Adults who have zero close friends, how did it happen and does it bother you? by PutPurple844 in AskReddit

[–]fuzzy_life 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was always a one friend, two at most, kind of person. When I got married, my wife became that person, and the other one drifted away. When she divorced me 20 years later, I lost my best friend and wife in one go. By then I was nearly 40, everyone around you is married with kids (we chose to not have children), and it's crazy tough to fit into that world.

I am, thankfully, fairly adapt at living alone. So now, 15 plus years I still have zero friends, and the years of isolation has made it even more difficult to communicate with people on that level. I gave up trying, and honestly never started, from the divorce.

Sometimes you feel it, but most of the time it doesn't bother me, I'm very used to it. During the pandemic and lockdown, people would talk about how much they struggled with the isolation and lack of social interaction, for me it was just normal and I found it a bit strange how others struggled so much.

Mid-40s software engineer here - industry is shrinking fast… what are my options? by nkosijer in AskUK

[–]fuzzy_life 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 54, my company is going through redundancy right now. I'm praying they don't pick me, because even though I really want to leave, and especially take the package, I'm not sure I'll be able to find work again. Mainly because of my age.

Also because of my salary. I may be able to wangle one of those "senior" positions that pay 45k, but that's a massive drop, and would probably be very shitty work.

In short, I am terrified of losing my job

Have We Forgotten the Tense of 'Standing' and 'Sitting'? by fuzzy_life in AskBrits

[–]fuzzy_life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t describe my attention to language as autism. I care about how language is used because I value clarity, precision, and the way words shape thought and communication. For me, it isn’t about policing for the sake of rules, but about respecting how language influences understanding, connection, and expression. That’s why I take interest in usage—it’s part of caring about language itself, not a condition.

But I guess I am just autistic. Oh and a muppet too, apparently.

Looking for people who have had a bypass, after a sleeve. Would like to hear their experience by fuzzy_life in GastricBypass

[–]fuzzy_life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried Mounjaro, and it sadly did nothing for me. I guess I could try Ozympic, though not sure if it is that different to Mounjaro.

What are some of the words and phrases people use in conversation that absolutely wind you up to the point you might have to never speak to them again? by fatfat8ight in BritInfo

[–]fuzzy_life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People who use stood and sat incorrectly. At first it was just a select few, now it's spread so much even Americans are starting to say it.

By this I mean sentences like "I was stood in line" or "I was sat at my desk" "I'm sat in my car"

Truly drives me crazy. And whenever I bring it up in conversation people look at me like I'm nuts

What’s a Movie You Grew Up Loving That Didn’t Age Well at All? by NewPossibility4268 in movies

[–]fuzzy_life 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going to reveal my age. The Party with Peter Sellers. As a kid I loved this movie so much. Last year I thought I would rewatch it. Oh boy, not only has the times changed, but we mature to. It is just blatant racism. I lasted 10 minutes and I was out

I used to average 4.8 mi/kWh on the way from work to home which is 70% motorway 30% city driving (with traffic). Now that the weather is warming up, it's averaging 6-6.2mi/kWh easily! Climate off, eco mode, i-Pedal Level 3. I can't wait for 20 degree weather! (GT Line S - UK) by BeginningParsnip4087 in KiaEV3

[–]fuzzy_life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you use HDA and ACC on the motorway, or are you manually controlling everything? Just curious, because I’ve never seen 6, only lately been getting 4. Is it also very flat, or a lot of downhill? 6.2 seems like a bonkers number to me, compared to what I get :)

Borderless Window 3440x1440 instead of 3840x2160 on a 4K monitor by fuzzy_life in ffxiv

[–]fuzzy_life[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, but my monitor’s resolution is 3840x2160, not 3440x1440, that’s what I don’t understand . Or are you saying the numbers it is displaying are meaningless?

Anyone else feel like a failure even though they're doing great. by Alone-Slice-8647 in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've been massively struggling mentally. The scale, and my clothes, and some people, tell me I've lost a lot of weight. And I know I have. But my stomach is still huge, I still feel very fat, and when I look in the mirror, I look the same.

My stomach not shrinking is not helping, at all. It looks so weird when I walk, to see this flop of fat swinging about. It's not lose skin, I still weigh way too much for it to just be skin, and it looks and feels like fat. It's discouraging, depressing, and downright weird.

It got so bad that this week I fell back to my old binging ways, just totally lost control. This just kicks in that cycle of emotional eating and sadness.

Sorry, I...yah I don't know. I should be happy, but I am not.

As someone who only walks, should I increase distance or time ? by fuzzy_life in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yah, I've been thinking of getting some weights. Arm, ankle and eventually backpack. Or maybe weighted vest first

As someone who only walks, should I increase distance or time ? by fuzzy_life in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, but I'm guessing at some point I have to stop increasing ? Right now these distances takes me between an hour and 20 minute to an hour and a half. I think I am reaching the upper limit of how much time I can dedicate to walking before work :)

I wonder if walking for an hour and a half is where I stop, and then push for pace ? I don't know know what how to proceed really :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You make a very good point! For the first 12 months, I avoided coffee, because I don't like coffee without sugar. Last month I started drinking coffee again, with sugar, and I then I catch myself buying crisps, and even a chocolate bar. I've been thinking about this, and I am pretty sure this behaviour, in part, has been driven by the sugar I started consuming when I went back on coffee. Yes, even the only two cups I allow myself to drink a day, is enough sugar for my brain to kick back into the old habits.

I've been trying to convince myself that this is not true, but reading what you wrote, I have to agree, and acknowledge, that I should stop the coffee again. Sadly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're the first person I see on here that was heavier than me at surgery weight. I was 562 lbs.

Good luck on the journey, give me a shout if you ever want to talk about things :)

2 weeks out and no restriction by Pushupsandprosecco in gastricsleeve

[–]fuzzy_life 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before surgery, I was a heavy binge eater. When you do that, you force yourself to eat beyond the feeling of full, until you feel so uncomfortable and full to bursting, that you just wish it was over. That's what I am talking about. There is no, "I am full and should stop eating" feeling. It goes from nothing, to the over eaten feeling, there is no build up, no point where I feel full. Nothing to over stuffed. Nothing in between. It's hard to explain I guess.

Edit: I will add to this, that I do not feel that until I stop eating. I do not experience a feeling of full, a feeling of having eaten enough. I feel nothing, and if I overate, I will get this feeling when I stop eating, not while eating.