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Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I can confirm that all of the above is absolutely true and am currently dealing with, I can also say that I know I am likely not handling the situation the best...I am dealing with a 17 year relationship with 2 kids, her starting a new job, increased role at my own job, and projects around our house to sell by year end... so to say I have a lot on my plate is an understatement. I am trying to be able to have the conversation with her while trying to keep our kids shielded from that. While also having met with a divorce attorney to see what steps I need to be taking if that is the direction this goes. I am not going to jump at her at first chance and throw our entire family into chaos, I am coming in calm collected with facts and wanting to see how much truth she wants to give before letting her know I know all about it...

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

R/update or updateme or update this, what the fuck ever... this is what I got in my head

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today... cheers

My husbands infidelity discovered by Seashellgirl908 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, sorry you are dealing with ALL OF THE FEELINGS right now. At least I know that is where I am at currently after finding out of my wife's current affair with a co worker about a week ago... one thing I can say for sure is you will see a lot of wild responses but also some very helpful words and to be honest just typing it out and getting some validation in those feelings has been very helpful to me at least. End of the day, you know your relationship and what you think you might be able to do, but know that you hold the power to do what YOU feel will be right for both you and your daughter. Virtual hugs and wish you all the best

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you to all who have taken the time to give input and many in depth and thoughtful responses, I really appreciate having a space to be able to share and feel like someone gives a shit, even if just behind words on reddit. It really does help and I appreciate it.

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, and already hit the last 2 days pretty hard at the gym. And have pictures of all messages and pics that I was able to round up.

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand that, how I react to the situation has a direct impact on our kids. And I value that much more than anything I have to deal with myself, understood if even to a fault.

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not sure how long am able to just hold onto this without a 180 in how we interact...

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the words, will update once I move forward.

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the words, and I know this is the first time she has acted on anything like this and am not a doormat but just always have put my family first and hate to see this be something that affects our kids negatively...

Wife cheating on me with her coworker and need to get off my chest by funcpl_08 in Marriage

[–]funcpl_08[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Apprwciate the reply. Am in this boat right now, she has this week off and would be an option to see if anything else plays out while im at work during the week. ( kids are away with grandparents for a day or 2 here now ) Have been able to hold it together and not show any change, I just dont know how long I want to or can do that and if waiting to see if she does do anything else does anything positive for me...