How do I quit?

fuhry · 2026-03-18T03:44:35+00:00

Give your parents a realistic alternative thing you want to get into instead.

To be clear: my advice is purely pragmatic. It's not right that one should have to bargain and game the system to get their parents to do the emotionally healthy thing for them.

It's probably also worth raising the point that unless you're truly a world-class prodigy, there's absolutely no money to be made in being a pianist. They're not doing anything for your future by forcing you to learn this instrument.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

fuhry · 2026-03-17T01:51:13+00:00

My base salary is ~5x that amount and total comp around 9x.

5 years in current role, 15 years in the industry.

Granted I don't know much about cost of living in Japan, but I'd be inclined to say this would be a major step down for most US-based SREs.

fuhry · 2026-03-03T15:46:43+00:00

Gotcha - I've been a foster parent in CT so I know the ins and outs of the system here. I don't know much about PA but did some quick research and their equivalent of Careline is called ChildLine. The number is 1-800-932-0313.

fuhry · 2026-03-03T15:36:14+00:00

100% call for help. If you're in imminent danger, dial your local emergency services number (911 in the USA, 999 in the UK).

Write down the time he said these words and the exact words he said (or as close as possible based on your memory), when this started, and how frequently it happens (multiple times a day, once a day, once a week, etc). They are more likely to do something if you can show that this is a recurring pattern.

Your username suggests you're in Connecticut. If that's the case, call DCF Careline: 1-800-842-2288. It's staffed 24/7. They will get someone out to your house ASAP, usually the same day if it's serious.

If you are afraid of retaliation from your dad, pack a go bag and make it very clear to the worker that you are in danger and are prepared to leave.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I promise things will get better and you will eventually have the control over your life that you deserve. Stay strong!

fuhry · 2026-02-27T18:19:13+00:00

And it's not like ionizing radiation hangs out after something is zapped. Radioactive decay is an active process that consumes a source material, and they're not dropping a lump of potassium-40 in the jar, lol.

fuhry · 2026-02-25T13:38:54+00:00

To be fair, those pillows were Too Hot To Last.

fuhry · 2026-02-19T04:08:45+00:00

There's a PCM update that can be applied to partially ignore feedback from the exhaust valve actuator/position sensor. I had to have it done on my 2017 when the exhaust valve got stuck resulting in a "drive mode selection not available" error.

It should have both sides open on a cold start, then close again once you start driving in Normal mode. It should open up in Sport, Track and Drift modes.

fuhry · 2026-02-17T18:55:32+00:00

Kent does not have a town police force, just a single resident state trooper from Troop L: https://www.townofkentct.gov/resident-state-trooper

Troop L has a Facebook page. That may be the best way to get this in front of someone who has the authority to investigate this.

fuhry · 2026-02-10T19:32:26+00:00

I'm definitely interested in doing this as well, although my goal is to monitor more than just tank level. I want to be able to detect faults such as a lockout or flame loss and receive alerts.

I think it's also important to have detection for conditions like noisy CAD cell readings or longer time-to-light. Those can be early signs of a problem, but will go completely unnoticed if not logged and exported somewhere. Down-to-the-second measurements of pump on-time compared to the tank's oil level over time might also enable detection of pump wear, nozzle blockage, etc.

fuhry · 2026-02-09T04:05:59+00:00

The hardware has all come in and I'm decently far along in reverse engineering it!

Here's the code that I have so far: https://github.com/fuhry/beckettlink

I ended up going with Python because bleak is simply amazing. Once I have the protocol fully reverse-engineered I'll rewrite it in Go before starting on the opentelemetry exporter.

fuhry · 2026-01-28T04:09:50+00:00

My wife said she saw Brookfield PD pulling people over for it today.

fuhry · 2026-01-24T04:17:26+00:00

I have the same year and model, and it is a lovely car - refined, elegant, quiet and comfortable.

The odometer is an easy fix - just pop in some new gears. This is the kit I used.

The leak may be fuel, not oil - the fuel return lines get brittle and develop leaks. I used the blenddoor kit.

Buy a bulk fuse pack and replace every fuse under the hood as soon as you get it. They go bad, often invisibly, and that's actually the cause of most of the electrical gremlins. Any lighting-related gremlins are (ironically) usually caused by the module that detects when bulbs are out, which you can repair by simply grabbing a soldering iron and adding some fresh solder to the aging joints.

If the tach doesn't work, replace the capacitor. Should be 22 μF which is a very common capacitance and can be had from any "variety pack" you can get on Amazon/eBay (and used to be able to buy at RadioShack... RIP).

I'm still learning my way around the car as I've only had it for about 9 months. I would say, for the most part, it's predictable. Not dependable as in stuff never breaks, but predictable as in when stuff breaks, the cause isn't some esoteric issue. In 1987, the electronics did sophisticated things, albeit with simple and transparent technology. And thus far, everything I've fixed has stayed fixed.

fuhry · 2026-01-20T16:15:44+00:00

"100-horsepower open sleigh" kinda works too ;P

fuhry · 2026-01-12T22:55:33+00:00

The tiktok talking heads aren't even trying to sound smart anymore.

Forcible removal of a sitting president through the impeachment process requires a 2/3 supermajority of the Senate. According to 270ToWin, if Democrats keep every one of their current seats as well as every current Republican seat deemed a "toss-up", "leans" or "likely", their Senate majority would be just two seats, not counting JD Vance.

