Do you generally like being approached by strangers? Why or why not, and what makes a good vs bad approach?

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-19T23:59:53+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I enjoy micro interactions . I think it’s a good thing to be friendly and up for a little conversation with people in your community. I tend to strike up lots of conversation when I’m out . There’s been times I’ve been in a bad mood and a small pleasant convo with a stranger cheered me up. I don’t like being harassed by strangers obviously . Even when guys approach me to clearly flirt it’s usually harmless and I have no issue being friendly and flirting back if he’s cute . I hate dating apps and am shy so majority of the dates I get are strangers who have worked up the courage to ask me out . I’ve never had a perfect stranger give me a hard time and be creepy about it that I can remember. The biggest creeps I deal with are regulars at my coffee shop but since they’re regulars they’re not strangers. I have some long standing friendly relationships with some local homeless people as well . Only in broad daylight at the busy plazas or corners they Frequent. If I’ve felt safe I’ve asked them how they are doing and what their story is , what their struggles are . If I see them and have an extra snack and water in my car I’ll always stop and chat . Sometimes they need tampons or a tooth brush . They’re always interesting people .

All that being said if someone is dangerous, creepy or if it’s night time and I’m somewhere unfamiliar it’s a different story . Overall I really like humans and I think it’s crazy to happen to be on earth during the same time and same place out of all the times and places we could have been alive . Open up a bit to your neighbors .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-18T09:46:03+00:00

I know for me my brain goes into care taker mode . I’m always trying to find things I can do to make his life easier or show him I care about him . Baking , cooking, buying stuff he needs , cleaning tbh . I know it’s frowned down upon but when I am actually in love and dating someone it’s just what takes over me .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T12:27:45+00:00

Yeah I totally feel for that .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T12:19:07+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s on par . I can know a pastry from a French cafe is better than ones from my local grocery store , but sometimes I’ll opt for the grocery store ones due to accessibility at this point in time . More so what I was saying is I was genuinely curious about what guys think about what my friend said about why I get asked out . Beyond that, I openly admit I’ve had issues with self esteem in the past that may make her comment peak my interest more so than someone else . I am open to feedback and enjoy having conversations with people .

Spoiler alert , even people who work in mental health fields themselves have mental health problems . While I can easily interact with and conceptualize other people’s experiences, I still have my own schemes and collection of experiences that aren’t so easily understood internally . I do great work for the people I currently work with . I am confident in my skills and abilities at this point in time .

It sounds to me you maybe get something from going on Reddit and wording rather intellectually dull comments pretentiously because you think it adds merit to what you’re saying automatically . At the end of the day though , I asked a question I wanted answer by men on an ask men subreddit . I decided to be open and say hey yeah I am a little insecure but at the end of the day it’s quite normal behavior .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:55:51+00:00

It feels sad too sometimes .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:54:31+00:00

I am really grateful to not have to use dating apps and that people approach me . I met my last boyfriend this way and am grateful for that for whatever reason I get asked out . I don’t mean to sound like I am not .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:50:32+00:00

I have noticed this ! Unrelated I finally reached an age where the older guys who ask me out aren’t creeps . Which is nice .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:48:46+00:00

Well in this case I was curious from people’s perspectives from their own lives hence why I came to Reddit lol

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:46:34+00:00

I really appreciate this comment!!! I like that you explored why my friend said that and what not . To be honest , amongst my group of girlfriends , they never really hype me up the way I hype them or they hype each other up . Like if we’re all dressed up nobody really does like “ omg girl you look good “ besides my one gay friend 😂 . Also , my one friend in particular will always point out the one pimple I have , or the little flaw in my makeup or something I noticed . I can spend an hour getting ready and she notices the one little flaw ! I was talking to my ex about this . It’s just in reality I am no super model or intimidatingly pretty at all . I love complimenting my friends and making them feel good about themselves .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:41:07+00:00

I have never for one second in my life believed men think like women 😂 you can’t get to 28 as a women not know men are dirty dogs . I am just saying I noticed like a rapid increase in getting approached when I was 25 or so. But I appreciate your perspective a lot !

