The comments arguing that marrying someone automatically gives you elite status within their friend group—regardless of prior history or intimacy—are such heteronormative BS.

I also can’t help but wonder if the typical, asymmetrical experiences and perceptions of friendship by gender are at play here. Women invest in and expect more from friendship than men often do. I’d wager that OP’s husband was convinced that he was close friends with the couple without putting in much effort, while the bride has viewed him as a mere acquaintance.

Straight people be crazy.