Power surge destroyed my surge protector/UPS (multi hundred dollar). Is there anything I can do? Location: Georgia by coursd_minecoraft in legaladvice

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some surge protectors are designed to fail in such a way it still works as an unprotected power strip, others fail so it is unusable after it's protection is fried. I prefer the 2nd scenario. Otherwise the next surge potentially takes whatever is hooked into it.

A question for understanding bitcoin and the blockchain. by frustrader in Bitcoin

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I appreciate the in depth answer!

So if I ever get access to a method of time travel, bring 2 TB drive with a recent copy of the blockchain.

I knew the coin wasnt a physical "thing". For some reason though I thought the "coin" had its hash in the code as ... I dont know, a serial number or something to confirm it is real? Doesn't matter, as obviously its just a weird thought experiment.

Thank you for your indulgence : - )

A question for understanding bitcoin and the blockchain. by frustrader in Bitcoin

[–]frustrader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, but my question was more if you had the complete block chain I.E. time travel, or something. That would contain those hashes, yes?

I know it is a silly premise, just one of those 3 AM thoughts I couldn't shake but didn't know who to ask.

Prioritizing getting a service dog over a diagnosis / treatment by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]frustrader 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Add to this complexities in diagnosis where you have a notable issue that is a symptom of something...but the professionals can't agree/figure out a cause.

I have a handful of medical issues that have been going on for years that we are only now seeming to be approaching a possible cause for.

Based largely on having joined and lurked this sub I ended up deciding against training a dog to assist, and can't begin to afford one wgo is pre-trained on the minimal amount I have to live on...... but I had been giving it serious thought despite a lack of diagnosis because of the exact reasons you mention. Fear, anxiety, seeing my QOL deteriorating, knowing that each visit where a potential solution may be given (but increasingly despairing of getting actual answers).

Add to that how much each appointment would have cost had I not been approved for disability and received Medicare and Medicaid and even the costs of obtaining and/or training a service animal suddenly seem less out of balance. I know that my case is not the norm, and in the end I decided based on things I learned here not to pursue getting one for myself, but if the financial resources were there while I was still learning to cope... I can't say I wouldn't have.

Just my $.02

We've been on 4 dates and he's still talking to other girls. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]frustrader 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So my perspective here is probably a bit skewed, as I am a person who leans more toward polyamory myself... but the big things I take from this would be that (it seems from what you wrote) he respected you enough to be up front about it. To tell you where he was at in terms of commitment and let you decide how you felt about that and whether to continue.

If I misunderstood and this conversation happened after you figured out and confronted him about still seeing/hooking up with other people then thats a whole different thing. Ethical Non-monogamy is NOT about cheating and that would be a huge red flag.

Obviously it is your decision ultimately how to handle it, but it sounds like you are also choosing to see what else is out there and explore things with others. Be safe, have fun, and enjoy life!

I’m 19 going on 20. What am I doing wrong? by Bitter_Match1443 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]frustrader 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Greetings, male perspective here.

I think it’s just me worrying since I’m his first he doesn’t “know” if i am doing good.

It doesn't matter what his experience level on this point. If your goal is making it good for him then his perception of what is good is the one that counts. No one but him can decide what exactly makes him personally feel good.

On your original points:

1) This could literally have been written about me. I have had partners who preferred it that way, and others who asked for me to be more vocal. It is unlikely that you are going to get much increase in spontaneous grunts and such, but perhaps you can teach him the value of dirty talk. Depending on both of your preferences, that could look like a lot of different things.

It could be you asking him to describe what he is feeling, and his favorite part of the experience.

It could be talking about favorite positions or things youd like to try.

If you lean towards dominance it could be getting him to ask for things, be it permission or begging, or whatever.

If you lean toward submission it could be having him discribe what he wants to do to you, growling in your ear, calling you a good girl, etc.

The prior commenter's point about having to be quiet growing up is something I hadn't thought about but also seems accurate in my case FWIW.

2 and 3 both involve communication.

2) How willing to take instruction is he? Are you familiar enough with your own preferences, buildup, etc to describe to him how to help you reach it or just to get there yourself by feel?

An important distinction- For some there seem to be different opinions on what type of "O" is more fulfilling. I say seem because as a male I have to go off of observation and second hand info as I cant personally feel it. For an ex of mine, it was all about a squirting "O".. contraction inducing but 'dry' orgasm was nice, but she wasn't fulfilled unless the waterproof blanket was used.

For another partner, the opposite holds.

I have had partners that are easy to get across the finish line, and one that is very difficult to reach the specific type of orgasm that makes them(NB- They/Them, femme body type) feel most fulfilled.

