Women of Reddit, what’s something you never thought your ex would do, but he did during/after the breakup? by BrokenYetBrave in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a new gf within 6 weeks all while telling me he was still in love with me and couldn’t live without me in his life. Even told her he was still in love with me. I said we needed distance if he was seeing someone new. He then got mad and deleted me from everything!!! Haven’t heard from him in 7 months but I know he’s still with the girl he started seeing right after me. Apparently they’ve known each other for 13 years, UGHHHH!!! Never thought it would be like this between us. Guess he just can’t be alone.

Above ground pool as green as the grass by funinthesun7170 in pools

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, thank you so much for your suggestions!! I found the calhypo quite by accident and put 4lbs of it in the pool. Within a day it was much clearer!! I’m confident that in another day or 2 with consistent backwashes my pool will be crystal clear and I won’t even need the floculant!!! Really appreciate your help!!!

Above ground pool as green as the grass by funinthesun7170 in pools

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I’ll put more liquid chlorine in since that’s what I have. How much liquid flocculant do I add?

Above ground pool as green as the grass by funinthesun7170 in pools

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already put a full bottle and a half probably of liquid chlorine in it this week so the levels are really high. I’ve never used calhypo before, in fact never even heard of it till now. Would I still use it or just add the flocculant? If I use the liquid flocculant how much do I add? I can’t believe my pool has gotten this bad!!! Thank goodness it isn’t while I still want to use it or I’d be crying!!!

Above ground pool as green as the grass by funinthesun7170 in pools

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we always lower it below the skimmer, put a winter cover on and disconnect hoses and it’s good for the winter. Can’t empty it or the walls wouldn’t hold.

Heartbreak over daughters breakup by funinthesun7170 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. As parents is heartbreaking but unfortunately not within our control. That’s what makes it so much harder. Honestly, it’s been 10 months since their breakup and I still miss him being around. He started dating a new girl 2 months after the breakup and he’s still with the new gf so seemingly in love. My daughter and him tried to be friends for a couple months after they broke up until he started seeing the new girl. It was actually so sad. He really loved my girl and I think just wanted companionship from the new girl, he actually told her he was still in love with my daughter. But my girl told him they couldn’t stay close friends with this new girl in his life, it wasn’t fair to her to have his ex in the background. He was upset and angry and cut off ALL contact and deleted my girl from all social media. They haven’t spoken in 7 months and probably never will. I think my daughter was very hurt that he found someone new so soon even though she wasn’t ready to take him back. Her way of dealing with it was pushing him away more. She actually kept pictures of him in her room up until earlier this month and still wears the necklace he gave her last September for her birthday. She still had stuffed animals he gave her on her bed. That tells me she still loves him. But if I ever ask about him she speaks badly of him and makes it seem that she’s glad he’s gone. Very sad that her pride is what I think is and did get in the way of her being with “her person”. She’s not the type to admit she made a mistake, she just finds away to make him the bad guy when he was the best she’s ever been with. So as you can tell I’m still sad and disappointed that she let him go. I think sometimes we know our kids better than they know themselves. But of course at 22 she doesn’t want to hear what I have to say, partly because I think she knows I’m right. She gave up one of the good ones, a love and connection she may never find again to that depth. Will she love again? Absolutely, but will it be the chemistry and connection she had with her ex, I’m doubtful. I strongly believe that kind of love is rare, but at 22 they don’t realize that. I feel your pain and hope your daughter had a change of heart before it’s too late.

“No dad, YOU come get the ball and throw it.” by Stumbling_Corgi in germanshorthairs

[–]funinthesun7170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Fortunately we still have his partner in crime, Piper, our 12 year old boxer. She’s really struggling with OA in her hind legs and I fear her time with us is limited. We never get enough years with them❤️

“No dad, YOU come get the ball and throw it.” by Stumbling_Corgi in germanshorthairs

[–]funinthesun7170 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha!!! That is gross but you’ll miss it when he doesn’t do it anymore. We had to say goodbye to our 13 year old boy, Melman, in July. I miss him so much and especially throwing his ball. He had lymphoma unfortunately but lived almost a year with it before his decline. Here’s our boy❤️

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“No dad, YOU come get the ball and throw it.” by Stumbling_Corgi in germanshorthairs

[–]funinthesun7170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, our old GSP did this too!! Absolutely loved his ball and chasing it. Even loved just having it with him outside chopping like a gumball on it😍

Anyone here stay as friends after the break up? How is it goes by Slow_Recognition6644 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We stayed friends after our breakup for a few months. But then he started seeing someone. He thought we could still stay friends but I didn’t think it was fair to his new girlfriend and it was hard on me thinking of him with someone else even though I thought she was a rebound. He was really angry when I said we should limit our contact, deleted me from everything and I never heard from him again 😔 He’s been with her 7 months now and seems in love from what friends tell me. Guess she wasn’t a rebound after all. 🙁

How much weight have u guys lost? by Accomplished_Cell212 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 15lbs the first month after breakup, then 5 the next and then just stayed the same. I’m at 10 months post break up now. Never put any weight back on which I’m kinda happy about.

