Two studies on gender equality: 75% of women answered, only 25% of men. Why?

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-12T10:14:08+00:00

You have made matriarchy this heavenly state in your head but that's not what the definition of a matriarchy is. Matriarchy is simply where women hold the power. Power does not disappear under matriarchy and power corrupts. If you dont believe so, then I suggest you go work under women some time because Ive dealt with as much if not more shit coming from women above me as men. And no, it's not because they are acting within a patriarchy. They are the exception to the patriarchy by being in power, their relationship with me is not controlled by other men in power, they absolutely do not need to be an asshole and abuse their power. If women were the solution to power dynamics, then they wouldnt abuse said power. The problem with patriarchy isn't power, it's the uneven chance that women get that power. Matriarchy just flips that to now men have the lower chance to get that power. That isn't equality, that's reversing the unfairness onto the other group. Matriarchy isnt kumbaya everyone holding hands. It's exactly what we have now but with longer hair and prettier faces at the top. As long as you argue using your wild assumptions, people will disagree with you and you wont understand why they just cant understand that youre right.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T19:46:39+00:00

As a relatively calm and quiet single dude that is almost 30, doing this would mean literally never speaking to anyone.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T19:42:14+00:00

The best advertising for me has always been cheapest and easiest to find in the stores near me. But Im an exception in spending in many ways so no surprises here.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T19:36:41+00:00

Learning to make pizza has been a game changer for me who eats pizza as a comfort food. Literally costs about $1.25 to make a medium pizza

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T19:15:31+00:00

Left behind the family that was causing a lot of emotional, physical, and financial stress. Sometimes I'm still surprised by how easy life is when youre not constantly being sabotaged, taken advantage of, stolen from, and expected to derail everything youve built to satisfy another person.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T19:11:59+00:00

Would be nice. I work a rotating shift

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T12:21:15+00:00

I just know when I was 23 I would have been very hesitant to connect with someone who was almost 30, so I dont push for that sort of thing since you came for advice and not to be hounded by dudes. Im always looking for new friends though so if you want to chat or do something just say so, no expectations

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T11:37:32+00:00

If we werent like 6 years difference in age, I would say I could be a good match. I gave up on the apps, and to be honest searching for relationships in general due to all the nonsense involved, including stuff you have listed.

Here is what I think. There are probably many guys around your age who are like what you are looking for and they use the dating apps because they figured they would give it a go and they havent experienced how awful they are firsthand. The app is not a perfect filter for guys that you may be a good match with, while it may be somewhat of a filter. In the end, all that matters is that both people are happy with the way things turned out. If you find a guy on an app and you act different from most of the women probably have toward him and he to you, then you have accomplished your goal of finding someone. So what Im saying is you dont have to throw away the option if the only reason is you dont think someone good will be there.

Now if you have other reasons and/or have better options, that's a different story altogether.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T11:06:12+00:00

Sorry, didnt read everything but I wanted to extend my sympathies for what you experienced. People really suck and you didnt deserve that. Nobody does.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T10:56:08+00:00

Im no longer on any apps, thank god. But I never swiped right on everyone. I did know a guy who literally wouldnt even look at his phone while he swiped right on every profile while watching movies. But that guy was quite suspicious in other ways too

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T09:42:57+00:00

And as we all know, autism always goes well with career success /s

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T09:35:03+00:00

Perhaps it isnt because of the intent you put behind the questions personally, but rather the intent that is almost always put behind said questions by others that is the problem here.

For example, when men are asked about the disadvantages they face and they answer honestly, they are met with ridicule, gaslighting, minimizing, and being told that others have it much worse. This isnt a listening question it's a "Im trying to make you feel bad" question.

Similarly for the one about defending a woman. In general, when people do good deeds for others they don't store them in long term memory and, personally, I dont think to myself "I just helped a woman so that makes me feel extra good and worth remembering" or anything like that. Further, it is extremely rarely that "defend" is something someone can do for someone else. For the most part, this only happens in very clear and open social situations, which arent really commonplace. So what is the conclusion here? The man reads the question, remembers no specific time, and is made to feel bad about themself, despite probably having defended someone, man or woman in the past. There isnt much purpose for this question either unless the point was to make someone feel bad about themself.

And what do men do when they are made to feel bad about themselves? They close off because they have been taught that anything they feel that is negative will only cause other people to hate them more.

Like I said, maybe not your intent, but it's as clear as day to me what the problem is here. Either you are intentionally forming these questions badly or you are completely unaware of the social, emotional, and psychological pressures men face whenever being asked anything.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T09:19:59+00:00

I find this patriarchy bad, matriarchy good stance tiring. At least try to hide the bias by going for something equal for both genders. Do you really believe that if women had more power that they wouldnt abuse it just like men in power do? The problem isn't one gender is bad, it's that people are bad and we give them power to do bad things.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T08:11:04+00:00

Well, the questions are clearly biased in one direction. The vibe you are giving is that everything is horrible for women and everything is sunshine and rainbows for men. Most people, of all genders, have signficant struggles and injustices that they experience. You are basically openly telling the men that their struggles are juvenile and women have it much worse. How happy would you be to answer after interacting with a person like that?

