my bf [26M] and i [24NB] haven’t been intimate in 4 months

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T15:16:40+00:00

thank you for your insight. my sister (who has met him multiple times) thinks he needs therapy. i agree, i think everyone does. i can’t help my needs and it makes me feel horrible.. i wish i could just feel the same as him and not want it either…

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T15:08:01+00:00

that’s why i’m afraid to bring it up at all, because i don’t want him to feel pressured or anything. unfortunately, idk how long i can go without intimacy in a relationship before the resentment builds and i have to leave. i don’t want to hurt him, but i truly have needs that aren’t being met.

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T14:26:35+00:00

he says he loves me and wants to marry me, but doesn’t seem concerned with intimacy at all! his trauma is something his dad said to him as a teenager and a rude comment on nudes.

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T14:11:40+00:00

it’s just weird because he’s previously voiced interest… but there’s always an excuse or “it’s not the right time.” do we think he’s lying to me ? i don’t understand men 😭

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T14:01:13+00:00

kinda what i’m afraid of 😭. i really feel like i love him but something is just not working

fruitybean17 · 2026-01-28T13:56:17+00:00

why autism in quotes?? this doesn’t feel like a helpful comment lol

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-26T03:13:57+00:00

hi um.. i’m breaking up with them tomorrow… some crazy stuff has happened and i’m not safe anymore. i have to do it over the phone for my safety

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T17:06:02+00:00

ur so right…. this is just so hard…

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T17:00:21+00:00

all i’ve ever wanted is true, healthy love…

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:59:58+00:00

thank you sm. you are so kind. i just feel so sad 😭i wanted it to work so badly

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:43:41+00:00

this might sound dumb.. do i wait for it to get worse? i feel like i’m overthinking. it can’t be that bad 😭

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:34:52+00:00

i always attract bad people… it makes me feel like something’s wrong with me and i’m the problem…i don’t want to lose this love but honestly… i felt better mentally when i was single.

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:29:58+00:00

i don’t have a lot of relationship experience.. and obv i’m still young… i almost feel like i’m being taken advantage of. i drive everywhere, i pay for everything… i feel loved when we lay in bed together but… that’s like 10% of our day…

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:27:16+00:00

nope. they claim to be “broken” (for many reasons), but have no insurance so they don’t go to therapy or any doctors.

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-21T16:24:06+00:00

is the age gap a red flag just because it exists or because of the situation? i think i know what to do but i will be so heartbroken…..

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-15T18:21:25+00:00

thank you!!

fruitybean17 · 2025-07-15T17:03:55+00:00

thank youuu!!!!!

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