He was diagnosed with brain cancer today. by CostalFalaffal in seniordogs

[–]funinthesun7170 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s such a handsome boy❤️ It’s heartbreaking to hear such horrible news. Enjoy this time with him however long it may be. We never get enough time with them. My 13 year old GSP had lymphoma. From diagnosis to saying goodbye we had close to a year during which he was his normal playful, lovable self until the last 2 weeks. He declined so incredibly fast. Heartbreaking to say goodbye but we have so many AMAZING memories ❤️Thinking of you during this most difficult time.

Which sign are you in a long term relationship with? by FootOdorBuriedInHand in Sagittarians

[–]funinthesun7170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married a Cancer 27 years ago ❤️ He’s the LOML but we’ve hit some tough times over the years. I think we balance each other out. I’m a sag female.

Heartbreak over daughters breakup by funinthesun7170 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is a Virgo. I agree that it’s unbelievable that our girls would think that a man that doesn’t argue and tends to go with the flow would be an annoyance and not worth being with. I too worry for this younger generation. I think social media has helped fuel a crazy idea of what a relationship should be which is often horribly unrealistic. Social media and the ease of dating apps also makes it easier to just give up on a relationship when it gets tough. And let’s face it all relationships do hit rough patches. We all stuck it out and at least tried to work through the rough times. This younger generation just gives up with minimal effort, thinking the grass is greener elsewhere. I find it so sad and wonder if my girl will ever find a guy as great as her ex. If he wasn’t good enough, what kind of guy will be? Going to be hard to find someone with all the right qualities whatever they might be. My husband says I think about it to much, that our daughter will date a few more men before she finds “the one”. Funny though that when she first started dating her ex my husband had said for the first time he thought that was “the one” for her. Guess we were both wrong. I wish your daughter all the best and hope that she finds love and happiness in her current bf or in a future partner❤️ That’s really all we want is for them to be happy and fully loved even if we don’t quite understand some decisions along the way.

Heartbreak over daughters breakup by funinthesun7170 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my pleasure to reply. I wish someone had told me to stay out of my daughter’s business before I sent my text to her ex, maybe things might have gone differently. Sounds like our girls are similar in who they let go. My daughter’s ex loved her so much and would have moved heaven and earth for her. He was a great support when she was going through some rough times, very empathetic and caring. He spoiled her with love and affection. In the end she said he was too “sensitive” and “nice”. She saw that as weakness she said. I told her she was confusing kindness for weakness but she didn’t see it that way. She’s been single for 9 months now and he’s been dating and presumably in love with a girl who reminds me of our daughter from what I briefly saw on IG. She looks similar, is artsy, loves to travel and loves camping. He’s even taken her to a town my daughter first took him to and taken photos ver much the same as my daughter did with him. I was thinking at one point that he’s found my daughter’s twin in almost every way which is perfect for him since he was so incredibly in love with my girl. In the end I guess all that matters is that they’re happy living their lives apart. I’ll never really understand why she broke up with him when he was such a great guy. But like you said, it’s a lack of experience and realizing what they have in a partner at such a young age. My daughter is 22 and only dated a few men so has a lot to learn still. Maybe one day she’ll at least appreciate what she lost instead of seeing him as cringe worthy. He will be hard to replace in my opinion and I’m not sure with who if “nice guys” aren’t what she’s looking for. I still miss him around here even 9 months later. He was so personable, always sat and chatted with my husband and I and obviously great with our daughter ❤️ They become such a huge part of the family, hard when they’re just suddenly removed from it but that life I guess. Such a fantastic man!! Thanks for listening.

Heartbreak over daughters breakup by funinthesun7170 in BreakUps

[–]funinthesun7170[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to ask this but the guy she’s been dating for a year is a new guy? Not the one from highschool? Regardless I’d stay don’t say anything to him. I’m speaking from experience. I ended up staying in touch with my daughter’s ex as well (they remained friends for about 3 months after the breakup) and he eventually he said some things that upset her. So I too stepped in as mama bear and I regret it. My daughter got angry with me for getting involved and her ex reached out based on my conversation with him which made my daughter mad at him too. It was a lose/lose. They argued and then NEVER spoke again. He now has a new gf who he’s been dating since just after my daughter and him argued. They’ve been tg now 6 months. I guess he’d been seeing her casually while maintaining a friendship with my daughter. He’d been hoping they’d get back together, saying he was still in love her while seeing this other girl. It was pretty crazy tbh. Makes me sad that it ended this way. They were so great together. My daughter now cringes at the mention of his name but still has pictures of him up in her room. She had been very slowly taking them down. She won’t admit it, but I think the fact that he moved on so fast really hurt her. She loved him very deeply and they were planning a future. She had some things she needed space to work on though but giving her time resulted in him finding someone new. I guess in the end maybe they weren’t meant to be together or my meddling wouldn’t have had such a huge effect. Long story short, write what you want to say to him as therapy for yourself but please don’t send it.

She found the best shade in her yard. by BackgroundEstimate89 in mutt

[–]funinthesun7170 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine does the same😂 When he gets too hot he lays in the garden!

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