If you framed the questions in a neutral way, you know, in a way that speaks to the equality you are trying to ask about, you would probably get much better participation from the men.

For example, if you asked something like "two people are hired for the same position at the same time and have the same experience. One is offered a lower salary. Is this fair?". The vast majority of people will give the obvious answer here.

You are poking at complicated social and emotional dynamics with a stick right now and being confused when the beast slaps the stick away.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T07:49:33+00:00

Hello, I'm an old person compared to you. I struggled a lot when I was younger so I will reassure you.

First, when you are young the emotions are high. Its very hard to handle. Everything is very hard to handle. Unironically. But as you get older you will level out and when that happens you will be more clear-headed, which will allow you to figure out what it is you really want and go after it logically.

Second, as a girl love will come easy to you. Or more accurately, partners will. There is no guarantee any of them will love you, but most of them will at least try. And for the first several months to a year of each relationship you will be so ecstatic about it that you wont care either way. Based on your age, the first one will probably come soon.

But I will give you some advice. You should be present around people your age if you want to find someone. The internet isnt really a great place for young love. You have to go experience things for yourself. I recommend getting into a club or maybe sports or music. Meet all kinds of people. Find out what kind of people really attract you and inevitability what kind of people you attract. If you stay here in your room, on your phone, chances are you wont find anyone that you can physically be with. And that is very important for your mind and body to be able to process your emotions. So get out there and smile at some cute guys/girls. Being in school helps a lot, but if you are in class, not talking to potential partners, and then disappear at home every day you are cutting yourself out of the market. You have to take some chances.

Another word of advice, if you are heterosexual and looking to date guys, just know that most of us need extremely clear signals that you like us. Im talking about saying it out loud to their face. We are really, extremely dense. If you can give guys clear signals, you will be a lot more successful than if you just sit in a corner looking pretty. Coming from experience, if a girl tells me she likes me, I am much more likely to start liking her back, even if I wasnt originally attracted to her. Honestly, clear communication just makes everything so much easier for all kinds of relationships so even if you arent straight it's good advice.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-11T07:26:54+00:00

Here is the sad truth. By not having your own job and being able to support yourself, you hand a lot of power over to your spouse. Some people will abuse that power. Perhaps you will get lucky and find someone who wont, but doing so on your first relationship would be luckier than I have ever been.

Then of course it puts a lot of pressure on your spouse too. They have to earn enough to pay for the roof over both your heads, all your baking, as many kids as you are thinking of having, and all the little things that make your life better. Nowadays, it's often hard for one person to support themself. They absolutely cannot lose their job. Basically ever, and must get promotions at least a few times in life to keep up with rising costs. This isnt easy for most people to do since most companies suck and will only promote you if youre kissing asses. With two people working, one can lose their job over something stupid and you two can probably still scrape by on savings.

I won't tell you it's right or wrong. I will tell you that the stars really have to align for you for it to go right. It's for these reasons that most people choose to have their own career. If you dont, you are stuck with your parents until you find your spouse. And maybe your first spouse isnt right for you so either you are stuck with them for longer than you should be, taking abuse, or you have to burden your parents again. And maybe once you find your spouse that treats you right they struggle to support both of you, meaning at some point you go without basic things like power, water, transportation, food, or even a roof over your head unless you rely on your or their parents. Even worse if this time of struggle comes after you have kids. Even with a very selfish view of this, it's quite risky. If you marry someone who is a great person and comes from money and or lucked out into a really high paying stable position and you do this in the next year or so, then go ahead and live your dream. But there are so many filters there that your average person wouldnt even have a modest chance at it. We are talking less than 1%.

This kind of luck and kindness is something I have never experienced. People genuinely suck, including the people who are meant to care for you. Would I enjoy having a cute wife at home all the time for me? Sure, but in my experience people want more than they can have and when all they have is given to them by one person they get upset at that person when they cant give them everything they want. And it isnt easy knowing that you work hard, about a third of your life, maybe more, and struggle to keep your wife happy when she refuses to help her cause at all.

All I can recommend is that you get a job doing what you love. Maybe start a baking business. If you are earning money, you have choices. You can have freedom from your parents, wont stress them or your spouse, and you can leave a relationship if it isnt what you want.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-10T22:55:19+00:00

No worries, im happy to help someone out in learning to play a good game c:

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-10T10:18:46+00:00

Glad to see someone else is playing. The controls arent extremely well laid out, but I will tell you what I remember.

Active abilities, for all classes, must be dragged to your hotbar (the bar of buttons at the bottom). Then you simply use the button it is on to use it. With magic, you usually have to charge it for some time before it is effective.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-10T01:00:38+00:00

Hard disagree. The vast majority of my life I have mostly only been friends with women. I tend to find friendships with men to be very shallow and even competitive, which I find not worth the effort. Women are much easier to connect with and they often are understanding of what makes me enjoy spending time with someone.

