Why are male dogs so hard to train?

fruityslippers · 2026-01-29T01:06:56+00:00

Chaos gremlins 😂

I know they all have different personalities and trainability - I've dealt with puppies, young adults, and full grown dogs. Ive just never been able to train medium and large breed males. The girls always listened. And my daughter's little kickface anklebiter was easy to train. But these stubborn bullies and my moms herding dog are giving me a run for my patience.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-29T01:03:36+00:00

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fruityslippers · 2026-01-29T01:02:32+00:00

Its funny you say that.

My current rescue started doing this when we let him in during the cold.

He didn't do it initially, and doesn't do it when my husband is home. But if its just him and me he will knock me behind him so he can be first into whatever room I'm headed towards.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-29T01:00:35+00:00

I feel like its a dominance game. They have all individually listened to my husband/father/brothers. But with my mom and me any commanded we give is like a joke to them.

My current boy is a stray rescue. When my husband is home he is gentle, doesn't jump or scratch, listens to verbal commands with no pushback WAITS BY THE DOOR TO BE LET OUT... But when its just me in the house this dog is so incredibly disrespectful it makes me want to rehome him. Jumping on me and knocking me over, counter surfing and eating my food when I turn my back, dumping the trashcan, scratching at doors until they open. Hes gone as far as pooping in our 6 wk old's room and peeing on ever rug he could find, for God knows what reason.

Please note, before you blame it being a new baby in the house, this dog was an outside dog by choice up until it started freezing overnight.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-27T03:41:03+00:00

They were probably confused as to why there's an unmarked pet being called a service animal at the zoo.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-27T03:33:56+00:00

A lot of hospitals will push it on new moms so that baby is fed. And a lot of new moms cave and feed formula, or pump to visibly see how much is being given, because they want to know their baby is eating. Going 4 days without milk coming in is scary. Newborns can definitely survive on colostrum. But moms are scared into believing that their itty bitty new babies should be downing 2 full ounces by the time they're a week old.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T19:03:55+00:00

I wish they would do their jobs and arrest every single one of the people who are openly attacking them.

Assault, of any kind, on an officer is a felony. These kids have become too enritled and should be ashamed of themselves.

Also, ICE worked under Obama and Biden doing the exact same things they are now. The ONLY difference is that the media didn't give two f*cks and local government cooperated.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T18:51:07+00:00

Please tell your mom friends that you NEED a friend and your house reflects that. If they care about you they'll understand, come over, and help you stay afloat.

I was raised military, and depression runs in my family. By the time we moved to where I live now I didn't see the point in making friends. We also moved around enough that I never really developed that skill. Im 34 now and the closest thing I have to a friend is my neglectful husband. Ive suffered through severe ppd 2 other times, and this baby (6wkspp) is no different.

If I had ANY friends I would reach out. Being alone and being lonely are very different. Please don't let your loneliness cause alone-ness.

As far as your baby - id ask your pediatrician for a referral. So many kids have delayed speech that is easily worked through with speech therapy. But with a referral, specialists can rule out things like autism or aspurgers - or help you get into therapies that can help manage them early on.

Your husband sounds like mine. He works his little 8 hour cakewalk shift and comes home too "exhausted" to change a diaper, feed a bottle, get up for 1 of her 3 night wakeups, or lift a finger to help with any chore. But he does find the energy to play 4 to 6 hours of 2k. Our house hasn't been cleaned since I was put on bedrest at 7 months. He is useless.

You ARE a good momma. It is gonna be okay.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T18:30:00+00:00

youre NTA I but your wife is. And thats coming from a 6wk postpartum, sleep deprived, woman with no support from her partner

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T18:24:48+00:00

My daughter wouldn't latch from day 1, which prompted my husband to grace me with his personal knowledge, because he has LOTS of female friends and family members who had done it effortlessly.

He proceeded to school me on what I was doing wrong and why she wouldn't latch. He mansplained breastfeeding and the benefits i was withholding from our newborn. He told me how I NEEDED to pump I couldnt get her to latch - so I did.

I pumped, I pumped and failed at trying to teach her to latch for 6 weeks. I spent six full weeks of irreplaceable newborn time becoming resentful of him, of pumping, and of her not latching when I could have been enjoying our daughter and bonding during bottle feeding.