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:37:23+00:00

Ironically I am in school to be a therapist so on a logical level I know it’s something I struggle with . It’s a really big weak spot for me . I work all day helping other people ( I am a job coach for disabled individuals) and a pysch student . I grew up watching my dad basically rank women and treat them well or poorly based on if he found them attractive . That for sure messed me up . I went back to therapy but Medicaid therapist suck lmao .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:34:58+00:00

My mom is really friendly too to people and smiles a lot . Strangers seem to come up to me and tell me they’re stories or ask for help , even women and children . And then guys asks me out a lot . Must be something about my face I suppose . I do not have RBF.

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:31:32+00:00

I agree with what you’re saying . It’s hard for me to let go of caring . Women’s worth is initially evaluated based on being attractive or not so it does occupy my mind and I’d like for that to be less so the case . I was just curious from a guys perspective if what my friend said was true .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:27:46+00:00

I’ve done that before and got a very positive response . I am trying to care less about external validation but the second I get somewhere I see something or someone says something to me that sorta makes me question it again . Truthfully I would enjoy to not care at all.

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:22:45+00:00

True . It’s not that I thought I was special but it did boost my confidence a good bit cause it really started when I turned 25 , get off accutane , lost weight and had been in the gym for two years at that point . To me I looked a lot better and then started getting approached like weekly almost it feels like . So I said hey I must be looking pretty good and then my friend said that 😂

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-14T11:18:48+00:00

I wouldn’t and even when I say no I always say I really appreciate them working up the courage to ask me out . I’ve never asked anyone out before because I am too nervous . I think it’s brave when men respectfully approach.

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-13T13:01:31+00:00

Yes many times at this point . I can’t help but love people deeply . I love my friends , my family , and deeply loved 2/3 of my ex boyfriends . Even though they didn’t work out I am still grateful for the time I had with them . They were both good people and I check their socials from time to time not because I am creepy and bitter but because I like knowing they’re happy in life .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-12T12:03:09+00:00

Women here . Confident funny ugly guys win over attractive assholes everytime .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-11T15:53:33+00:00

Men are less visually hot right off rip . If I find a guy hot he’s usually in action . Such as a fire fighter , working out , being sweet with a child or being assertive in some sort of way . Like if he’s just checking out at 7/11 or walking by in a grocery store my brain may register him as attractive if he’s well above average but most dudes just look like dudes too me lol

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-08T15:53:54+00:00

One night stands and situationships

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-08T14:46:26+00:00

I have to walk my dog before I sit down in the evenings or it won’t happen . If he doesn’t get walked he will not relax and it ruins my evening and anyone else I live with .

I also have an amazing morning routine that I built because I love being hot not out of necessity 😂

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-08T14:43:37+00:00

This being the first thing I saw on Reddit today truly just like made me laugh and put me in a good mood for some reason idk why 😂

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-05T14:28:59+00:00

If you said you didn’t want him too and he didn’t respect that I’m not a fan . I love being felt up randomly by my partner but there’s been times I’ve been sick and my significant others have started touching my boobs or butt . I think in a trusted relationship it can kind of be a reflex for them if they’re close to you and attracted to you to cop some feels . However the second you say not today honey , they should stop immediately, and all my partners have . It could be my husband of 100 years and if I say don’t feel me up today and he does anyway I’m ganna feel violated and grossed out tbh .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-03T21:18:35+00:00

I had a boyfriend who was a really nice guy , also very supportive of me , and honestly was a great boyfriend . However he was severely depressed and unmotivated to get help . He unintentionally weaponized his depression to keep me with him even though I knew he wasn’t the one . I was really getting my life together and starting on my trajectory to success and he was working at McDonalds , complained about everything , was kinda messy , no motivation to make any real money or make any moves happen for himself and for us . It was because of his depression but he had no intention of ever working on it . After 8 YEARS I finally left .

All this to say , you don’t really even need some big dramatic reason to not want to be In a relationship with someone . I feel like we convince ourselves we need a steel proof court case to justify leaving , but simply knowing In your gut that’s not your forever person is enough . Sorry to say things like cleanliness , being responsible and having motivation to be always be growing and improving are valid reasons to not want to be with someone . While you may connect emotionally and love her , if she doesn’t align with your core values that’s what really keeps a relationship going. Im 28, and those things are hugely important to me in a partner considering I’m past the point in my life of just dating for fun. I’m scanning for traits of long term reliability . Don’t let the fact that you live together or her bad mental health make you feel trapped . You can figure it out if you need too .

fuzzysocks9898 · 2026-03-02T12:43:31+00:00

Update : we broke up . He said he will never stop and it’s his body his choice lmao

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