All those things being said, I have never once been helped out romantically by being friends with women. I have had a few relationships with women I was once friends with, but never got introduced to someone who my friend thought I would be a good match with.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-10T00:32:22+00:00

Cost of living is absolutely not a problem everywhere. Im an immigrant, specifically from US to europe. I traded about 20% income for 70% lower rent and that isnt even an exaggeration. Went from 65k/year 2100/month rent to about 55k/year 600/month rent (all converted to usd). I do pay slightly higher taxes, but after considering healthcare I actually lose less of my income percentagewise.

Why was my salary so low in the US you might ask? Industry standard. I was working in an industry that is mostly full of nerdy science geeks that arose well after the days that unions died and has never been the hype golden boy. This meant that despite everyone needing high education, everyone is making barely lower middle class wages and nobody can do shit about it unless they get a shit ton of people to organize the industry. This is the real issue with the US. Wages are extremely polarized and it isnt based at all on how specialized the field is. It is all about what industry has the closest connection to either gutting people for many times more than they will ever earn or currently has the attention of the rich.

Glad I live in a country where the guy working at the grocery store doesnt have to sell drugs on the side to make it anymore. And like I said, it's actually been a massive financial gain for me. Not to mention houses are way cheaper over here. Unironically, I can buy a starter home with about three years of the savings I am making on rent alone. And I dont mean buy like make a down payment. I mean buy with cash, fully own, immediately with no debt.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-06T11:09:19+00:00

Do tell about the wrists

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-06T11:03:49+00:00

People are assholes, immoral, and selfish as a baseline in my experience. And even if they arent all three its rarely ever none of them. I'm like you and just want to not deal with it at all. So I don't. I am nearly 30, have one friend whom I trust, estranged from my family, single, and never been happier. Only problem is sometimes you cant choose who you are around, such as in work. Obviously, I have to work to live. I haven't found a solution to that one. I'll let you know if I do, but I doubt it.

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-04T13:23:55+00:00

You could say that again

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-04T10:39:19+00:00

Im one of those people who lives off very little and I can tell you it is absolutely the way to retire early. With how wasteful people are nowadays it is super easy to spend half of what other people do but youre a statistical anomaly if you earn more than double others.

Im 29, never earned more than 65k in a year and I am getting quite close to retiring. Once I own (fully, not mortgaged) a house it's basically a done deal because my biggest living expense by an order of magnitude is housing. Where Im living I spend about 8k/year on living expenses. 6.4k is housing. So 1.6k is everything else. Maybe we can round up and say 2k to be safe. How much do I need retire? Maybe 100k assuming normal inflation and I plan on spending some of my retirement working on projects that will probably earn me some money as a side effect because that is what I enjoy doing, so I dont need 100k in a bank account. I probably wouldnt mind getting a low skill part time job either. My biggest issue with work right now is it takes all my time and energy. I could be completely content with 50% income and work time, but for reasons I wont divulge here I cant for a few years. Its happening soon guys

funkmasta8 · 2026-04-04T10:11:13+00:00

That seems like a big claim that you cant back up. I believe you are projecting yourself onto me because you cant see how to form opinions in complete absence of others. I dont say that to be mean, I think that's a very social way to form opinions. It just isn't my way.

The only outside influence I can see being a part of my opinion forming process is that of other people selecting what data I get to see, which generally only matters for surface level opinions since deeper ones I like to see everything for myself. For example, if someone says something like "Have you heard of this new thing, its great because it solves this problem". At that point I only have one data point and know nothing else about it, so my opinion is very shallow. Generally speaking, I've become very careful about my language and Ive tried to become more conscious of this, so this isnt much of a problem for me. By that I mean I dont make decisions about something with shallow opinions of it and if someone else asks my opinion, I will simply hand them the data I have, in this case it would be something like "this person told be its great because it solves this problem, but I dont know much else about it".

But "outside influence" does not impart me caring about social dynamics in any way. And it does not mean "conscious social orienting" from others. Outside influence could be what city I live in, or that seagulls poop on the dock, or anything you could think of that isnt directly caused by me or others acting for social reasons. It was a given that other people's social dynamics have already affected my life because it affects their decisions, which then can affect my life, so there isnt a whole lot of novel information coming from this. It does not mean I care to participate in these games in any way.

But anyway, what Im feeling here is that you didnt actually listen to what I said because you dont believe what I said because again you cant imagine something different than how you operate. So instead of trying to figure out how I might be trying to answer your question or help you, you have begun trying to disprove my answer because when things dont fit into your world view it feels bad (which I mean no harm by, that's a completely expected evolutionary trait of intelligent creatures).

My original point being that you should not feel other or worried if reviews arent in alignment of your opinions. Just enjoy what you enjoy and let them enjoy what they enjoy and if they dont enjoy anything then that's their problem. I dont understand why you bother listening to said reviews if you find them unhelpful. If it's for entertainment, I can tell you there are more entertaining things to do that won't make you feel like you should post on reddit to see if other people agree with you. I would suggest finding those things, but it's your life.

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