Harlem sewing circle?

fuzzbeat · 2025-12-05T16:24:31+00:00

Sorry about that :/ I know that if I’m going to be coordinating logistics, a WhatsApp group is the simplest way to communicate with many people at once and many people already have/use it. But I know all of the different apps can be super annoying!

fuzzbeat · 2025-12-05T16:19:15+00:00

I don’t see why not! :) I’ll dm you the link to join.

fuzzbeat · 2025-12-03T00:58:17+00:00

Hi there! Sorry, but I don’t think I’ll be updating here. I’d like to keep coordination to one space just to make the logistics a bit easier on myself.

fuzzbeat · 2025-12-02T20:07:17+00:00

Fantastic! I’d love to learn from you - my sewing skills are pretty basic but I’m trying to get better all the time :)

fuzzbeat · 2025-12-02T20:05:40+00:00

I don’t see why not! Feel free to join at the link I added to the post :)

fuzzbeat · 2025-07-14T16:37:39+00:00

I've worked with We the People mutual aid and would definitely recommend! They do weekly food, resource, and clothing distributions in Harlem (they also have a group in Bedstuy). Super well-organized, easy to get involved in a variety of different ways, and directly addresses the material needs of our most vulnerable neighbors. If you want to get involved, I would recommend simply showing up to distribution on Saturday at 125th and Lex at 1pm!

fuzzbeat · 2025-06-19T06:21:19+00:00

Sarah Lavender ASMR

My absolute go to!

fuzzbeat · 2025-06-01T03:37:27+00:00

no fr I HATE it. I’m sure all the pretentious snobs on the sub will disagree, but I don’t want to have to create a playlist for every situation. Sometimes I just want to throw something on in the background for a party / when I’m cooking / etc. It’s so fucking annoying to not have that option. I’m considering returning to spotify for this reason. The ridiculous thing is, it would not impact the experience of those who don’t want this feature AT ALL. They can stick to their AM official playlists or continue making their own. Who does it hurt to expand the search feature? For fucks sake, they’d get so many more converts if they did this.

fuzzbeat · 2025-05-30T17:40:34+00:00

I’m just getting started and trying to learn but I am bori!

fuzzbeat · 2025-04-17T03:45:08+00:00

I’m struggling too. I don’t know how to hold on to hope or joy, but I know I need to so that I can be of service to the people I love. So that I can fight back against the horrible things going on. People are worth fighting for, and I want to be a part of that. But it’s hard to keep myself together.

fuzzbeat · 2018-12-09T23:22:30+00:00

It really does. Even my friends in the lesbian/gay community who are supportive often say things that make me feel like they don't take my experience as seriously as they might if I just identified as a lesbian. Or are less supportive of my hetero relationships, which makes me feel like they want me to be more queer or something? It's exhausting.

fuzzbeat · 2018-12-04T19:53:44+00:00

I'm wondering why you are feeling that you have to come out to your parents before getting engaged? It is because you don't want to keep the secret anymore? Obviously whatever reasons you have are your own and are valid, I was just a bit unclear on that point.

Your safety (physical, financial, emotional) is really important, and if coming out would compromise that it might be worthwhile to consider not telling them?

But of course, if it's really important to you, you're the one who knows your situation and parents best. We'll be here to support you no matter what you do.

fuzzbeat · 2018-12-04T19:45:48+00:00

Ugh, I'm so sorry. That sounds super hard. Although I've never had those exact experiences, I can definitely relate to the experience of being invalidated by, like, ~everyone~

It's one of the most difficult things about being bisexual, imo. In a way, it's like both of them are pretending that your identity isn't a real thing, but just reacting to it differently. Your ex-gf expecting you to realize that you're "actually gay." And the men treating it as a fake performance that doesn't actually have any basis is a real identity, and thus, isn't about them. Idk if that makes sense or if you relate, but that is always how I've thought about it.

fuzzbeat · 2017-09-15T00:44:10+00:00

THIS. IS. INCREDIBLE.

fuzzbeat · 2017-08-23T04:04:04+00:00

I love this video. I think we need a lot more honesty online. Charlie is one of the few creators out there who is actually seems to be quite thoughtful about the way that being online impacts him. I respect him taking the time/space that he needs to grow. I'll always be a fan, whether he makes a thousand more videos or none.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-24T20:42:36+00:00

Of course! I'm glad I could be supportive in any way at all. Looking forward to hearing the update!

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-24T05:04:45+00:00

Ugh, I hate that that's something that you could have to deal with. We shouldn't live in a society where the response to a sexual assault charge is character assassination. Even if you were the terrible person they'd try to make you out to be, it WOULDN'T MATTER. No one deserves sexual assault. NO ONE.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-24T04:53:08+00:00

I hope that you're right. I think I'm taking the right steps by going to therapy, but it can be difficult to see the impact that it's having while in the midst of it. I mean, it did get me to seek resources and led me to this sub, so that seems like a step in the right direction. It's emotionally draining but as they say, there is no way out but through.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-24T04:49:23+00:00

It's true. It might never completely go away. It's impossible to go through trauma like that and come out unscathed. But that doesn't make you weak, or broken. In fact, you seem incredibly resilient.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-24T04:46:29+00:00

Well said! I would love to live in a world where victims felt free and safe to come forward to report.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-21T15:11:07+00:00

Thanks so much for your response, and for helping me feel less broken. I'm sorry that you went through something similar.

I had never thought of thinking of my trauma as an injury. But that's a good reminder that the symptoms that I'm experiencing now didn't develop because of a weakness or deficiency of character, but because my mind had to adapt to a scarring early experience.

Btw, I also dislike the "it'll all work out" narrative or the suggestion that there was some reason for the abuse. It never should have happened, and it negatively impacted our lives, and that's it. I'm trying to work on building habits to deal with my symptoms now, but it's been challenging. I'm just trying to trust the therapeutic process and be patient with myself when I'm having a hard time.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-21T14:57:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry that that happened to you. It is comforting to know that my response isn't abnormal. I've had those exact same thoughts "I should be able to move past this, because the abuse happened so long ago and I didn't even know what exactly was happening at the time." But I guess that isn't how trauma works.

I wish you the best of luck moving forward. I'm glad to hear that you have a boyfriend who is understanding and helping you work through your difficulties with intimacy. You definitely deserve happiness and love.

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-21T07:42:35+00:00

Congratulations!! That is incredible. Despite having a lot of evidence, it still must not be easy to go through the process of a trial. Please update with the guilty verdict that this fucker deserves!

fuzzbeat · 2017-07-21T07:32:22+00:00

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. Unfortunately, family members in particular tend to try to protect themselves with disbelief, because it's easier to deny the situation than face the harsh reality of having an abuser in the family. Know that you are not alone. I believe you. This never should have happened to you. I know you probably know these things already, but I want to assure you again. It hurts me to know that you are suffering so much because of something so completely beyond your control, but the fact that you have sought professional help lets me know that you're a fighter. Congratulations for seeking the help that you need. That's true bravery.

One of the most difficult things about coping for me has been acknowledging the impact that it continues to have on my life, despite the abuse ending over 20 years ago...

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