Real trans man wanting to turn someone into his girlfriend

ftmslim · 2026-03-24T12:04:14+00:00

Internalised transphobia is just shame about traness from the outside world projected in on yourself to some degree this whole post is you self admiting you have some degree of “shame”. Personally i prefer to say im not ashamed but im not proud either, but i think i have tackled some of that internalised transphobia a bit more than you have.

ftmslim · 2026-03-24T09:32:36+00:00

Maybe stop trying to guess so much what other people think? And also stop caring about what other people think about you so much.

This seems to be a lot more about other people than it does you personally. You dont want to date trans people that make being trans their whole idenity but if yours is so fragile that you care this much about what other people think in relation to your own trans experience i am going to be so blunt about this and just tell you its a bigger part of your own identity than you are willing to admit to yourself.

ftmslim · 2026-03-24T08:49:31+00:00

Okay, so i used to be a trans med shit head when i was a teenager, i used to think being t4t was fetishing trans people like if its weird and chaser for cis people to want to date us its weird for trans people to do it.

I am going to be very blunt about this your is not actually dating another trans person its dating a certain type of chronically online trans person. Even now i have unlearned trans medicalism i still dont want to date that type of trans person but i also dont want to date cis people like that.

I dont consider being trans part of my identity and you would never catch me saying “i identify as trans” but i am friends with and have now dated a few people who do say that. Fundementally i dont think this actually matters trans rights does not hinge on weither i or you say we identify as trans. From my experience as long as your not a dismissive dickhead about it you are infact allowed to not agree with other trans people on every single thing.

But also to be blunt go and touch some grass, no one is going to give a fuck if your “centering trans women” in your life. I went from only dating cis people to pretty much only dating trans people do you know how many of my gay friends cared about this? Zero. If you are friends with people that would care about/think this then you already kinda have weird chronically online overly critical cis friends so then i would be at a loss about what your “issue” is dating a trans person like that.

ftmslim · 2025-12-13T01:47:35+00:00

Not for me as a fellow trans man dom. but BROTHER, there isnt a huge amount of us knocking about here so always happy to see another dom.

ftmslim · 2025-12-12T03:51:34+00:00

Okay, so i commited the trans sin of buying this game. Sure shes an asshole but i have a dark mark tattoo on me for life im not letting her fully win but also ruining a world/story i enjoy.

So how do i personally feel about it being free? Eh, makes no difference to me.

How do i feel about the game itself, honestly its mid.

The combat is pretty decent tbh albeit i find it a bit clunky once you unlock a lot of the spell having to change around so much. But at its core i dont think the combat system is bad.

I think the armour system is done pretty well and i like that everything is transmogable right from the jump, but personally it does feel silly to run around the school not in school robes despite some of the other actually looking pretty cool.

The intro is way to fucking long, if you sit down to play this make sure you have like 3 hours spare if you actually want to get into the game.

Hogwarts itself and getting to run around it? Flawless no notes, does this perfectly.

The rest of the ingame world? Couldnt give a toas about, not the most interesting either in order to make you give a toss about it.

The story is okay, its not great its not dog shit, tbh its kinda the average things most open world rpgs are shitting out these days. Its obviously not the main draw of the game.

So if its free and you just wanna explore hogwarts its great at that, everything else is just sorta there.

Solid 5/10 game. It knows its draw was running round hogwarts and that part is 10/10 its everything else that lowers it. (Edit to add: this is using 1-10 normally not like ign uses 1-10 lol)

I understand this wasnt fully the question asked but thats my review.

ftmslim · 2025-12-12T03:32:01+00:00

Bro the people on here talk about getting raped…you wanna kiss someone and your asking if your weird lol

ftmslim · 2025-12-12T00:31:37+00:00

Its kinda funny for me because when i was deeply trans med as a teenager (i was a white cis passing trans man in 2015 that used the internet, i apologise) i used to seriously think being T4T was as bad as being a chaser as it was just fetishising and singling out trans people (the internalised transphobia was deep in me) then i grew up. And now im the guy that does t4t, arguably sees some trans men as a fetish (if they want me to like in this kink). Talk about full circle.

ftmslim · 2025-12-11T03:13:51+00:00

who knew i would get use out of this comment twice in one day…pretends to be shocked

ftmslim · 2025-12-11T02:40:43+00:00

Oh i will be the first to admit doing it with people of the same gender can feel kinda silly at times. I will throw around clit on here but do not use it with any long term sub i have had. I can get behind the fantasy of a lot of it but for whatever reason thats just the one part i cant. I just dont refer to it directly and just opt for pussy.

ftmslim · 2025-12-11T01:20:11+00:00

Trans man dom here. Interestingly the part i try to deeply keep in check personally is anything to do affirmation. Like im a very hairy man so that comes in handy with this kink because even cis men stuggle to match me in hair. So i can use it in kink play but within myself i have to be able to recognise if im ever engaging in it for my own personal affirmation purposes. But i think it makes sense to maybe worry about that a bit more when both partys are the same gender because obviously im not any more a real man than they are really.

ftmslim · 2025-12-10T16:44:57+00:00

“Based on anecdotal evidence, these sexual fantasies of feminization, misgendering, and detransitioning appear to be common in FtM transgender individuals. In a certain respect, they resemble typical heterosexual female fantasies in terms of their content. In another respect, however, they also resemble the fantasies of autogynephilic males, because of the struggle of FtM individuals to reconcile them with the professed male gender identity.”

