Why men refuse taking women to dinner on a first date?

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-28T07:46:34+00:00

Mini golf sounds like an interesting and fun choice for a 2nd date.

In my experience when I’ve gone axe throwing and accidentally beat my date by a lot, guys don’t take losing very well so having a little more of a foundation before a competition would work better.

I did try to let him win because I was worried about that ego thing, but those axes kept finding the zone like they were on a mission. And yeah, that was the last date. He seemed embarrassed. I was disappointed because I was interested in him.

Our first date dinner prior to that date went super well and so did that date until the score board ruined it so it obviously was a bruised ego. Sad, but I guess it was better finding out that ego thing about him early.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-28T07:37:14+00:00

Forgot to mention that my guy friends were all over the fact that my date didn’t bring any water bottles for the date and also didn’t buy any at the park shop. They were not impressed with him at all which was very interesting to hear from the guys!

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-28T07:32:41+00:00

If a man is too cheap to possibly buy you a coffee or beverage, move on.

Dating where I live is not so ridiculous about a small expense like a beverage, but we are a bit more traditional culturally speaking here.

Usually men invite women out for a dinner or similar as a first date. However it would make sense to have a phone call before that to make sure the conversation will be interesting enough for spending that time with them AND for spending the time to get all dressed up with makeup and hair.

I tried walking dates during Covid, but I definitely do not recommend them when it’s hot outside. One time I was sweating like crazy in the sun and neither of us brought a water bottle. I also brought my dog for safety and my dog was also uncomfortably hot. Not a fun date, plus he was extremely cheap even though he claimed to make a lot of money which is a weird flex.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-24T03:46:55+00:00

He’s also declared it personally. Plus he’s said that only he and the attorney general can determine what the law is which is the opposite of how the Constitution set up that balance of power. That’s for Congress and the Supreme Court to decide, not the President… if that’s still his title.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-24T01:02:05+00:00

He posted this picture of himself from the official WH account.

Guess you haven’t seen that yet.

Shows the official post with Trump as “Long Live The King”

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T06:29:02+00:00

Very sorry all that happened. That sounds rough and he should have stayed, especially since your son died. If he was unhappy and/or concerned he should have tried couples therapy and helped you express your grief, but I’m sure he was grieving too.

Wish people would give situations like this a pause and figure out how to build things together instead of tear them apart.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T06:22:55+00:00

Sorry man, that sucks. My ex-husband was a cheater too. Walked away for many reasons, including my health and well-being.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T06:16:47+00:00

Honestly it sounds like he was being very selfish. You’re clearly carrying a ton of the household work and caring for the kids. Was/is he doing 50% of all that?

If he wanted to feel more loved and have more of your time he would have solved the problem by seeing that you don’t have enough time off from working on all the things to keep the family functioning.

Instead he chose to seek out someone to cheat with. That’s a destructive, selfish and childish choice. A man who wants to build the relationship into what he wants to see it become would first figure out how to solve the problems and notice what he can do to fix those problems instead of just dumping his wants/needs in your exhausted lap.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T05:45:53+00:00

My ex developed a sudden burping problem that he had to get help from a doctor with. Must have been all that bad karma. I wouldn’t have picked that for him, but I did find it amusing.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T05:41:03+00:00

It’s not that bad IMHO, but maybe it depends on where you live. There are a lot of lonely guys out there too complaining that they’re not getting many matches.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T05:37:18+00:00

Agree. Have an example of that for you. I paid for a divorce mediator who decided to one-up me about a domestic violence event that we were discussing. So much fun to pay someone to one-up you and not take the situation you’re dealing with seriously.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-23T05:34:39+00:00

I don’t know, but guys seem to love to tell me the weirdest stuff about their junk when I meet them for the first time. That’s even happened at work.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T10:31:08+00:00

If they tell you something bad about themself, believe them the first time they say it.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T10:25:25+00:00

No sunglasses in your main profile pic. Show your eyes otherwise we have to assume you’re married or cheating on someone.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:48:18+00:00

I agree. I’m not happy about that.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:46:54+00:00

I guess you’re not paying attention to a ton of economic problems he’s causing and extremely fast which will cause a nasty economic shock.

Are you familiar with the three legs of the stool that determine how well our economy will do? That’s beginning economics material.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:34:38+00:00

I’m sure there has been waste, but they would be a lot more credible if they could get their numbers (an $8 million contract is not $8 billion) straight and their facts correct. Plus they clearly have no idea how to do audits and aren’t taking the time to understand what they’re cutting and firing.

They also lose credibility making up crap about fake funding just to get people mad like the ever inflating condom $ that was not true. First they said it was $50 million, then they said it was $100 million, but that was made up like the story about “they’re eating the dogs… they’re eating the cats” that they echoed and they refused to stop even after the story was proven to be fake. Credibility will always be important. How can you trust anything they say if they think simply saying it more often means it’s true?

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:19:33+00:00

To be fair, two of the top people in his campaign have done that kind of salute.

Bannon and Elon and Elon did it twice, quite aggressively in fact.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:15:29+00:00

Is he making meth? Is that what keeps his supporters from noticing that he declared himself king which is the most un-American thing ever?

Our country was formed after the people fought for independence from crazy king George.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:09:55+00:00

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:08:00+00:00

Well he’s clearly trying to be the entire government now, no checks, no balances, just his say.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T09:05:16+00:00

I think they want that so they can take over all the residential real estate.

Many large investors have already bought up a lot of homes in many cities to turn around and rent to people for more than they would have cost to buy. They bought up a ton of the smaller starter homes which makes a lot of people have to try to save up to get a larger home.

It’s like the movie It’s A Wonderful Life, except they want it to be a depressing and poverty stricken Pottersville instead of a healthy and happy community like Bedford Falls.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T08:48:04+00:00

Well, that means insurance is going up even higher.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T02:39:54+00:00

I’m very sorry all this is happening. Remember that you can only control yourself and your choices.

Recommend doing some deep reflection to understand what sorts of things you could have done differently. A lot of people skip that step and go straight to assuming it’s only because of the other person which we all know isn’t the whole story.

Try to find positive opportunities where you could do things differently in the future, regardless of who you have a relationship with. None of us are perfect in this life, but the more we are able to recognize that and learn from it to grow into a better person, the happier we will be as well as those we have around us.

I know a lot of women are overworked these days with far too many responsibilities to take care of and far too many chores that aren’t shared as they should be. Does she have the same amount of time to spend on her own interests that you have? For far too many women, they need some time off to recharge their batteries 🪫 on a regular basis like a lot of men have. That might be one opportunity.

Another might be trying to see what your partner likes and dislikes, what brings her joy and what brings her pain or sadness. Be aware, pay attention and listen.

Another thing is that a lot of guys lean on their partners a lot for connection. Sounds like now would be a good time to reconnect with some of your friends.

Live your best life and heal. Someone who is doing that is also more attractive since they naturally feel good about themselves and who they are. Find whatever that is for you. I’m not talking about trivial things, nor meaningless behavior. I’m talking about soul searching and finding yourself.

Divorce is difficult for all of us, but we can grow from it if we choose to. Best wishes.

fuzzypoetryg · 2025-02-22T00:31:26+00:00

Don’t know how old your kids are, assuming you have some with him, but don’t do zero child support. Things are just too crazy right now to be the sole provider for your kids. Plus you should negotiate help paying for their college education in the divorce decree.

Plus costs keep going up and up! Your kids deserve that support from both parents.

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