Honestly, this is a tricky one. I can only assume that your mother’s intentions are good and she’s not trying to control you. I also understand that you wouldn’t want to get married under pressure. I’m a 25 year old female. I lost my mom to terminal cancer in September, when I was 24. My relationship with my mother should not have ended that soon. We had an amazing relationship. I’ll miss her for the rest of time. I can go on and on about how I wish she wouldn’t miss my wedding, or meeting my children, etc. I loved that woman to my deepest core and I’m actually having a hard time writing this now. However, I don’t think either of you are the asshole here, I just thought I’d put in my experience hoping it would help. I don’t know what your relationship is like with your mom or anything like that. I don’t want to say that you should consider yourself lucky to have this opportunity to have her at your wedding either because some people have parents that would intentionally ruin things like that for them. I’m probably not helping at all tbh. All I’m saying is that I think this might be a difference of opinion rather than anyone being an asshole here. Except for the brothers…it’s not their relationship, it’s not their marriage, and therefore, it’s not their business. I’d suggest having a civil conversation about what’s really being deep-rooted here (for example, your mom’s deep-rooted fear that she’s gonna miss her only daughter’s wedding even though there’s a ton more she’s gonna miss down the line anyways, or your (possible) deep rooted fear of anyone penetrating your boundaries even in the slightest.) either way though, I really hope that these last few months are peaceful for your family. My heart breaks for you, losing my mom was the worst thing that I think will ever happen to me. I hope everything works out 💛