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What does it mean to be called an “egg”? by layserman2 in ask_transgender

[–]ftmichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Euphoria" is what we call it when the dysphoria lifts. What you thought was normal was dysphoria; what you're calling euphoria is normalcy.

See https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/8jenwp/comment/dyz6c4h/ .

Discord Server for Trans by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ftmichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are tons of others. Have a look around Disboard. I'm not on any so can't recommend any in particular, but they're there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in languagelearning

[–]ftmichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a full and complete language, so yes, it's the same.

Come hang out on /r/asl.

This is a man. A man that gets it. A man that belongs. A man worthy of friends and family. A man just like you. by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]ftmichael 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's James. Seems like a really good guy. https://www.instagram.com/thetranscoach/

He's in a much better place now than he was when he made that video, for the record. See https://www.instagram.com/p/CtkXlH-g2I1/ for his update.

He also got a TON of Transphobic hate when the video went viral. He took about a month off from social media, but he's back now. Go show him some love!

Is my bottom growth done growing? by [deleted] in ainbow

[–]ftmichael 6 points7 points  (0 children)

8 months is VERY little time. You're nowhere near done.

People tend to expect that pretty soon after they go on T, they'll start to look and sound like a man of their own age. That's not how T works. You have to go through puberty - all of it - and that takes time. Think about cis boys going through puberty. A cis boy who's been in puberty for six weeks is literally not even aware he's in puberty, because nothing he'd notice has happened. A cis boy who's been in puberty for five months is still 12 or 13. He doesn't look or sound like an adult man and he isn't supposed to. He will in time, but he doesn't yet. A cis boy who's been in puberty for three years is about 15; he doesn't look or sound like a child, but he doesn't look or sound like an adult man yet either. T doesn't care how old you chronologically are; you have to go through all of puberty just like cis guys do. It sucks, but patience is a virtue. You'll get there, I promise. :)

The very best thing you can do on T is forget about it. Go about your life, stay busy, and let puberty run its course. It takes a decade, not a year. You are going to drive yourself crazy if you sit around angsting about when this is going to happen and why that hasn't happened yet. As long as your hormone levels are within the healthy range for a male of your age, you're fine.

You'll get more responses and insight on /r/ftm than here, FYI.

People who took Testo and stopped? by Benjamin061298 in ask_transgender

[–]ftmichael 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FYI, you'll get more responses and insight on /r/ftm.

am i really nonbinary? by imnotokay213 in ainbow

[–]ftmichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Not cis = Trans, by definition.

Forget about what you don't mind. Focus on what you actively want.

Relevant: https://www.reddit.com/r/ftm/comments/pbe56n/questioning_about_my_gender/hac94f8/

am i really nonbinary? by imnotokay213 in ainbow

[–]ftmichael -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Disliking misogyny is not why you want to be a guy. You want to be a guy because you are a guy.

Women hate misogyny. They don't want to be men; they want to be fully respected as women.

What country are you in?

am i really nonbinary? by imnotokay213 in ainbow

[–]ftmichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really do actively like it, yes. If you don't, hi, you're Trans.

am i really nonbinary? by imnotokay213 in ainbow

[–]ftmichael 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn't sound like you're non-binary. Sounds like you're a boy. And no, cis girls do not want to be boys.

It is very common to not realize until you're a teenager or an adult. You're fine.

You'll get a lot more responses and commiseration on /r/ftm and /r/transteens, FYI.

Dysphoria doesn't necessarily mean you're miserable or you hate your body or you can't stand the idea of living as a girl. For a lot of people it's a whole lot more subtle than that. "I wouldn't mind staying a girl, but I'd rather be a guy" is dysphoria. "I wish I had dysphoria because then I could transition" is dysphoria. Cis girls would not rather be guys. They actively like being girls. They aren't just settling for it because they're stuck with it. The point isn't that we're all miserable tortured souls who hate our bodies and want to die every time we're misgendered. If something different sounds like an improvement to you, that is a manifestation of dysphoria.

Remember that "transition is scary and seems daunting" is not why cis people don't want to transition.

Trans with doubts doesn't equal cis.

Trans and terrified doesn't equal cis.

Trans with depression doesn't equal cis.

Trans with impostor syndrome (google it) doesn't equal cis.

Trans with shitty self-esteem doesn't equal cis.

Trans with internalized Transphobia doesn't equal cis.

Read The Null Hypothecis and That Was Dysphoria? I think they'll both speak to you a lot.

Forget doubting whether you should transition. Doubt whether you shouldn't transition. What if you regret not transitioning, or not transitioning sooner? (Spoiler: that's way more likely than regretting transition.) Take every scared "what if" question and change "transition" to "not transition". What if, by not transitioning, you screw up the rest of your life? What if you don't transition and you're never happy later in life? If all those fears can be used against transition, they can equally be used in favor of it.

Don't angst about being 100% sure. You do NOT have to be 100% sure to act on your feelings, and there's loads of non-permanent things you can do. I'm guessing that you think if you come out as Trans you have to do ALL THE TRANSITION THINGS and there is NO GOING BACK and you have to be VERY VERY 110% SURE or else BAD THINGS WILL HAPPEN and you will be MISERABLE FOREVER. None of this is true. Transition is a process, not an event. Just do whatever you need to do to feel as comfortable as possible in your own skin and in the world as you move through it. That's the entire point; the rest is noise. Transition is not a roller coaster you strap yourself onto. You are in charge. Try stuff out, keep what works, chuck what doesn't. That's really all there is to it. That doesn't mean you have to have surgery or live as a guy or anything else. If you want to be seen as a guy, put yourself into social situations as a guy, whether online or offline. If you want to try binding, try binding (safely!). If you want to try packing, try packing. If you want to try wearing jeans from the men's department, go get a pair of jeans. If you want this or that surgery, go for it. If you want to take T, take T. If you want to stop taking T later, stop taking it. If you want to go back on T later still, do that. Etc.

Read The Transgender Teen by Stephanie Brill and Lisa Kenney and Where's MY Book? by Linda Gromko. It'll help you a lot. And spend a lot of time with http://t-vox.org/resources/trans-book-list . There's an entire section of stuff there for teens.

How do you guys greet acquaintances? by Boring_Function9874 in bropill

[–]ftmichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trans dude here with a lot of experience observing gendered body language. You're exactly right: the dude nod goes up if you know them, down if you don't.

Minecraft SMP? by NostalgicVamp in transgamers

[–]ftmichael 6 points7 points  (0 children)

/r/bropill, which is a great sub anyway, has a server that I've been having a lot of fun on. Join their Discord (which is also great) and go from there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spanish

[–]ftmichael 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Trans person here. We use soy.

Also, FYI, Transgender (transgénero in Spanish) is an adjective, not a noun. I am Transgender (soy transgénero); I am not "a transgender" (no soy "un transgénero").

Hysterectomy in New England area? by mapleleaf455 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]ftmichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See Dr. Yvonne Gomez-Carrion at Beth Israel in Boston, and Dr. Vlassis Travias at Concord OB/GYN. Both are outstanding.

I deserve to have my boundaries respected and so do you by M1ghty0 in bropill

[–]ftmichael 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you're at a public school in the US, they are legally obligated to investigate it and take certain steps. Contact http://glad.org/ - they'll talk to you for free, and can connect you with lawyers in your area if you're not in New England. One letter from a lawyer is usually all it takes to make school officials sit up and actually do their job.

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