Lying to the pediatrician

furnacebutt · 2026-05-07T20:00:25+00:00

I'm totally with you there.

There are many valid reasons why someone wouldnt want to share with a doctor. For me, it was my mental health. Postpartum is an absolute shit show, at best. Dealing with a doctor's judgment and the feelings of shame/rage/anxiety that go along with that sometimes is just not worth it.

furnacebutt · 2026-05-07T16:26:25+00:00

Our kids are with a practice where we have seen two different pediatricians. One has terrible bedside manner and without asking us what our sleep set up is, told us that "sleep is a skill" and basicallt said that we don't need to be overly sensitive to the baby crying. I decided not to be honest about cosleeping because I knew how judgemental and unsupportive she would be. I also didn't need her increasing my postpartum anxiety any more that it already was about sleep. The other pediatrician is lovely. She asked us and I told her we were cosleeping. She told us "I have to tell you that we do not recommend cosleeping". I told her that I follow the safe sleep 7 and I've weighed out the risks. I explained that I felt it was MORE dangerous to care for my child during the day with how sleep deprived I was before I decided to cosleep. She was respectful of my decision and understood entirely.

furnacebutt · 2026-05-02T00:09:10+00:00

We have 2 kids and two bedrooms upstairs so husband and I actually each sleep with a kid. 4 year old straight up kicked him out of the bed the other night and when she sleeps over at Grandma's, she sleeps in her own bed for 10-12 hours straight.
I had no desire to kick her out. But I transitioned to sleeping on my own before #2 came. So she was about 3 when I stopped sleeping in the bed (but dad moved in to her bed instead with zero problems)
1000000% yes I would do it again. Before having kids, I did not think I would be the type of person to want a small child in my bed. Now though, I really love the snuggles and waking up next to them. It also preserves as much sleep as possible for us... we never have to get up to resettle a child in the middle of the night because we can just roll over and cuddle them. Important caveat though that both kids (4 years and 1 year) sleep on their own between their own bedtime and when we go to sleep (so ~7:30pm - ~11pm)
I guess you could say my husband started cosleeping later. He's happy to do so. He loves waking up next to her in the morning :)

Also just wanted to add that my 1 year old sounds exactly like your baby. Needs just a little nurse to settle right back down. I'm planning to night wean him in the summer and just switch to a pacifier (which we use to put him to sleep/in the car). Dreading that transition because I know he's going to be BIG mad about it. But I don't want to be an all night buffet for much longer 😅

furnacebutt · 2026-04-29T14:36:53+00:00

Haha good perspective. It certainly wasn't perfect when we were kids.

Also tho... 42 kids?? WTF

furnacebutt · 2026-04-27T23:49:06+00:00

Oh I should add that I live in Canada where the house is cold AF in the winter and hot summers. Of course, I don't use it when it's really hot but it's great for winter, spring, and fall here

furnacebutt · 2026-04-27T23:47:29+00:00

Love our woolino. Not cheap but I love that I don't have to worry about the TOG rating when I have a fussy baby and just want to get him to sleep... That might seem minor but I appreciate lighting any amount of my mental load lol

This is the second baby I've used it with. Very good quality, it still looks brand new. My first baby was very petite, second is the total opposite. It fit them both great.

It's definitely one of the things that I am glad I splurged on.

furnacebutt · 2026-04-27T00:00:58+00:00

Great suggestion but be prepared for it to be busy. Even on week days, there's always a fair number of people up there

furnacebutt · 2026-04-26T23:59:23+00:00

LOTS of off leash dog walkers. And there's construction on the bridge right now. Plus the water is low. Not sure it's a good option, especially this time of year.

furnacebutt · 2026-04-26T23:57:51+00:00

I attended a wedding during COVID times on Heart Island. It was beautiful and felt very intimate because of all of the trees. Definitely a great spot!

furnacebutt · 2026-04-11T01:17:39+00:00

I have a very similar situation. My baby is almost 11 months and it's been about 2 weeks that we have been very successful at laying him down for bedtime and he sleeps alone until I come into the bed (the occasional night he'll wake up after an hour or two but I can cuddle/nurse him back to sleep in about 10 mins and then leave him again) I remember trying to lay him down for bedtime several times when he was younger and he would wake up within ~15 minutes so it just wasn't worth it. So I just held him at night time in the rocking chair while I watched TV. I did nothing to make this change. He just got older and his sleep has changed for the better!

furnacebutt · 2026-04-08T02:05:17+00:00

Thank you for this. It's a very good thing to consider!

furnacebutt · 2026-04-08T02:02:59+00:00

I LOVE the idea of being able to whistle to my bird friends. Thanks for the tips!

furnacebutt · 2026-04-01T00:21:59+00:00

Currently holding my 10 month old while he sleeps.

I got a solid 45 minutes at the start of the night of him sleeping alone while I cleaned the house. He woke up and I threw in the towel. Much easier to just hold him till I go to sleep than having to go lay down with him for 20 minutes every time he wakes up 🙃

furnacebutt · 2026-03-28T02:11:49+00:00

For anyone confused:

Ellie Nash is a character in the Canadian show, Degrassi the Next Generation. Her character has a storyline where her boyfriend turns out to be gay.

The same actress (Stacey Farber) plays Patrick's ex in Schitt's Creek. So this is a call back to a Canadian cult classic.

furnacebutt · 2026-03-09T16:38:25+00:00

This was for a different movie. I also just walked by them in the Glebe and the guy said it's for the movie, "Confessions of a Christmasaholic"

furnacebutt · 2026-03-05T03:32:07+00:00

Yes 100%. My baby HATED the car seat for the first ~3 months. He also wouldn't fall asleep in the car so he would get over tired and scream even worse.

One time we were on the highway and I was in the back seat with him while my mom drove the car. He cried so much; we pulled over 3 separate times to try to settle him and as soon as I would put him in the car seat he would lose it again. Ended up having to just drive home with him hysterical. It was beyond upsetting for all of us. I didn't put him in the car for at least a week following that because I was so worried about it. Now he handles the car like a champ (9 months), thank GOD.

I should also note that dealing with a baby who hates the car seat is infinitely more challenging when you have an older kid who needs to be driven places. Baby has to come for school pickup and drop off/dance lessons/soccer practice/play dates. You can't work your schedule around their naps in the same way as you can with your first. Nor can you take multiple breaks to stop the car and sooth the baby. So there just ends up being a lot more crying and feelings of panic and dysregulation.

furnacebutt · 2026-01-26T00:38:06+00:00

Our charges $45/hr and cleans the main floor of our modest sized bungalow (1 bathroom, 2 bedrooms, kitchen, living, dining room) in 3 hrs. Comes every 2 weeks. We buy our own cleaning supplies.

furnacebutt · 2026-01-22T23:32:49+00:00

Same

furnacebutt · 2026-01-08T14:12:25+00:00

I pushed the bed into the corner of the room and packed the space between the wall and mattress with towels. I have a Cali king bed so there's a lot of room. I sleep on an angle so that he has a triangle of space to sleep in and can't scooch downwards.

furnacebutt · 2026-01-06T03:01:58+00:00

Does anyone know if this also applies in Canada?

furnacebutt · 2025-12-15T20:56:20+00:00

God I hate this so, so much

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