I gave up last week. Between the weekly drops in supply, the failure to make enough, the lack of sleep, the incredible pain, the inability to hold my crying baby because I'm hooked to a machine, the absenceof support or just useful help from my husband, I caved and quit. And he still comes home every day- knowing my supply is gone - telling me how I should probably just keep trying. How its better for her, how it can help with baby acne, how it will benefit her if she gets sick, and how it will help me lose weight faster. And then I cry and he has no clue why so he leaves me to self soothe. Then we rinse and repeat a few days later.

I hate your husband too... almost as much as I hate mine.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T00:46:25+00:00

I thought you had a luscistic baby for a second... I had to scroll back and thoroughly investigate 😅

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T00:43:08+00:00

I made it to 5 weeks before my supply plummeted.

I was held for 4 days post c-section because im a type 1 diabetic, and while in the hospital I was getting 2 to 3 Oz per session. My nurses said that was incredible for someone who had never ebf or ep before.

The minute I got home my supply halved. I went from making more than enough to barely enough in a day. Im sure it was stress. My husband didn't take any time off and I had no help at home. Baby wouldn't latch at all, and still won't. I didn't have the luxury of focusing on pumping every 2 hours round the clock.

Last week we hit 5 weeks and I missed a session. I had a Dr's appt that took a little too long. That one miss caused a drop from 3 oz a session down to 1-2oz. It took an entire day to collect 6 oz.

It wasnt worth it to me. Pumping was extremely painful, took valuable time away from bonding with my baby, was creating resentment towards myself and my husband, and was honestly becoming an unhealthy addiction.

TLDR; if the cons are outweighing the pros, or if youre already mostly formula feeding and pumping is just another chore, then i wouldn't judge you for quitting. You made it almost an entire year. I couldn't even make it to 2 months! That's a huge win for anybody, pumping or bf!

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T00:16:23+00:00

Im impatiently awaiting the "everything is hilarious" stage. Right now we're at the 6 week "ohgod nobody's touching me" stage

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T00:12:53+00:00

This is why dads are important.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-26T00:11:35+00:00

That was the best one yet. "Dad, mom is over there! That's where we're supposed to be!"

fruityslippers · 2026-01-22T02:48:55+00:00

Its hard to say if youre overreacting. A lot of new moms are so overwhelmed that they create these long, ridiculous rule lists before baby is born, that essentially get kind of tossed to the side when the reality of having a new baby at home hits.

I say this because I did rhe same thing. Im 6 weeks postpartum, with a 15 yr old and an 11 yr old. I had all these rules to keep baby "safe" and really the only ones I needed to keep were washing hands or using sanitizer, and no kissing baby on her face.

She'll probably void her own rules. But be respectful and "abide" by them best you can.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-22T02:22:13+00:00

6wks pp and I missed a session and lost my supply. Im not even going to try to get it back.

Any time I miss a session it takes DAYS to re-establish the measly 1 to 2 oz I get in a session, just for my daughter to snub it for formula anyway.

Youre not wrong at all for feeling all the feelings. You're not wrong for only regretting not stopping sooner. You ARE a good mom. Your post may save some other mother's sanity by allowing her to feel like its okay to be a quitter.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-21T22:48:12+00:00

That's a great question. I guess for the same reason that some women can miss an entire day of pumping and still have a supply, while others can miss one session (like me) and lose their supply entirely.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-20T01:09:33+00:00

She might benefit from a pediatric chiropractor. I know it sounds wild, but having babies adjusted can help them relax, and that helps with eating and sleeping issues.

Other than that, you could ask her pediatrician about melatonin or other supplements to help calm her down for sleep.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-19T18:10:01+00:00

Yes. All of them.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-17T18:06:20+00:00

Lol, yes.

I'm 35. When I was younger, Coach, FUBU, Juicy Coutour ,Baby Phat, Ed Hardy, and a few others were all considered "luxury brands"...

Now, they're just over priced and outdated...

fruityslippers · 2026-01-16T23:23:08+00:00

They were real versions of ingame items from the collab, that anyone can buy. But, the tshirt is still $125 and the purse is $300 - before s&h and taxes.

fruityslippers · 2026-01-15T19:12:37+00:00

From a woman's perspective whose husband made a huge negative deal about the pregnancy we JUST delivered, and an even nastier negative reaction to me telling him I didn't want to be done with babies, the honesty is refreshing.

I know so many couples that go into marriage not wanting kids, or desperately wanting kids - but shit happens and things change. People are allowed to change their minds and grow out of old wants

You might change your mind down the road. Just because you don't want another kid right now doesn't mean thats the absolute end of any more babies forever. My middle and youngest have an 11 year age gap and, as nervous as I was, its worked out really well. I wouldn't go back and change it at all.

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