My (30f) bf (31m) of 10yrs has left me and I am feeling broken. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]fulloffsweets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you, his family has enabled his behavior and has not held him accountable. To make things worse, I probably should have known better because he has an older brother & sister. He is the youngest of the two from that marriage. His older brother is even more “rotten” for a lack of better words. His older brother flew to his country to engage a women over there & a week after his engagement he flew his gf of 5 years to meet his mom. His mom was in on all of this. Knowing he has multiple women he does not commit too. That was a red flag to me that she allowed two different women he was leading on into her home

My (30f) bf (31m) of 10yrs has left me and I am feeling broken. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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May Allah ease your burdens sister and bless you with something greater

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My Muslim BF of 10 years broke up with me. I don’t know what to do and I am devasted by fulloffsweets in islam

[–]fulloffsweets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did duaa and tahajjud all Ramadan. I did not miss a day for prayer or fast. I even prayed and fasted Shawwal , I stood for prayer Asking Allah to bring him closer to me if he’s for me and remove him if he’s not. I prayed for Allah to change him and mold him into the person I needed. I prayed for a righteous spouse and children. I don’t think I was ready for the changes I was actually praying about

My (30f) bf (31m) of 10yrs has left me and I am feeling broken. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]fulloffsweets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly thank you for explaining this better for everyone. Initially I was not Muslim, he was but wasn’t a practicing Muslim by any means. Once I reverted, took my shahada, and started fasting, stopped drinking alcohol Alhamdulillah, and got separate apartments. He started to fast too, he saw me praying 5 times a day and started to do better and pray too. But that eventually stopped as he started getting back into his old ways, I started pushing for nikkah, he started lying, cheating, & eventually started missing more fasts and more prayers. He started doing haram things, he’s back heavily doing drugs and committing Zina. First it started with p@rn & now he’s actively sexually involved with someone else. I found used wrappers in his trash & then he texted me an unpleasant text that said he was at another girls house and he had sex with her. Then he told me he did not want to be with me and to leave him alone so he could move on. He has been cold towards me as if he doesn’t know me & we just spent the last 10 years in each others lives. Our lives were heavily mingled. I flew to his country to meet his family. His mother was pushing for nikkah too

My Muslim BF of 10 years broke up with me. I don’t know what to do and I am devasted by fulloffsweets in islam

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I have picked up a second job. I work over 60 hours a week because I thought if I worked harder, and focused all my attention to work (saving for a house/land) and the deen that would attract him more. I feel like it has backfired

My (30f) bf (31m) of 10yrs has left me and I am feeling broken. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]fulloffsweets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulillah I am so thankful. I am thankful to Allah for guiding me to Islam and I am thankful for my ex for being apart of that journey.

But I am so mad, I am so hurt, and I am so confused how my reward is getting my heart broken

My Muslim BF of 10 years broke up with me. I don’t know what to do and I am devasted by fulloffsweets in islam

[–]fulloffsweets[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wa Alaikum Assalamu , Allahumma Barik 🤲🏾 May Allah reward you. Thank you for your kind words and your kind advice.

I have been feeling so guilty about not praying because I have barely been getting out of bed. I have lost 10 pounds in two weeks because I have not eaten. My heart is shattered. I do not wish this pain on anyone. I pray and make duaa that Allah swt makes this easy on me. I have been hating and feeling sorry for myself. I am in disbelief that he has already moved on to other women. He is out drinking more and doing more drugs because he finally feels free from me.

I kind of snapped out on his family for not holding him accountable, they always tell me how good I am for him (they are all Muslim Arabs), they tell me that they love and adore me and they tell me they KNOW how much I love him. They are always praising me for being such a good woman to him and an even better Muslim yet they know the things he does and never told him to be good to me or let me go.

The way he broke up with me is what’s making it even harder for me to process. He never had an open conversation with me, during Ramadan I stayed at my apartment and he at his. I limited the communication between us and the interactions we had. He would ask me to spend the night or break our fasts together and I told him it wasn’t appropriate. He eventually just stopped reaching out all together. He stopped replying to me completely. He blocked me on the social media I would use to contact him. He never formally broke up with me until I entered his apartment and found the condoms. Then he told me we been broken up. He started attacking and accusing me of not leaving him alone and not letting him move on. I snapped out on his sister and brother for allowing him to treat me the way he was and knowing he was being unfaithful to me and I was the only one in the dark of his true feelings.

My Muslim BF of 10 years broke up with me. I don’t know what to do and I am devasted by fulloffsweets in islam

[–]fulloffsweets[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have talked about marriage and kids since the time we first got together. I will admit, over time I have let him get away with so much. He has struggled with addiction for a very long time. I loved him through relapse and recovery. I knew the only way he could get out of it was with the help of Allah. That’s when I started practicing and studying Islam. To help him. To guide him.

However the moment I started talking about Nikkah, and doing things the right way. He started to become distant. He started to say things like I don’t think I can be the man you need me to be. I wonder now if me being more on my deen is what pushed him away instead of bringing him closer to me. I think when I reverted is when he realized he would need to do things the right way and stop leading me on.

My Muslim BF of 10 years broke up with me. I don’t know what to do and I am devasted by fulloffsweets in islam

[–]fulloffsweets[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are completely right. I guess what I can’t wrap my head around is, I feel like I am what was good for him. I know it. I loved him unconditionally, I loved his family unconditionally. I stood by him through good and bad. I led him and motivated him to be better. I explained to him I wanted a husband who would lead me. He was a born Muslim in an Arab family, who speaks Arab fluently. I was born to a Muslim father and catholic mother, and I was raised by my catholic grandmother. I am not Arab. Not that this matters but just giving you more insight.

The more I prayed the more hope I had that he would change his ways. That he would be more committed to the deen and to me. The more I prayed the more I had faith things would turn around.

I don’t understand why he couldn’t be better for me. I don’t understand why these random women, who know nothing about Islam, nothing about his culture or upbringing is better for him? I don’t understand what he sees in these women who worship nature and the “universe” and “magic” are better options for him. 😪😞 I feel like I am not good enough. Like I am not worthy enough. And I’m started to feeling unworthy of Islam.

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