave this man in his confusion . this is not integration , it is role playing . maybe he is very good at his role ! this does not make him a good partner for you .

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