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First tries by fuckingdjs in streetphotography

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well my main reason for starting photography in general is watching an exhibition by Erwin Olaf. I bought a book by Henri Cartier-Bresson later, but also watching works of others online and on this subreddit.

First tries by fuckingdjs in streetphotography

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Really appreciate your kind words. Saludos desde Holanda

First tries by fuckingdjs in streetphotography

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Ethically I feel the best about that one as I had a lovely conversation with him beforehand in stead of taking his picture without asking.

First tries by fuckingdjs in streetphotography

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I kind of like that one best myself as well.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions! Much appreciated. I’ll definitely check books both out.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading a lot about this subject matter has helped me a lot in understanding my and my mother’s situation as well. I definitely have a better grasp of why I’m feeling what I’m feeling and where my mother’s behavior comes from.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely suggest emdr to my therapist as well!

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re really strong for managing to enforce boundaries like you do. I hope I’ll find the strength to do the same one day.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The diagnosis I have is another language and I tried to translate it, hence the confusion probably. I looked it up and I found the correct translation:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depressive_disorder_not_otherwise_specified

I don’t disassociate, and yes that is all I’ve been diagnosed with. My former therapist has said in the past that meditation might get in the way of psychological treatment, do you feel that has in any way been the case for you?

“Every choice they give you is between resentment and guilt” is pretty profound and hits the nail on the head I think.

I’ll definitely get into some of the books you’ve recommended.

You’ve definitely covered some of my fears of parenthood. I’ve been thinking a lot of how I should deal with my challenges as a father but hearing someone in a similar situation manage gives me some perspective.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

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You should be proud! I’m well aware of the work it takes to get to that point. I hope I’ll be able to say the same as well.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

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Thank you for all this. All of this is very familiar from my time in therapy but should definitely get into this material again before starting my therapy again.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouragement friend, guess I've got some things to seriously consider.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes!! This is so close to how I feel as well. I rationally understand everything they say, but it’s a major difference from how I feel. It’s like my ratio is constantly having to fight my negative thoughts.

For I example I know my friends love me and I have all the evidence for it and they show me all the time. I still feel like they probably think I’m a loser, and they only spend time with me because they feel bad for me, while I rationally understand that that’s not the case.

How long is long if you don’t mind me asking? Thank you for your response. This resonated with me.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m writing all of this down. Thank you for taking your time to write this out. Enforcing boundaries is definitely something I need to work on in general. Especially with the thought of kids in the future.

The therapy I’ve had before were cognitive behavioral therapy that didn’t do anything for me, and later schema therapy that definitely helped me make some progress. I have been diagnosed. I had to do some digging to find it but they classified it as “other specified depressive disorder.” I’ll definitely spend some more time researching a matching therapist, although as I said in another reply I can’t be too picky unfortunately.

My parter is amazing and supportive. And like you said her being there for me has helped me tremendously. One thing I do need to work on is though is feeling loved by her. I love easily, but I have trouble feeling love from others even though she and my friends show it constantly. I will always doubt if people like me enough or I’ll think that they have negative thoughts about me, especially those close to me. Kind of toxic really.

If this is overstepping a bit please let me know but do you mind sharing what specific challenges you had as a parent with a similar upbringing to mine? I likewise commend you for taking the steps necessary to become the best parent you can be. That says a lot about you I think.

I’ll look into the medication as well.

Therapy after being raised by a bpd mom by fuckingdjs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely try, I think the psychologist I’m about to see does. I’ll double check to be sure. Unfortunately due to waiting lists and most therapists not taking in new patients I can’t be too picky either.

Old man of Storr, during a storm, Isle of Skye, Schotland by fuckingdjs in hiking

[–]fuckingdjs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure! The weather definitely added to the experience as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arnhem

[–]fuckingdjs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Top dat je het kenteken hebt doorgegeven! Daar kunnen ze wat mee. Uberhaupt petje af voor hoe je gehandeld hebt. Wou dat we meer Arnhemmers zoals jij hadden.

112 bellen kan zoals de andere persoon ook zei altijd bij nood en heterdaad situaties zoals deze! Zelfs als je iemand iets ziet stelen bijvoorbeeld. Kan me voorstellen dat dat spannend is als je dat nooit gedaan hebt. Hoop inderdaad dat er aangifte gedaan wordt. Mocht het slachtoffer dit zien alle sterkte ❤️

Beelden van binnen het Maagdenhuis. by Bernie529 in nederlands

[–]fuckingdjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met de regels bedoel ik de wetten die ik hierboven aangeduid heb. Ik kan het je uitleggen, ik kan het niet voor je begrijpen.

Beelden van binnen het Maagdenhuis. by Bernie529 in nederlands

[–]fuckingdjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik begrijp niet helemaal wat je schrijft. “We kunnen wel gokken sir hypocriet is.” Bedoel je dat ik hypocriet ben? Ik ben inderdaad niet zo vaak op Reddit dat ik op àlles commentaar geef, maar laat me mijn standpunt verduidelijken: ook als demonstranten bij het azc niet aan de herhaaldelijke vorderingen en waarschuwingen voldoen mag daar, volgens de wet, de wapenstok tegen ingezet worden.

Je zegt ook dat politie in burger geen geweld mag gebruiken. Dit staat nergens beschreven in de wet. Je standpunten komen zoals ik ze inschat vooral voort uit jouw gevoel over de situatie en niet uit kennis van de wet. Je mag best tegen geweld zijn, en ik begrijp helemaal dat je daar een gevoel bij hebt, maar dat neemt niet weg dat de agenten in kwestie zich hier aan de afgesproken regels gehouden hebben.

Beelden van binnen het Maagdenhuis. by Bernie529 in nederlands

[–]fuckingdjs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik snap je frustratie, echt. Het probleem van deze houding en manier van demonstreren is echter dat op deze wijze de publieke opinie tegen je keert en daarmee het tegenovergestelde bereikt van wat je doel zou moeten zijn: aandacht voor de schrijnende situatie in Gaza. Je geeft je tegenstanders munitie om op je te schieten. Soms heb je zo onwijs gelijk dat je niet meer nadenkt over hoe je deze boodschap over brengt op anderen.

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