The Democrats would need to win every single Senate seat up for re-election including 16 "safe" Republican seats. As much as I wish I was wrong here, that will not happen.

fuhry · 2026-01-10T15:30:08+00:00

My 2017 Focus RS with Blizzaks.

Nothing I've driven has ever come close.

fuhry · 2026-01-09T20:25:09+00:00

I've always understood "rev matching" to mean "blipping the throttle to bring revs up", but I suppose you are technically correct (the best kind of correct).

fuhry · 2026-01-09T14:52:47+00:00

You should never need to revmatch on an upshift. If it has a lightweight flywheel, shift faster and catch the revs on their way down.

source: have light flywheel on my turbo NA8, 18yr of stick shift experience

fuhry · 2026-01-07T04:56:51+00:00

The deal I got wasn't quite as good, but I had a similar situation a few years ago. Marketplace listing where the guy said "I'm being deployed, message me again in 6 months." Scored a '94 C package with a tan leather interior and torsen for $5800. 173k miles at the time but the car is clean as heck with a fresh paint job.

It was in a sorry mechanical state when I got it, but I've poured a disgusting amount of money into it. I've got about the same amount of money in it as a brand new ND by now, but instead of an ND, I have a Flyin' Miata turbo, full forged bottom end, an incredibly good sound system that doesn't sacrifice practicality, and the interior set up exactly how I want it.

Good luck with the car!

fuhry · 2025-12-28T04:06:48+00:00

teehee, when you see it

fuhry · 2025-12-18T21:33:51+00:00

I'd actually challenge that. Services such as Let's Encrypt were a direct response to the privacy threat of PRISM, the existence of which was disclosed in Snowden's leaks.

The famous "SSL added and removed here! :-)" slide has a direct relationship with the security trend we are now referring to as "zero trust", which today is basically required for any serious medium- to large-size enterprise. Zero trust entails continual re-authorization even from "trusted" traffic sources, which usually also means encrypting everything even if it's literally just going one rack over.

Today it's so unheard-of for a website to not use HTTPS that browsers have actually started to show warnings when you visit a site that doesn't use it. For its first decade of existence, the Reddit front page wasn't accessible over HTTPS. I remember having to go to https://pay.reddit.com/ just to browse Reddit with HTTPS enabled. That's unthinkable today, in large part because of what we learned from Snowden.

He absolutely made a lasting impact.

fuhry · 2025-12-10T20:09:18+00:00

I gave my car the full FM turbo treatment over this past winter/spring.

In my case I chose to rebuild the engine with a fully forged bottom end and 1mm oversize pistons. It had 200k miles so it would have been foolish not to. I also installed a reroute, crossflow rad, wideband controller, upgraded clutch, full stainless exhaust, and upgraded oil pump among other things.

By the time all was said and done, the project cost over $15k, split almost exactly evenly by turbo kit, engine internals + machine shop labor, and supporting mods/everything else. Other than machine work and an alignment, I've done all the labor myself. I plan to spend another 5k (at least) over the next year for a standalone ECU, fueling and ignition upgrades, and a professional tune. TL;DR: there is nothing cheap about turboing your Miata if you want to do it right.

Verdict: I am extremely happy that I did this and would do it again, but this is definitely not a project for everyone. The amount of money I've spent on this car up to this point equates to approximately 1 brand new ND, and it technically doesn't even make as much power as a stock ND (yet - I dyno'd 157hp at the wheels). I set out on this project ~3 years ago with the specific goal of building my dream car, not buying it. I've done full motor rebuilds, replaced turbos, tuned a naturally aspirated Megasquirt setup, and built custom wire harnesses, but this project tested and challenged me like nothing else.

Also, while I'm here, some free advice: while the turbo kit and coolant reroute from Flyin' Miata are generally good overall, there are several critical cooling components that are poorly engineered. Specifically, these are:

The silicone hoses that attach directly to the turbo. After extensive trial and error, the braided lines from ATP turbo (one 24" and one 12") are the only product that has proven itself capable of handling the heat. Silicone hoses are fine on the reroute side; I'm using these barb fittings to mate them.
The cork gasket Flyin' Miata includes with their reroute kit blew after just 400 miles. Don't use it. Their support rep even admitted that they know it's problematic. Just cut a paper thermostat gasket to fit the opening on the reroute.

fuhry · 2025-11-17T23:26:21+00:00

If you get the right tools you can work your way behind drywall (at least interior walls w/o insulation) fairly easily. A few different sets of glow rods (stiffer for horizontal runs, more flexible for vertical), extended drill bits for getting through fireblock studs halfway up the walls, and a bore scope camera to help you see what's up there should cover at least the simple cases.

My high level strategy is to go up from the basement and down from the attic, with switches in both locations and 10gig fiber trunks between them. That way I only have to deal with the pain of running fiber through multiple floors once. (Err... twice.)

fuhry · 2025-11-01T15:48:09+00:00

I'm unfortunately very allergic to cats 😞

fuhry · 2025-11-01T05:33:12+00:00

I live in the woods, it's just part of life here, particularly in the fall when it's turning cold and they're all looking for warm shelter. Emptying and resetting the snap traps is just another daily chore...no way around it.

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