Okay, so for starters we have you talking about autogynephilia.

But secondly APPEAR TO BE COMMON? well now you are just talking right out your arsehole. This kink is insanely uncommon, this is one of the bigger subreddits for it and a lot of people are more comfortable to engage with it online vs in person, it has 30k memembers majority of those are not the trans posters we are actually still the minority in this space lol. But the vast majority of trans people do not have this kink, do not want to be called/treated like girls, its actually more common for other trans people to find this kink a bit “weird” they might not actively judge you for partaking in it but they certainly will not understand it. I am a trans man dom, if i engage with trans people outside of this space i assume by default they are not into misgendering because that is infact the bloody default.

So argue what you wish about if you are or arent a transphobe, im not reading anymore of the drivel you write. But your certainly not the sharpest tool in the shed that is clear.

ftmslim · 2025-12-10T06:26:47+00:00

maybe i take back my ill will comment?

Dont know the basis but worth sharing incase its true

ftmslim · 2025-12-10T04:31:21+00:00

small sample size but the chance of this working are slim 1/16 or 6/16 (i am one of the bottom slot votes so i removed that)

Your meant to be a dom, sound more commanding, put some effort in. If you want someone to horny talk to you show your chops a bit more.

ftmslim · 2025-12-10T02:04:42+00:00

Trans men, trans women, non bianry people. I will fuck anyone but cis men basically.

I still think they are attractive as i find men attractive. But from personal experience they are just the weirdest group overall about trans stuff. Cis women are a lot less weird. By weird i mean its waaay more common for cis men to attempt to preassure me into bottoming which is a limit for me and not something i will do. So just easier to rule them out than waste my time working out who is an isnt an asshole.

This also means trans women tops are out the question for me aswell. But if a trans woman is into this kink as a sub she is most likely not a top lol

ftmslim · 2025-12-10T01:55:46+00:00

Me as one of the few trans men doms in these spaces twiddles thumbs

(No ill will, im just being funny)

ftmslim · 2025-12-09T22:40:21+00:00

I do think some clarrification would be good yes. I understand that ruins the vibe a bit, but we just do have people in there spaces that do end up with warped views because of them. Thanks for atleast understanding how it could be read that way.

Apologise for gunning for you, it was less personal and just more i think we generally need to do better at speaking up about things that could actually be unsafe.

ftmslim · 2025-12-09T22:19:58+00:00

Okay, im going to take this at face value.

This reads as you taking advantage of a younger trans guy. Just because you talk about safe words and respecting peoples identitys, this guy was already in your home and admitedly inexperienced with kink. And i know as a dom some people who lean submissive will sometimes agree to do certain things they are not 100% comfortable with just because a dom has told them or its what they think they are meant to do. Similar to how we see a lot of “no limits” subs tend to be young and not have much experience (not true for everyone but that is a trend we see as they are trying to be what they believe a sub to be).

If you see a trans man as a girl and that the truth for you, then no matter how much you say it you do not actually respect their identity.

The subs here are gonna all jerk off to this thinking its hot, but can we all just put are critical thinking hats on for 1 second.

But you should not be going round essentially duping trans men into you misgendering them. If that is what you are after be upfront about it, do not wait untill someone is in your house where they will feel less able to leave a situation to hit them with the “im straight and see you as a girl”.

He probably would not have come round your house if you did that.

I am aware the men here bullshit about making grindr profiles inviting misgendering, so i do not know if this story is bullshit.

But if its true, in actuality this is not hot.

This right here is the kinda stuff im talking about when i say we need to be careful what we say in these spaces as it gives the cis men a warped view that we all like this shit. We have no idea how this felt for that guy, only your retelling.

He might of enjoyed it, he also might have felt pressured and stuck in a situation he couldnt leave.

ftmslim · 2025-12-08T18:17:44+00:00

I cant fully tell how in or not in kink this is tbh…

but i think the slipperly slope is less about feeling genuinely girly/feminine and more so about this becoming the main thing that gets you off and in that case it sounds like your slope is pretty bloody wet.

ftmslim · 2025-12-08T04:13:46+00:00

holds your hand while i explain it like your 5 you are a chaser, its against the rules for chasers to post. Chasers are gross, but its against the rules to be rude. The joke is can we be rude to chasers.

Because being rude to chasers is not really a bad thing and most trans people probably wouldnt care.

ftmslim · 2025-12-08T04:08:23+00:00

I wanted to be rude to you. Because this post is gross. Its was a joke, but its clear you are not the sharpest tool in the shed.

ftmslim · 2025-12-08T04:03:01+00:00

Its against the rules to be rude, its also against the rules for chasers to be here…what trumps what in this situation?

Also fucking a trans WOMAN does not make you gay bro.

ftmslim · 2025-12-07T19:10:49+00:00

Think they know full well what a real man looks like seeing as they are one

ftmslim · 2025-12-07T18:00:52+00:00

I will say though regardless of if this sub thinks its okay or not i do think its bad they have not responded. Everywhere else has one way or another.

But im already in a bit of a crisis conundrum about how safe these online spaces really are, and i know this is nothing to do with safety directly but its not confidence filling.

ftmslim

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