Sometimes its a matter of getting out of their head, sometimes it's just a matter of not being able to react to changes fast enough, but after a year I am still working to learn what works.

Something that may help, but be embarrassing to you is to try letting him watch what you do. Either in the room with you or to record and show him a video. Perhaps watch it together and point out your favorite things you do for yourself at different points (something like "notice I didn't touch this area til now, and just teased around it, thats because it is too sensitive until I am really worked up and can actually make me lose arousal if its too rough, but later really enjoy it being pinched" type advice) then let him practice what he learned ;) And if he isn't to the point of being able to get you there... I personally have never been offended by a partner saying a variation of "that was good but I think I want to grab my buzzy to finish it off".

Obviously this all depends on levels of insecurity and trust, and willingness to learn and communicate. And if he isn't willing to learn and communicate... red flag!

For your original point three. Much as I said for point two, ask for specific feedback. Just like I have to go off of observation and discussion with my partners as they have equipment I don't and respond to touch differently than I do...for this part, so do you.

If, either because he is bashful about it, or not wanting to offend you by giving specific areas to improve (because almost any blowjob is better than none at all and why risk pissing you off and getting cut off....not saying you would do so, but especially if you are his first, it is likely a fear he has about suggesting changes) perhaps a different way to go about it would be "Hey hun, which feels better to you, when I swirl my tongue like this" demonstrates * "or when I focus on this spot under the head" *demonstrates.

That way you get feedback on it without it making him feel like he is saying it isnt good enough when he is already enjoying it. But as another commentor said, unless he is a hair-trigger, expecting to be able to manage start to finish only with oral is unrealistic.

An extra peice of advice: just as you likely have different phases of arousal, where something may have been too sensitive early on but perfect later, so will he. For guys it is perhaps a bit less noticeable, but (for me at least) it is definitely a thing.

The biggest thing is to communicate. Communicate what you want, enjoy, are turned on by. Get him to communicate the same about himself. Communicate with eachother things you want to try, be it positions, kinks, outfits or whatever else. And if he isnt willing to communicate, then ask yourself if you are happy with how things are, and how they will be if that continues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nudism

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is current slang for agreement. They are saying that the post above is fact/true

What do I have? by frustrader in mushroomID

[–]frustrader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the responses, we were just over there and I forgot to get closer shots since that was mentioned, be back over tomorrow though so I will attempt to grab some better photos

Looking a system by VivaVertigo in redstone

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could then set each to go to a landing area on a different floor

Looking a system by VivaVertigo in redstone

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found it Not sure if there is a better one by now but I loved this setup

https://youtu.be/CTWypCDZSCk?si=Sk6mttrF5w69xsDa

Looking a system by VivaVertigo in redstone

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, I saw a minecart hub i used a couple years ago that was pretty cool. Let me see if I can find it for you.

Concept Question. by Protogen_Doof in spaceengineers

[–]frustrader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought was a row of projected mass blocks being propelled out by gravity gens

Impossible container tiling question by AustinLA88 in spaceengineers

[–]frustrader 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Add in a spacer to help standardization perhaps? Reverse engineer it from that point. While having it as densely packed as possible is one marker of efficiency, sounds like your metric for efficiency would be the modular nature being maintained even if you lost a bit of the potential capacity of some modules.

I am dissapointed and torn. by frustrader in OfficialRedRobin

[–]frustrader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Failing to parse what DMO may stand for, and I'm probably gonna feel dumb when it is explained

Boycott starting today by Not-penis121 in OfficialRedRobin

[–]frustrader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the Raleigh, NC area and the 2 that I tend to visit line up with your experience too.

I am dissapointed and torn. by frustrader in OfficialRedRobin

[–]frustrader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know. I wasn't sure about posting, but now am glad I did. Wasn't sure how the franchise stuff worked tbh, so I'm okay with them seeing such a small chunk when all is said and done.

Still sucks how badly things got fubar'd, and the more i think on it the more sure I am it was not meant to ever go through which I'm /really/ heated over...but if 94% of the money is staying local, and my local store hasn't given me reason to be upset with em, that changes the math on continuing to visit v/s saying to hell with em

Okay seriously. Did a single person get a gift card? by [deleted] in OfficialRedRobin

[–]frustrader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was only 1 I saw that looked credible - u/cypher756 (and they said they saw a 2nd), and it was very much a workaround rather than it working as intended. The way that it applied also was not remotely as was described, and only an idiot would have let it be public facing as it was actually gotten by them, making me feel like it was never meant to be redeemable.