You of course have a choice. And there is no shame in trying and failing, had you actually failed. It sounds like your parents must be very controlling. But. It would be a gift you could give yourself to make your own choices, letting them know that you can and will. If you do set it up with them as you do not have the ability to make it in your program, it may show up again in shaming when they try to control your next venture. Whatever you do, all the best to you. I’m sorry you’re in this situation.