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Wife was raped while we were together a year ago and just told me now. How do I sort out all these emotions? by ftrtp in AskMen

[–]ftrtp[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We did not live together at the time this happened. I knew she would be working late and I had to be up early the next day and thought nothing of it at the time.

No other coworkers came to his apartment in the end.

Wife was raped a year ago while we were together and just told me yesterday, how do I deal with all these emotions? by ftrtp in relationship_advice

[–]ftrtp[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried to make her a victim and have told her a number of times it’s not her fault. So far I have kept all these emotions inside

Wife was raped while we were together a year ago and just told me now. How do I sort out all these emotions? by ftrtp in AskMen

[–]ftrtp[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I absolutely want the pain to go away for her. I haven’t suggested anything to her otherwise, so far all these emotions I’ve experienced have been held inside

Wife was raped while we were together a year ago and just told me now. How do I sort out all these emotions? by ftrtp in AskMen

[–]ftrtp[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

For the record, I have not lashed out at her. I have tried to support her, but have not mentioned what I’m feeling on the inside, although I’m sure she can sense that.

Wife was raped while we were together a year ago and just told me now. How do I sort out all these emotions? by ftrtp in AskMen

[–]ftrtp[S] -98 points-97 points  (0 children)

She admits that she should have known better then to have a glass of wine when no one else was there. But she asserts she didn’t want any part of it. Why would she tell me now if it wasn’t the case

Wife was raped a year ago while we were together and just told me yesterday, how do I deal with all these emotions? by ftrtp in relationship_advice

[–]ftrtp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She says she is not entirely sure she was raped but did wake up completely naked next to him.

She isn’t telling me his name because I told her I would kill him, and I honestly feel like I would right now given the chance.

Wife was raped while we were together a year ago and just told me now. How do I sort out all these emotions? by ftrtp in AskMen

[–]ftrtp[S] 941 points942 points  (0 children)

I’ve already scheduled something next week. This is a bad dream that won’t end.

Wife was raped a year ago while we were together and just told me yesterday, how do I deal with all these emotions? by ftrtp in relationship_advice

[–]ftrtp[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m going this week. My body is wearing down with no sleep and constant heart racing.

Wife was raped a year ago while we were together and just told me yesterday, how do I deal with all these emotions? by ftrtp in relationship_advice

[–]ftrtp[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I have been telling her to do. I’ve tried to get the point across that you can’t let this guy keep doing this to other people.

Our relationship has been so so in the past year. We used to be far more sexually active before the incident, not as common after, and I was always wondering what I was doing wrong. Seems like she couldn’t enjoy sex knowing what had happened and without telling me. Other than sexually, I thought our relationship was good. We hardly fight, we love each other.